"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Making Girlfriend head over heels for me!

ukboy1

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I've been with my girl for 6 months now and i personally believe that i treat her much better than she treats me some of the time. She is always happy to see me and we have a fair amount of sex, she never usually fails to reply to my text and has never cancelled a date so i doubt that it is a lack of interest. However, she doesn't seem as wildly head over heels for me as she used to be around the holiday season and early on in the relationship. I see her usually 4-5 days a week, we text a lot and i'm 20, she's 19. Any suggestions to get her to put in at least 50% of the effort rather than 35-40?

Thanks in advance!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dgwizdal

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Stop seeing her so often, stop texting her all day, and read the advice in your other thread I gave. Women want to work for their man's love, not have it handed to them. Always invest less than her...

Things always cool down a bit but Here's some good rules of thumb to keep her on her toes and you in control:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
 

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Cheer mate, i appreciate the advice. The only thing i'm worried about is making her feel a severe lack of interest as i said in the last thread because i know the last commandment in the link says don't fear her leaving, but in all honesty i do!
 

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ukboy1 said:
Cheer mate, i appreciate the advice. The only thing i'm worried about is making her feel a severe lack of interest as i said in the last thread because i know the last commandment in the link says don't fear her leaving, but in all honesty i do!
Well just stop being that way. Accept the situation for what it is, and decide is what your going to have to do, to get what you want, worth the investment.
 

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All relationships have a "honeymoon phase" when you can't keep your hands off each other and each day is filled with unbridled passion as you explore each other's bodies with relish.
But it fades. Especially moreso for women. All of a sudden they're "not in the mood" to fvck and they place ever increasing demands on your time and patience.
But if you can accept this and still love her, just go for the ride. And don't fall into the trap of thinking you'll get laid more if start treating her better. It does help but going too far will only make her despise your weakness.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I really don't see anything to complain about. If anything, lessen the contact to make her crave your presence some more. Other than that, from what you describe, leave things alone.
 

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Why do you say that VladPatton? I am very happy in my relationship, i'd just really appreciate her craving me a little more as you said!
 

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The problem you face here is that you fear her leaving you. This why you mention her getting less interested if you retract attention. The key is to not be afraid of her leaving you. If she did, that's her loss. Read my post somewhere about the box method for dealing with your daily life activities. If you even have to worry about her losing interest you're already in a downwards spiral for a broken heart. You should have so much going on that if she were to leave you, your time with her could be replaced quickly and she needs to fight to actually get that time with you.
 
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