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Tinder Kaitlin flaked. Texted her and hour before our meetup: "hey, do you know how to get to [my apartment complex]
Her:My ride actually had to go home today and I had to go with her :/

THANKS B!TCH. You could've told me this hours ago like maybe....hmm... when YOU WERE LEAVING TOWN!

And smoothmoves, what you're saying makes perfect sense, but it's irrelevant. When someone is angry, the last thing they want to be told is to calm down and not worry. They WANT to be angry. And i'm fvcking pissed right now.

It's so fvcking FRUSTRATING because i have literally 10 girls in my phone that i'm talking to, most of whom are showing me high interest, some of whom i've made out with before, etc. I dont even know if they count as plates because it's impossible to meet up with these fvcking girls. I mean jesus fvcking christ. I'm not some ugly fat chode with no game. Yes, i'm egotistical, but i'm very good looking and have the ideal body, etc. I get fvcking opened when i go out. I get IOI's like crazy, open all these girls, pull numbers, etc. I've slept with almost a dozen girls, all but one of whom were VERY attractive.

I'm a very calm person in general. I almost never get angry. But i'm so sick of this ****. I'm at a college surrounded by model level broads. I'm not exaggerating. This is a party school and you go to the bar and there are fvcking top tier 9's and 10's everywhere, girls in hoards that look like those fvcking girls in TheChive girl's galleries. The worst part of this whole thing is i know i can pull HOT girls because i've done it before.

 

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I'm good now. Took a shot of whisky and blasted the Rolling Stones and I feel better. Like I said, i'm a very leveled person, and almost never get depressed or angry, but for some reason i get what I call "man-periods" like once every few weeks where i get SUPER pissed or depressed, but it only lasts like a couple hours. It feels like some hormonal thing where my body just like flushes out the stress quickly, i feel terrible for like 4 hours, and then i'm good for another couple weeks. Weird.

But whatever, i'm good. Already pulled a number and i'm talking to a couple girls. Sorry for being such a whiny b!tch

 

[macallik]

Good journal. Gonna keep an eye on it.

The main thing I can think that is leading to the flakes is rushing/forcing the 2nd date. FWIW though, I don't think any guy who did the same thing would have had a different result. With girls that seem super-interested like HB 7.5, getting the day2 set up quickly is a good tactic (even if it didn't work out this time) but if you do that for every phone number you get on dating apps and drunken makeouts, you are gonna get a high % of flake rates.

Unless you plan on building rapport and/or creating some kinda connection that separates you from the other people that she swiped on tinder/made out with that night, day 2s for people that barely know you (or remember what you look like) are usually best in neutral environment where she can bring her friends with her and there is no pressure really.

One thing that helped my ego and my game was to stop inviting chicks on dates if I didn't feel they were primed. Instead, I would invite her to come to a party that is at a friends house, or a BBQ that is going on in after blah blah blah. Basically, if a chick is a flake or I don't feel is primed, I don't even bother getting my hopes up. I invite like 3-5 flakes to these events and whoever shows up gets my attention. As an added bonus, since the venue is of my choosing, I have homecourt advantage, meaning I am 99% likely to have social proof and options available. Although it might be temporary, that flaky chick from b4 is going to start to get jellie. That is when you try your shot again.

 

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UPDATE

So I invited the Kassy girl from Tinder to my friend's party last night. She said she was down to meet me there and said she's come by after this concert.

So i go to my buddy's house and it's just me and him. And i'm like "who's coming?". He's like "idk i dont really know of anyone who's coming."

I was like "what? i thought you were having a party!" I texted a bunch of people but no one was really down to come. So i've got this kassy girl coming. She had asked me earlier if she could bring a friend, i said cool, whatever. She texts me that shes on the way, and i'm like "oh sh!t" there's no party, theres no one here. So my friend has the bright idea to raid his empty beer can bin and strategically place the cans around the house to make it look like there were people there. He goes "we can just tell them that they missed the party and that everyone went to the bars (since my friend and i are over 21, and these girls weren't). So i'm like okay cool. So the two girls get there RIGHT after my friend al and his girl get there. Kassy is actually pretty hot in person.

