"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Making it In Today's World: Is it justifiable?

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Copy & paste it

You can just copy & paste it to a reply in the other thread, mandoremay.

Actually, your post is not so off-topic.

In spite of all I've written here, I actually think a true libertarian system -- in which the only laws relate to violation of other people's rights (including a clean environment) -- would be preferable to a half-assed free-market social democracy. There are a hell of a lot of licensing laws and such (which relate to your plumbing comments mandoremay) that keep people down because they don't have a bloody piece of paper.

The way it is now, people often have no choice but to work for the man for sh1tty wages, not having nearly as many options as they could have, because the laws are written on the assumption they would be incompetent and/or unethical.

For example, I can install an electrical service just as well as any licensed electrician, having done so numerous times (sometimes clandestinely, with secondhand equipment to make it look like a 10 year old installation), but don't have the sheet of paper to do it officially.

Of course, the licensed electrician might gripe about having put in all that work, but the license could still offer more legal protection and recourse against shoddy work for the customer, so they would still derive a benefit from their certification. But if I want a job done and the job's done correctly, I don't care if a trained monkey does it.

Another ironic thing about communist countries is that the leaders of communist countries tend to be among the very richest world leaders. Castro and the Chinese honcho are right up there in the top 5. So much for equality...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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