From http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-19930301-000030&page=2
When I first encountered this whole so-called on-line seduction community much of it rubbed me the wrong way because everything that David DeAlngelo and Mystery and everyone else who’s jumped onto the bandwagon has written is mostly crap. Even this spinning plates theory has serious flaws. I say this as someone whose favorite activity has long been carrying on with women, who has been highly successful with women, both in getting them attracted and interested and in carrying on long term relationships often with more than one woman at a time.
After much reflection, except for those girls with crushes and the ones who first got my attention by grabbing me between the legs, every courtship has begun with eye contact. It begins with curious glances that evolve into a playful game of smiling and subtle facial expressions. If allowed to continue it develops into a seriousness that is quite enjoyable.
This is the most simple, the most natural, the most animalistic way to hook up with women. You don’t have to worry about what you’re going to say, no need for an ice breaker, you don’t have to play a game or anything. Even the shy can do it.
Often I see guys and gals pursuing those who they aren’t very compatible with. Starting by making eyes tends to filter this out. Not everyone can be attracted to or compatible to everyone else. Success in love often involves discovering and then pursuing only those women with whom one can be most successful. I’m sure there is some biological basis for this. If you ignore all the having the power contests that some advocate, then in your eye contact it becomes a mutual thing, just between you and her. I think it is more of a bonding experience than even sex. Successful eye contact really falls into the category of having good chemistry.
The thing is, is that when I look into a woman’s eyes, by her expression, by something that I see in her eyes, I can tell if she likes me or not. Not only that but my chances with her. Some women can be highly attracted to you but because of other considerations prefer not to let it come to anything. I don’t think that I’ve ever been wrong by what I see in a woman’s eyes.
Obviously the eye thing isn’t something that many do. I sometimes have this problem of sorts. Often, a friend, relative or acquaintance will come by with their girlfriend or wife, and because I habitually search women’s eyes, discover her interest. Once discovered, it’s hard to put the cat back in the bag. It’s a secret we share until a later, more convenient time to act on it. You’d be surprised by how many guys are oblivious to me making eyes with their woman.
One last thing. Many of the girlfriends that I have make mention of this quiet something or other that happens between us. Like my current favorite recently told me, “Isn’t it cool, we don’t even have to say anything.” She is a beautiful woman and other guys are always hitting on her even right in front of me. The humorous thing about it is that their words can’t compete with my eyes.
Though this is an account of baboon courtship it illustrates the way by which courtships among humans are best begun.
When I first encountered this whole so-called on-line seduction community much of it rubbed me the wrong way because everything that David DeAlngelo and Mystery and everyone else who’s jumped onto the bandwagon has written is mostly crap. Even this spinning plates theory has serious flaws. I say this as someone whose favorite activity has long been carrying on with women, who has been highly successful with women, both in getting them attracted and interested and in carrying on long term relationships often with more than one woman at a time.
After much reflection, except for those girls with crushes and the ones who first got my attention by grabbing me between the legs, every courtship has begun with eye contact. It begins with curious glances that evolve into a playful game of smiling and subtle facial expressions. If allowed to continue it develops into a seriousness that is quite enjoyable.
This is the most simple, the most natural, the most animalistic way to hook up with women. You don’t have to worry about what you’re going to say, no need for an ice breaker, you don’t have to play a game or anything. Even the shy can do it.
Often I see guys and gals pursuing those who they aren’t very compatible with. Starting by making eyes tends to filter this out. Not everyone can be attracted to or compatible to everyone else. Success in love often involves discovering and then pursuing only those women with whom one can be most successful. I’m sure there is some biological basis for this. If you ignore all the having the power contests that some advocate, then in your eye contact it becomes a mutual thing, just between you and her. I think it is more of a bonding experience than even sex. Successful eye contact really falls into the category of having good chemistry.
The thing is, is that when I look into a woman’s eyes, by her expression, by something that I see in her eyes, I can tell if she likes me or not. Not only that but my chances with her. Some women can be highly attracted to you but because of other considerations prefer not to let it come to anything. I don’t think that I’ve ever been wrong by what I see in a woman’s eyes.
Obviously the eye thing isn’t something that many do. I sometimes have this problem of sorts. Often, a friend, relative or acquaintance will come by with their girlfriend or wife, and because I habitually search women’s eyes, discover her interest. Once discovered, it’s hard to put the cat back in the bag. It’s a secret we share until a later, more convenient time to act on it. You’d be surprised by how many guys are oblivious to me making eyes with their woman.
One last thing. Many of the girlfriends that I have make mention of this quiet something or other that happens between us. Like my current favorite recently told me, “Isn’t it cool, we don’t even have to say anything.” She is a beautiful woman and other guys are always hitting on her even right in front of me. The humorous thing about it is that their words can’t compete with my eyes.