Kind of a weird face, but a really nice body, and after a few drinks she looks damn good. So we make introductions and i can tell right off the bat that she digs me physically. It's a little awkward because i had never met these girls, and there was no real party. But we take them on a tour and she's already giving me kino, like putting her hand on my lower back and i return the touching and make small talk a bit. She's giving me tons of IOI's. We go and take a couple shots and the group is talking about school or whatever. I sit in a chair near her, she's on the edge of a couch. I was going to pull her over to sit on my lap, but she does it before i get the chance. With her on my lap, we talk and our faces are real close so obviously i have no choice but give her a quick kiss on the lips. She digs it and i playfully push her away saying "stop" as if she's the one doing it to me.

So her friend starts b!tching that they should leave soon, i know i need to do something soon. Sh!tty situation because there's no one there so i can't exactly go bang her somewhere. If it were a house party i could probably just take her in the bathroom and do it. But i say "hey, let's go in the kitchen, i need to talk to you" Without hesitation she gets up and walks in, and i follow her. We're alone in the kitchen and she says "you dont need to talk to me do you?" and i go "nope" and grab her head and start making out hardcore. Now i was drunkish at this point and horny, so we're making out and i'm feeling her up through the clothes a little bit. I try to put my hand down her jeans but she stops me, so i'm like okay so i've gotta step back a minute and try again to push past this resistance. While we're making out she asks if i'm going to be in town all week, and i say yes. I ask her if she's staying at her parents house, she is. I'm also staying at mine. She asks when my parents work. She wants the D. Unfortunately I tell her I have siblings and stuff so theres no chance of having the house to ourselves.

So we're making out and i'm pulling her hair as I kiss her and she kind of gasps a little. (GUYS THIS IS GOLDEN. There's something biological about pulling the back of a girl's hair, kind of by her neck. It turns them on like crazy. Try it sometime when you're making out.), and i go for the hand down her pants again and she stops me with a firm "No. Not tonight", and i guess i was being a little pushy, but whatever. We go back into the other room and people tease us a little bit. Her friend even says at one point, "can you guys just go fvck and get it over with so we can leave?" She was kind of serious but the logistics wouldnt have allowed it. Anyway, they leave, and later that night she texts me :

"You were a little too pushy"
Me: "I mean you were sober and i was slightly intoxicated. What, you don't want to hangout with me?"
Her: "I'm not saying I dont want to but if we do you gotta be sober next time"
Me: "Tell you what. I'll let you get more drunk than i am"
Her: "Either we're both sober or we're not hanging out again"
Me: "Then you probably shouldn't have hit me up on a friday night. But that sounds reasonable "

This was not a good way to handle it on my part. I probably should have responded to her first text with something like "I'm a very physical/sexual person." or something. IDK, i was drunk when texting, which wasnt smart. But whatever, i think we still can meet up. I'm thinking i'll tell her to come to the mall and help me pick out a shirt, and then go to JcPenny's and have her try on lingerie and bang her in the changing room (they're co-ed there, and theres no attendants). Or i guess i could pull her into one of those unisex bathrooms where you change diapers...

 

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UPDATE - TINDER GAME PROGRESS AND BAR FUN


Tinder - Amy

It's been a bit since i've updated, mostly becuase ive been busy trying to focus less on browsing these boards (no offense guys) and more on actually going out and meeting girls. Gotta walk the walk.

As for that Kassy tinder girl...i kinda passed on it. I was texting her a bit after and my mistake was continuing to be sexual. She basically told me she's not a slvt and i realized i was going sexual too fast without enough comfort. That and we're both staying at our parents house, i just passed on her because ive got other options and she's kind of a b!tch.

So anyway. Was talking to this other chick on Tinder, we'll call her Amy. Told her to come meet me out at the mall and help me pick out a few shirts. Turns out she was already there and told me though. But she said she was leaving soon and told me to text her and gave me her number via Tinder. Texted her up, she was very receptive to meeting up for coffee. However she wanted to talk to hear my voice to make sure im not a creeper, which i understand, so i chatted her up a minute or two and we actually started having a good convo.

So i meet her at Starbucks the next day and woah, she has a really nice face. Cute, friendly, smart. Her body is actually really nice. Huuge breasts and nice curvy a$$. I sit down and the conversation flows like water, we totally hit it off, talking about movies for a long time, music, fitness, school etc. She has a lot in common and is great to talk to and we have chemistry. We're playing around like 10 year olds, flicking pieces of cardboard and coffee lids across the table at each other and laughing.

