Making Friends With Attractive Women

[Bokanovsky]

I've been doing some research on social circles and I stumbled upon this video, He brings up a really interesting concept of using women who friendzone you to your advantage by getting to introduce you to their social circles

A woman has no incentive to set up with one of her attractive friends, especially if she values you as a “friend” (a.k.a. friend-zoned orbiter). As soon as she does, she will lose the free attention and validation that you provide.

Also, your female “friend” would absolutely hate to see you dating someone who is her equal (let alone superior) on the looks/social status scale. At best, you might get introduced to one of her average-looking friends (and only if she doesn’t really care about maintaining you as a friend).

 

[SW15]

A woman has no incentive to set up with one of her attractive friends, especially if she values you as a “friend” (a.k.a. friend-zoned orbiter). As soon as she does, she will lose the free attention and validation that you provide.

Also, your female “friend” would absolutely hate to see you dating someone who is her equal (let alone superior) on the looks/social status scale. At best, you might get introduced to one of her average-looking friends (and only if she doesn’t really care about maintaining you as a friend).

This intrigued me. I have wondered why none of the girlfriends of my male friends assisted me in social circle setups. Perhaps a lack of incentive as you described was it. I wasn't friends with these women but more acquaintances and friends by association.

As men, we need to ask ourselves "Is the value of female friends or social acquaintances overrated?"

If you can learn approaching and game well enough, you can achieve independence and not be reliant upon social circle setups.

 

[Mike32ct]

I would say this about attractive women friends….

Are you ok with her telling you about other guys she’s dating (ie F-ing)? If you can handle that with no problems, it can work.

If you are secretly attracted to her and can’t or don’t want to hear that stuff, then don’t be friends with her or try to keep it like acquaintance level at best.

As friends, dating topics will likely come up.

I was out with my female friend last night. (Yes, I am quite attracted to her. It is what it is.) But hearing her bring up the new guy that she started dating wasn’t exactly the fun highlight of my night.

 

[Mike32ct]

I’ve never been fixed up by a female friend.

An ex was cool enough to introduce me to her friend one time though.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It works. I have one very attractive female friend from childhood. Used to go to clubs with her. She got me into VIP often and I got at least 3 different lays from girls I met while out with her.

 

[SW15]

In practice, a lot of social circle introductions happen from "off limits" type women. These are from women who you work with, friend zoned women from before puberty (this only works when you and her live in the same city as adults that you did in K-8 grades), and friends/acquaintances of your friend's girlfriends.

It works. I have one very attractive female friend from childhood. Used to go to clubs with her. She got me into VIP often and I got at least 3 different lays from girls I met while out with her.

Perfect example. This is why I said childhood, pre-puberty female friends can be useful.

Starting from scratch with female friends as a 20s/30s adult -- Not so much.