Making every minute count - GravityEyelids reports

[gravityeyelids]

gonna start keeping track of my adventures. TBH i don't care if you guys even read this, it's mainly for me to vocalize my experiences so i can improve on them.

FRIDAY

Okay, so i've been kind of sick of the bars this whole semester. For whatever reason they intimidate the *&^* out of me in terms of gaming girls. It's kind of a joke, because everyone is so closed off and just talks to their friends. So i've been making it a mission of mine to find undergrad house/apt parties. This is where i shine. I feel very comfortable in a house party, to the point where i will introduce myself to random guys and girls, open girls all over the place, and not hesitate to go for a makeout within like 3 minutes of meeting a chick.

So me and 3 of my guy friends roll out after a bit of pregaming to this crazy ass blacklight fratty party. This is straight up right out of freshman year, and i dont know how to handle myself. People are completely smashed, fights are breaking out. It's very dark with just like colored lights and extremely loud dubstep and sh!t. It's very intimidating because the few girls i try to open blow me off completely. It's an environment where these girls have probably had guys grabbing their asses all night and they immediately treat you with hostility. At one point this circle forms around like 4 girls and the guys start chanting T!TS! T!TS! T!TS! like fvcking animals, and the guys are almost groping these girls. A bunch of girls are showing their boobs. Freshmen year i might've enjoyed this, but it pretty much sickened me, it was kind of pathetic. I actually felt bad for these girls and as the guys swarmed around to watch i actually went into the other room and started talking to girls.

PARTY #2

So after like 3 fights broke out, cops are coming and the people at the house make everyone leave. No biggie, we bounce to this other apartment. I'm much more comfortable here. Lights are on and the music is at a reasonable level to where i can actually talk to people. I walk in, and it's packed. probably like 80 people in this moderate sized college apartment. IMMEDIATELY when i walk in the door, i see this cute HB8 eyefvcking me. I start walking past her, and i look at her and go "you're cute". Normally i dont do this, but i honestly thought she was leaving so i figured eh why not give her an ego boost. I'm not huge on direct game, but i've found this opener to be shockingly effective. However, you need to be good looking/dressed well and she needs to have given you signs of interest.

Anyway, so i think she said i was cute as well and i go on my way. I see this other girl (HB7), that i had seen in one of my classes like hours earlier that day (i'd never met the girl before that day). We make eye contact from like 5 feet away and she goes "I KNOW YOU!!", we start talking, blah blah, i do some kino. And then go for the makeout. It's almost in slowmo as i go towards her face and she leans like 2 feet back and goes "noooo i have a boyfriend". I brush it off like it's nothing (it isnt, it honestly doesnt bother me when this happens anymore), and we talk for a bit longer, just friendly talk cause she's pretty cool.

So i see the HB8 i called cute on the way in and i do this smoooth as sh!t move....i'm walking past her, we make eye contact, and as i'm walking past her i kino her, running my hand over her upper back, over her shoulder, down her arm and take her hand in mine and gently pull her and turn her back towards me, still holding her hand look her dead in the eye and go " who're you?"

GENTLEMEN. This hand thing is fvcking GOLD. When you meet a girl, touch her upper arm like you're just casually touching her, run it down and take her hand in yours and just HOLD IT while you're talking. You will be surprised how long you can just stand there gently holding her hand while you talk. Just make sure to act like you're not even aware of it.

Anyway, so me and this chick are VIBING hardcore. I love when this happens. No games (well maybe a little on my part), no bullsh!t. She likes me, and i dig her, and we both know it. After talking to her for like 2 minutes, i brush her hair over her ear and kiss her. Beautiful. She's officially my gal for the night.

Normally i try not to hang around the same girl most of the night, but this girl is so into me she's basically following me around, which doesnt normally happen with cute girls. I mean she's not being too needy, just slightly, and i love the attention. So as i'm walking around this party shes trailing behind me and i'm pulling her along by the hand. We periodically makeout when we find a good spot. She tells me more than once that i'm cute (i tease her and tell her she already said that, she needs a new compliment, haha she apologizes). At one point i say i'm gonna go grab a beer or whatever across the party, she goes "do you want me to come with you?", i go "i dont care", she comes with me.

