Making friends.

[MrP]

The only thing this has to do with girls is that it would really help my self esteem. I haven't had a good friend for months because my best friend moved away and I can't seem to find a replacement. I have no idea how to create friendship out of thin air.

I've tried activities and stuff, but I can't seem to connect with people or even get past small talk.

So, I guess what I'm asking for is a lot, but I'm sure others are looking for this same information... How can I make friends? (With other guys)

 

[888]

this is actually a very good question...I guess getting friends is kind of like getting girls? but not...

idk, i'm struggling with this too. I'm stuck in a clique right now, and i'm not too happy about it; i need to branch out more.

the problem right now is that its getting close to the end of the school year, and everyone is locked into their own little social circles and it will look really weird if you suddenly tried to merge into one of them.

From what I recall, most of my friends were made as a result of proximity or shared interests. This sounds really f*cking trite, but find some people who have the same interests and hobbies as you maybe, or just go places where a lot of people hang out and find someone to talk to.


sorry dude, I don't really have a definite answer, but I feel that this is a very important issue that does need to be addressed (hence, the bump).

 

[Fly-err]

From my experience and from what I can remember, try making friends that you have something in common with or are people that are really easy to talk to. If they go to your same school and class, try just talking about something at school or being funny with them to get their attention. Outside of school, get together and hang out with them. Don't stay at home sitting on the computer and watching tv.

Getting past small talk is the hard part and thats where your personality needs to kick in. If you have a closed personality, obviously you won't get anywhere. Be more open to accepting friends and keep your mood up. Nobody wants to become friends with someone else who is just trying to fit in. Be different so they come to you, instead of you chasing them.

 

[MrP]

That makes a lot of sense. And you're right, I do have a hard time getting out of small talk.

 

[minknency]

Making friends is very easy, and friends are really very important for any one.Making good friend is might be difficult, because you want to trust your friend. Try to make good friends, try to talk to them,and also notice their nature, you should notice everything of your new friend.