Making Her Wait?

[DragonBlood]

Quick question for the expects. Can making a girl wait for sex increase your power and attraction in the relationship?


Obviously you still make a move, kiss, go out, maybe even sleep together. Will she become "Ms Nice Girl" and hang around or will she just give up and move on? Girls do this to us the whole time but is it possible to flip the script?



I can think of two instances in my past where I got hints of this reality, one was from a girl I chatted up hard over text before dating. I lost interest and forgot about her, months later she texts me begging for sex out of the blue? woah! Another was a border line stalker HB3... light flirting but never asked out. Constantly looking for excuses to "hang out", love letter on vday, taking my side in arguments while barking my friends down etc again bluntly asking for sex over text.


Ive seen INSTANCES of this accidentally but nothing solid from HB8+, is there some kind of process here to create a "nice girl"? Indifference? Flirting? Compliance? Re-framing?

I know a lot of people here are focused on how to get laid as fast as possible but I think there is definitely something here worth exploring. Ive also only observed this behavior from girls who are rarely in relationships so I feel there is a lot more to add to make desirable women chase and wait to the point they straight up ask. Im concerned you would lose girls this way if you do it wrong by sending the wrong message, but on the other hand it could increase your value through the roof if it took her 5 months to slowly win you over when most guys shes been with are won over in a week.

 

[latinnova]

Hmmm..... I actually do this. I use foreplay as major leverage though. On the first night I will make them so hot and crazy that they are begging for it. I just keep on with what I do and make them ***. Then I am done for the night. When the next sex session rolls around, it's all about you and they will usually do anything you want, at least this has been my experience so far. However, sometimes you just have to go with it because they are so turned on and one is so caught in the moment that it would be crazy not to do what u have to do. Follow that instinct.

 

[GS750]

I typically don't rush it. I know a lot of guys will disagree with me here but if its a quality girl then I have no problem waiting a little while. A girl who isn't going to give it up too easily is a challenge to me, which I like. If she's willing to jump right in the sack then I kind of feel like there's no challenge and I lose interest. That's just me though. To each their own.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

Depends on the girl. If she's all over you I see no reason to delay it, but if she's hot and cold then you should be too, but try not to be obvious about it.

I usually go for sex on the first date but I'm willing to wait up to 3 dates for most girls, and more if I have the impression that she's inexperienced and nervous rather than trying to play me.

If she's willing to jump right in the sack then I kind of feel like there's no challenge and I lose interest

I'm the same way. I know we talk about how women like men who are a challenge and mysterious, but I actually love when a girl is challenging, mysterious and teases me (verbally and sexually, although the last girl I dated overdid the sexual teasing [pretended to kiss me, then pulled away and giggled; she did this about ten times] so I left). I won't deduct points for sleeping with me on the first date though - unless you think she's a sl­ut, first date sex is the best indicator of high interest (well, second, after first date an­al).

 

[Huffman]

Hmmm..... I actually do this. I use foreplay as major leverage though. On the first night I will make them so hot and crazy that they are begging for it. I just keep on with what I do and make them ***. Then I am done for the night. When the next sex session rolls around, it's all about you and they will usually do anything you want, at least this has been my experience so far. However, sometimes you just have to go with it because they are so turned on and one is so caught in the moment that it would be crazy not to do what u have to do. Follow that instinct.

Wow man, how can you fall asleep with that painful erection?