"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Making happyness your default state

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I may feel like knowing principles and having knowledge in general about life, being in the moment and all that. Yea... it's real. But it's usually just a phase. Passes by and I go back on default mode. Always has been that way.
I agreed that one should be happy himself first before making other people happy.
How can I get that? The consistency... being happy in default mode?
What do you say?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I got no idea, ey. atleast not a clear picture.

Boredom is the opposite of happiness.

Boredom is inaction.

Take action.
 
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I'm there with you, mate. Work out, go out, and do some work occasionally. Just chill. :D
 
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I'm feeling good. Never stayed upset on somebody or about something for a long time. I'm in kind of a neutral state. Wish it could be better.
 
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It's called the ups and downs of everyday life. It's something that you have to go through on your way to complete happiness.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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