making her chase you forever

[wifehunter]

I'm considering mastery of this skill, and would like to have a replete perspective.

Thoughts, opinion, success stories, anyone???

Here's one:

creating space, makes her chase.

 

[EyeBRollin]

That's all that needs to be said. People chase when they are given the chance to miss you.

 

[wifehunter]

That's all that needs to be said. People chase when they are given the chance to miss you.

So simple

 

[RangerMIke]

First you have to be worth chasing.

Second you have to let her know that you are interested in her, without turning into a drooling dog.

Third you have to keep busy and make yourself scarce, so that she has to work to get your attention.

However, none of this works if you lock onto one women... go after any women you are attracted to. The idea that you can 'target' a woman and use creating space to get her to chase you is foolish. She always knows... and if you want her to believe you are a guy with options... you actually have to have options. Date lots of women and spend more time with the ones that put forth effort towards you. That is all.

 

[wifehunter]

First you have to be worth chasing.

Second you have to let her know that you are interested in her, without turning into a drooling dog.

Third you have to keep busy and make yourself scarce, so that she has to work to get your attention.

However, none of this works if you lock onto one women... go after any women you are attracted to. The idea that you can 'target' a woman and use creating space to get her to chase you is foolish. She always knows... and if you want her to believe you are a guy with options... you actually have to have options. Date lots of women and spend more time with the ones that put forth effort towards you. That is all.

So if you are correct...there's no way to make someone chase in an LTR???

Seems confusing.

 

[RangerMIke]

So if you are correct...there's no way to make someone chase in an LTR???

Seems confusing.

Oh... you are interested in a relationship. That's not my thing, but it still applies with some changes.

First, you have to be worth keeping... never get complacent. Just because it is your turn with a woman does not mean you can become a couch potato. You have to continue to be a guy that is doing and going places that cares about his body and how he looks.

Second, you have to let her know you love her, but she has to believe that you will leave if you are pushed to far. You do this by not becoming too compliant. This is really simple to do, just always put yourself first. There is a fine line between selfishness and putting yourself first. When she asks you to do stuff for her, turn it sexual and ask what she is willing to do for it.

Third, never abandon what you love, she will try to turn you into something other women hate because she thinks if you can 'change' you no women will want you.... she will say that she is only trying to make you a 'better person', in reality all she is doing is making you less attractive to other women. The problem is once you agree to this BS.. she starts losing attraction for you. She sows the seeds for her own dissatisfaction.

Okay... here is how it works... She cares A LOT what her friends think. She has to hear from them every now and again how 'lucky' she is to have you, if she does not get this re-enforcement from her friends then she will believe she can do better. This will make her fearful of losing you because you might be too good, so she'll start feeding you cheese cake and making you a slob.... which kills her attraction. You have to keep being an awesome guy, and keep her friends jealous, if she learns that she can't turn you into something other women don't want, she will be forced to work hard to keep you.

 

[CMNILS87]

So if you are correct...there's no way to make someone chase in an LTR???

Seems confusing.

Not really. It's a delicate dance. If you're exclusive with a girl, you've determined that you see her as high value and worth committing to. If you continually keep your distance and continually say you can only hang once/twice a week, she's going to see right through that and start to distance herself. You make time for the things important to you. You'll see it as keeping dread and anxiety to have her chase, but she'll see it as you playing games and she's not important.

 

[wifehunter]

Oh... you are interested in a relationship. That's not my thing, but it still applies with some changes.

First, you have to be worth keeping... never get complacent. Just because it is your turn with a woman does not mean you can become a couch potato. You have to continue to be a guy that is doing and going places that cares about his body and how he looks.

Second, you have to let her know you love her, but she has to believe that you will leave if you are pushed to far. You do this by not becoming too compliant. This is really simple to do, just always put yourself first. There is a fine line between selfishness and putting yourself first. When she asks you to do stuff for her, turn it sexual and ask what she is willing to do for it.

Third, never abandon what you love, she will try to turn you into something other women hate because she thinks if you can 'change' you no women will want you.... she will say that she is only trying to make you a 'better person', in reality all she is doing is making you less attractive to other women. The problem is once you agree to this BS.. she starts losing attraction for you. She sows the seeds for her own dissatisfaction.

Okay... here is how it works... She cares A LOT what her friends think. She has to hear from them every now and again how 'lucky' she is to have you, if she does not get this re-enforcement from her friends then she will believe she can do better. This will make her fearful of losing you because you might be too good, so she'll start feeding you cheese cake and making you a slob.... which kills her attraction. You have to keep being an awesome guy, and keep her friends jealous, if she learns that she can't turn you into something other women don't want, she will be forced to work hard to keep you.

In a nutshell...never lose frame?

 

[wifehunter]

Not really. It's a delicate dance. If you're exclusive with a girl, you've determined that you see her as high value and worth committing to. If you continually keep your distance and continually say you can only hang once/twice a week, she's going to see right through that and start to distance herself. You make time for the things important to you. You'll see it as keeping dread and anxiety to have her chase, but she'll see it as you playing games and she's not important.

So chasing during a relationship is not the same as the attraction phase?

I can't remember off hand who said this one...

"Do the same thing you did to get her, in order to keep her"

Is she thinks I'm playing games, and that she's not important... Well, there are repercussion...

I have a tendency to get lost in my work, and border on neglecting my girl. Especially, if she's high maintenance.

 

[narcissist]

All anyone ever needs to know is what ranger mike just said. That is game gift wrapped for our consumption.