"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hearth

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Hey guys. So I'm looking to greatly expand my social circle. It probably sounds kinda lame but I wanna be hanging out with the 'popular' guys i.e. the ones who hang with a lot of girls, and who generally have a lot going for them in their social life. At the moment I'm on vacation but will be returning to university in a couple of months. I'm just wondering where can I go and what can I do to make friends whilst i'm off and equally importantly when I'm back at uni?

I'm not a loner or anything by any means, but the only kind of people I seem to make friends with are people who like myself have nothing going on in their social life. I seem to be stuck inside half of the time because my friends are doing nothing but messing about on video games etc. I'm desperate to get this aspect of my life (amongst others) sorted out, so that this year at uni can be more enjoyable :D

Any help would be -greatly- appreciated. Cheers guys!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hearth

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Now I don't like to bump my own threads, but I fear it'll slip through the cracks otherwise. Any advice please guys?
 

K2000kidd

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I had this problem starting out too
I hated clubs, bars so here's what i did
make friends at work/school
one friend will introduce you to a few others
then those new others will lead to even more others
then you have a network of people you can hangout with
EXPAND the circle bro
 

procanto

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Just be yourself. You sound like a very nice person, so I would respect what they like and try do hang out with them doing what they like at first. Then try to show them your interests and see if they will try some of them.
 

Hearth

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Greatly appreciate the comments. How do I go about meeting people outside of uni though? Is joining sporting clubs etc. the only real way?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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in uni are you living in a dorm? if so it will be quite easy to make friends, just strike up convos with other guys in the dorm and talk about guy sh1t like parties, girls, sports, etc. then get their number and hit them up to get lunch and party and that type of shiz. same thing with class, or anywhere really... just have a normal convo with them and tell them yall should hang out. also it helps to be interesting and not look like a nerd
 

Hearth

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Nope I'm not in a dorm. I'm living at home for the moment. Don't worry I don't look like a nerd ;)
 
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