making friends with girls

[suaveplayer]

hey guys, i know the main thing on this site is not to be put in the friend-zone with girls. however, i am not really looking for a relationship, and is merely looking to be more social and making friends with girls.

an example: there is a hot and popular girl in my englsih class. really nice and really fun. and i guess you can call us "friends or more lke ppl taht just know each other. we say hi, we talk in class, we talk homework. however, we have different groups of friends. and hse does not really seem to show "interest", pretty neutral most of the time.

so the question is this: how do you "escalate" from accquaintances in the classroom to girl-friends?

please help!

 

[SinJester]

Making friends with girls is great, it helps you gain comfort with them and gives you social proof. Just become closer to them by spending time with them, just treat it the same you would with guys. Ask them and their friends to hang out with you and some of your mates. If you don't want a relationship make it clear, although not neccersarily directly and verbally.

Some people are going to disagree with me but MSN can also be a good tool.

 

[Quiksilver]

I'd go so far as to say that the best way to make a girl friend, is to treat them like you would a girl you were interested in. Tease them, joke with them, slap their butts, stick up for them, let them know when they cross the line. Keep it light and sexual. You never want a girl to see you as "the nice boring guy", even if you see her as Just a friend.

Think of it as practice.

Most of my girl friends think I'm attracted to them, and they love being around me because I really make them feel feminine. In reality, I just treat them how I'd treat any other girl. Light flirting, sexual innuendo, kino, teasing, and occasionally disciplining them

I made this thread awhile back, on how to make acquaintances and build simple relationships in school.

good luck man

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Dont forget . Try improving yourself .

Girls , i mean all people , wanna be around people with high value .

Try to raise your value .

100000 ways of doing it . Anyway , after being valuable person , she would love to be with you ( friends or more , no matter ) and it will be a lot easier .

 

[Guybrush]

Avoid ONEitis

Dont forget . Try improving yourself .

Girls , i mean all people , wanna be around people with high value .

Try to raise your value .

100000 ways of doing it . Anyway , after being valuable person , she would love to be with you ( friends or more , no matter ) and it will be a lot easier .

Very good post.


Read the book of Pook.

Attraction starts within.

Concentrate on yourself. Allocate your time properly. Read the book "Getting Things Done", work out, read the Bible (not the actual one!), go run, and pump doses of confidence into your veins...

DON"T FOCUS ON JUST THIS GIRL - that's the mire path of ONEitis !

Good luck

 

[OTB]

Some people are going to disagree with me but MSN can also be a good tool.

MYSPACE is actually a perfect tool for the type of situation you're in right now -----> you can chat with her, comment on her pictures, flirt with her
(Facebook can also be used but to a much lesser extent)

 

[suaveplayer]

so basically flirt and game her like a chick you like, except tone it down a bit?

 

[schttrj]

wat do you mean by girl-friends? friend who are girls or the lover kind?

first let me say to you, that some guys are always LJBF'ed by all the girls and some can never be LJBF'ed by girls. I think they categorise us very quickly and it mostly depends on the sexual tension and the availability. So, if you want her as a friend, be neutral and spend as much time with her as possible. If you are nice and do good things to her, she will befriend you.

But to make her your girlfriend, that's a pickup question. Then you have to bring the sexual tension ASAP and not be available too much. Flirt and play hard to get! That is what I would suggest.

 

[chubbycheeks720]

if she's hot and popular she one of the "it" girls, im assuming of course. All the highschools have them. They go to the rockin parties and get crazy drunk and high (atleast where i'm from).

Now in Highschool your reputation is everything, so why would a hot and popular girl go out with someone of lower value? you have to show her your social value and why she should go out with you (assuming your not the popular type).

If she sees you talking with her social circle and you guys are laughing and having fun, she's going to think "hey that guy is fun, and easy to talk to." You can do this in front of her with other people than her group of friends.

Once you guys start talking about other stuff than homework, and you start playing the game she's yours.

This is my solution for that specific girl in your classroom. you need to access the situation differently for other girls.

 

[Maxtro]

Your choice of words is confusing. Do you want her to be your girlfriend. Or do you want her to be a girl that is your friend? I just use the chick friend or female friend to avoid confusion.

Yes it is very important to have female friends. If you don't want to mess with them then it OK to be friendzoned. There are a lot of benefits that can come out of having chick friends.

Unfortunately there isn't a lot of information on becoming real friends with girls. All I can suggest is talk to them when you can and joke around a lot. Invite them to hang out with you and your buddies or look for opportunities to spend with her and her friends.

 

[suaveplayer]

sorry for the confusion. i want to get "female friend" not girlfriend