Hard to get kino when you're sitting across a big table but i keep making her thumb wrestle me, feel her biceps when we're talking about workouts, and teasing her. I later find out that two or so years ago she used to be pretty big, but she's been going hard on the working out and dieting, and looks really good right now. This may sound mean, but i think she's carried over some of the "fat girl standards" and is still not used to being regarded as very attractive, so she's pleasantly surprised that she is hitting it off with a good looking gentlemen like me. Interest level is super high, and honestly i'm digging her too.

At one point she even says "what is a guy like you doing on tinder?!" I take it as a compliment and make some joke or whatever. We must have been there for three hours but the time just flew. No awkwardness. Right before we go to leave, i figure we both have coffee breath so i pull out gum and toss her a piece. I walk her out to her car which is incidentally enough right next to mine. We're saying goodbye and i give her a kiss, pull back, look at her, go in for another kiss and we makeout briefly and she gives me this big smile. Beautiful. I reallly like her face.

One thing that sucks is she goes back to school in a different state sunday (i also go back to my school sunday), so we only have till the end of the week to hangout, which she is totally down to do. However, we'll both be in this same town over the summer so if we hit it off i can see myself calling her up then.

As for hanging out...any ideas guys? I feel like she'd be down for any type of activity, and we'd have fun regardless. However, i want to progress it sexually next date, and we're both at our parents houses over this break. I mean we could hookup a bit in more isolated areas in public, but i doubt it could get beyond some groping over and under the clothes and heavy makeout. Regardless, I still need to think of a good, cheap date idea. Keep in mind it's brutally cold out.

Tinder -SARAH
Talking to this other girl on tinder thats home in my town for break. I also suggest that she come to the mall with me. Guys, this is the SAME DAY i was talking to the girl above. Guess what she says? She says she actually just left that same mall. I'm not joking. Weird. Anyway.....I suggest we meet for a drink, number close, she's down to meetup. We go back and forth about availability, try to meetup one night but it doesnt happen (she's too hungover), so tonight we're supposed to meetup for a drink.

When i asked her to hangout i basically told her that she can invite me over to her place to hangout or if she'd feel more comfortable we can meet up for a drink. She replied that let's meet up for a drink first to make sure i'm not crazy because if so she doesnt want me to know where she lives. Haha, that sounds like a "i'm down to bang at my place as long as we meet in public first" response. Idk, maybe im looking too much into it. Regardless im gonna push to go back to her place after for a "movie". ill keep you posted.

EDIT - UPDATE -

So i went on this meetup...and wow. Not how i expected. First off, before we met up she was texting me a lot, like constantly throughout the day, and was very accepting of rescheduling and flirty and blah blah blah....to the point where i was hesitant, because i know from experience if it's too good to be true it is. I was expecting her to be ugly or something, i kept looking at her pictures trying to find something wrong...

So any way, we meet up. I get a look look at her, and shes REALLY CUTE. Great face, nice tits, tan, good makeup (not overdone), clothing, body, smile, etc. But from the moment i meet her, i can tell shes....standoffish? So i chalk it up to her being shy, and just make conversation as we go into the brewery and grab a beer. I start talking to her, and while she's not being straight up rude or doing any thing mean....she's not contributing to the conversation at all. I mean she's talking, but she's conveying low interest, disagreeing with me for no reason (i said that i like some country, for example Johnny Cash. She starts trying to argue about how he's not country in any way. In my head i'm like "are you fvcking kidding?"). Doing everything short of being blantantly rude. In addition, shes constantly looking at people sitting behind me, just to the left of my shoulder...like the ENTIRE time.

I play it cool and ask her what's up. She says she knows people here. I'm like "okay cool, we can go say hi if you want", she's like "no, no it's fine". So we're sitting there and at this point i dont even really want to be there. At first i thought it was just her mood, like she was tired or whatever. I guess she wasn't interested? She was very country and i'm more...cultured? I'm not into big trucks and hunting and all that stuff. I prefer to talk about film and music and fitness and intelligent stuff (not that i dont like the outdoors and fishing, etc). So maybe it was that. Any way, the brewery was closing like an hour after we got there. So shes like "you ready to go?", i'm like "sure, let's do it". I offhandedly say "you wanna go back and chill at your place for a bit? I can't stay long though." She's like "some other time." Aka: Not in a million years.

I'm fine with rejection, it's just like....dont waste my time. She didn't even try to put ANY effort into this interaction. I felt like i was pulling her through the mud the entire time....

BAR FUN -

So we went out last night to the bar, me and my buddy N. As i've posted i have a weird relationship with bars. I usually am intimidated by them and dont have a good time. I'm pleased to report tonight was different.

It started like an hour before we even started getting ready to go out. I dont know what it was, but i was fvcking ON. I was completely in state and excited to go out. We pregame a bit and then N, his roommate J, and I go to the bar. We get there and see my good friend Al from high school, as well as Kenz, a cute girl i went to high school with. Dev, this cute girl i went to prom with in high school is also there. Back story on Dev: took her to prom, we almost had a thing for a couple weeks but i was too chickensh!t to do anything so she lost interest. Fastforward to now....idk like 6 years later. I'm a new man. About 25 lbs more lean muscle, completely different attitude, dressed well. And Kenz and Dev can feel this, and even comment how much i've changed. This boosts my state even more and i'm just being social, having a good time, walking around the entire time with a confident smile plastered on my face. And i wasnt even that buzzed.

So Dev is there with her three roommates, SoberGirl, BdayGirl, and Othergirl. I make Dev introduce me ("Dev, arent you going to introduce me to your friends)..start talking to SoberGirl, can tell she is standoffish, but actually opens up to me a bit after some talking. Bday girl is very cute. And also very drunk. One of the first things she says to me is "hey you should buy me a drink". You can just tell she is a tease that is going to milk this for all it's worth. I say something along the lines of "Why the fvck would i buy you a drink? I dont even know you" "It's my birthdayyyy!!" "So?" I could tell she was shocked by this. She even slapped me on the arm and called me rude or some sh!t. Like a give a rat's a$$. So i go out to the dancefloor. Usually i'm hungry for poon when i go to dance. But tonight i didnt care. I was barely looking at the girls. Just focused on me. Almost as soon as i go out there, this girl bumps her butt into mine, and i playfully bump back, she looks at me and i know it's on. She's not hot, but she's about average. We'll call her Erin. Boom, grinding. I was so smooth. I was so in state, just grinding and making casual conversation. I spin her around and let the tension build a minute cause i knew she wanted to kiss me. Then BAM. Hard makeout for a couple minutes. I know from experience to eject before she does and not spend 4 songs grinding on her, so i tell her i've gotta get back to her friends.

 

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Socializing, blah blah night goes on. I can tell bday girl is into me. And Dev even mentions less than casually to me and Al that Bday girl needs some bday sex. Me and BdayGirl are talking away from the group, very close together. I knew she was just playing everyone and grinding up on everyone..But she had a really nice face and i could tell she was into me so i was obligated to makeout with her. For the next hour or so, we'd just casually makeout, she dragged me to the dance floor a few times. Whenever i was sitting on the chair at our table, she ALWAYS came and planted her nice booty on my lap. However, she was also going off and dancing with different guys, including the guys i came with (probably was even making out with Al at some point). didnt bother me. Al even looked at me at one point and i just nodded like "i dont care dude, doesnt bother me". I could tell she was an attention *****, but she was cool. Came up to me to tell me she was leaving. Honestly, i probably couldve tried to go back with her....but she was SOOOOOOO wasted, like blackout drunk, and i didnt want to deal with that. Plus it was early and I just wanted to keep partying. They left, ended up dancing/makeout with Erin more, number closed her at the end of the night and made tentative plans to hangout. Opened a few more sets, nothing panned out.

Went back, smoked, watched American Psycho. I was really pleased with this night.

As a side note, me and Amy have plans to cuddle and watch a movie tomorrow. I love this chick, she's so chill, no games, we know we like each other and there's no bullsh!t. Too bad she goes out of town same as i do on sunday.

 

[macallik]

keep us updated

 

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Thread got lost in the shuffle, but i've found it and am going to continue updating it.

LAY REPORT from last week

I have been sitting at home a lot recently because I'm super broke and am still looking for a summer job. So i havent been able to hit up the bars since I ran out of money.

My friend Chet had posted on facebook a pool party thing he was having. Not like a big party really, but just like 10-20 close friends of his invited because his parents were gone and it was reallly nice out and he has a pool. So i'm like fvck it, why not? Drop what i'm doing, hit the gym real quick for a run to wake me up and get the blood pumping, stop and grab beer, then head over.

I get there and it's like 2 guys who i know pretty well and this small girl Arriane, who i knew a little bit from having mutual friends, but never really talked to her much. I remember thinking she was cute. Not super hot but petite and cute. I briefly acknowledge that we've met before and then we all start drinking and socializing and whatever. (TEQUILAAAAAA) A few other dudes show up...at this point it's like 7 guys total and this one girl.

The day goes on and I start talking to her more and more...find out she likes the Sopranos which is fvcking awesome (i've been super into it recently). At one point she's sitting in the other room by herself catching up on the soccer game. I go and sit next to her and talk to her, we're both pretty buzzed and she's real close to my face, giving me these eyes, so I have no choice other than to KISS CLOSE.

After a while, these other two blonde girls show up. The girl that Chet is kind of seeing and her very hot friend, we'll call her sarah. Suddenly i recognize that I had met them before. Me and Chet and a bunch of people were downtown and They ended up coming back to Chet's house with us. Sarah was suuuuuper drunk to the point where she was just like lying on the floor. Her boyfriend kept calling all concerned about her, and kept insisting that he was going to pick them up (grrrrrrrrrrrr). I played it cool and just chilled on the couch watching TV. I made sure to pick the biggest couch in the most isolated area of the room...juuuust in case. Chet was actually pushing for her to come and chill on the couch with her, but she was super drunk and just ended up being picked up by her chode BF. So anyway, i'm slightly annoyed that I had already made out with Arriane, seeing as she was not nearly as hot as Sarah...but whatever. Sarah and her friend left once it got dark to some concert, but said they'd be back later.

So the day goes on and every one's getting drunk...and i realize i should push for the lay in the bathroom. I keep *****footing around and making excuses...telling myself i need to drink more to pull it off. Eventually i get the balls and just grab her by the hand and walk towards the bathroom and walk in. We fool around and she goes down on me. She's on her period (FML, arent they always?!?). But fvck it. I tell her to take her tampon out, she does, and we hop in the shower. I dont know whether im too drunk or nervous or whatever, but my wang is having trouble standing at full mast. We keep trying to fvck, but i'm not hard enough...eventually we bang on the floor for a few mins but it's clear that my d!ck is not gonna cooperate. We eventually leave the bathroom, and come out, and every one is gone! So we go on his big couch and start watching soccer and making out. Aaand we're horny again, and this time my d1ck is working, and so i start fvcking her sweet, tight little pu$$y on the couch. After a bit we hear a noise and quickly shuffle our clothes back on. We join back up with the group and they're making a bonfire outside. I think they had gone to the liquor store or something.

Night winds down and we find a room to crash in and sleep together. I hit her up and we're gonna hang out at her place and drink wine and watch the Sopranos later this week

 

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Night Tindering

Doing some late night tindering...this cute girl came up, and she looked hella familiar. So i check out her instagram and turns out it's this cashier up at the grocery store i always go to at my college. She ALWAYS eyefvcks me, and unfortunately i never worked up the gall to pull her number before i went home for the summer. I thought she was halfway decent in her work outfit, but on her tinder she has pictures of her in like a gym outfit and she is SEXXXYYY. Work outfits are so deceptive. Here;s the convo:

Me: Jerk you woke me up with your night tindering
Me: Waaaitt a second, do you work at [store]??
Her: I do lol
Her: Aandd you're the jerk with the rediculous standards in the About Me of yours
Me: Aaand you're the creep that would always eyefvck the sh!t out of me whenever I bought food
Her: What the fvckk I do not eye fvck
Her: You eye fvck
Me: You totally check me out every time you check me out! [Her Name], I just wanna buy steak and veggies in peace, I don't need sexual harassment to go with it
Her: Lol Jesus
Her: If that is your desire it shall be done
Me: I'd appreciate it if you were a bit more subtle, that's all. Haha
me: Are you an insomniac or what?
Her: Omg..i got out of work at 230. WhT are you bombarding me with mt apparentlyieyefvckyou