Cops show up when we're in the basement, we're both 21 so we dont care. We're in the hallway to the bathroom waiting to pee, door opens, i go in and motion for her to join me, she comes without hesitation. She goes pee while i'm in the bathroom just talking. This sounds weird, but i'm okay with this because this shows me she's comfortable both with me, and with herself/ not self-conscious. She's done, cleans up...i start making out with her, we start touching each other i'm touching her **** a little, shes really turned on...honestly i could've pushed for a lay in the bathroom and i probably should have. I had a condom and everything. However there was a line outside the bathroom and she says something like "this is gonna be awkward when we come out". So i stop and go "yea we should probably stop". We leave the bathroom.

I forgot to mention something. She tells me that her ex-boyfriend is there, he actually lives next door. She's vising from another college with her friend (who's pretty cute). She points him out to me and i feel weird at first cause im making out with her the whole night, but honestly he doesnt really pay much attention to her, which is cool. But her and her friend are crashing at her ex's place. She's not sleeping with him....she says i can crash on the couch with her if i really wanted to stay.. I try to get her to come back to my place and tell her i can drive her back in the morning. I knew i wouldnt see her again cause she goes to a diff college. She says she cant leave her friends, i stay for a while and then i have to take off cause my DD wants to go home. Got her number and told her to hit me up if she comes to visit again. She's very receptive to this, and i'm sure she will if she does visit.

 

[Nickface]

Yea, your not seeing that last chick again. That's just the way things go. But that being said, all in all, sounds like a good night. Keep up the game! It's a little surprising that you elevated so quick to making out with a girl but whatever your doing, seems to be working. I totally agree with you about the touching by the way...

 

[gravityeyelids]

SATURDAY NIGHT

***Side note. My "scale" is probably different from some of you on here. to me, a HB5, is NOT average.
HB5 = uggo.
HB6 = probably fvckable when drunk
HB7= Average. possible butterface territory
HB8 = Cute
HB9= really sexy, bangin'
HB10 = God Tier

I don't rate girls below a 5 because theres no point.

As i said i dont like the bars, and i've been trying to find house parties each weekend. This has been frustrating because my roommates dont drink or go out, and most of my friends from undergrad left town or just go to the bars.

But after weeks of hitting up guys i know and meeting guys that know where parties are at, this weekend i hit gold, and start finding out about all these parties, and my buddy has a roommate who's a DJ and ALWAYS knows parties going on.

So saturday this girl i work with (she's meh) says to come to a kegger her neighbors are putting on.

SOCIAL PROOF up the ass. I walk in there, meet her, meet her cute friends. See my ex-gf's roommate (who i'm really really good friends with) and her BF, who's also a good friend of mine cause he was my neighbor. She's so happy to see me, screaming my name, hugging me and haha touching my face. She's cool. Some guys i knew from high school show up, i'm talking to them I open this cute girl take a shot with her, see these girls whos roommate i hooked up with a while ago (i actually made out with one of them a while ago when her roommate wasnt at this party i was at hehe). I'm opening girls left and right. This one girl is kind of mehhh but i'm talking to her and she gets close to my face and goes "ooo your breath smells nice and minty!!" so at this point i'm basically obligated to kiss her, so i do briefly, but i really wasnt interested in her..

Night goes on and i see this nice cute brunette (HB7.5) in the middle of this crowd. She's giving me these eyes, so i walk up to her and say "you know it's rude to stare", she loves it and we hit it off, i kiss her within like 2 minutes of meeting (it's crazy how fast you can kiss girls in this house party atmosphere, i love it. i always get the face-turn at bars). We're hitting it off, i keep making out with her and pulling away saying "stop it", as if she's making me do it, and going back in again to kiss her. I get her number and talk a bit, then say i've gotta get back to my friends. unfortunately she leaves a while later and i dont get the chance to push it further. But this is the best number lead i've had in a while, so it should pan out to a day 2.

Overall this weekend was a success, especially if the HB7.5 pans out. Wish i could've pushed for a lay, but this semester is going to be fruitful now that i have guys i can hit up for good house parties.

The grocery store i go to like every week....theres always this cute HB7 dark haired girl at the checkout who eye fvcks the sh!t out of me. I reallly need to man up and slip her my number next time, i keep pvssing out.

My good friend is having a huge house party next weeekend. His parties are always awesome, great crowd, cute girls, and best of all, massive social proof for me because i know a ton of people that party there every time. I'll keep you posted. Stay thirsty my friends.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Yea, your not seeing that last chick again. That's just the way things go. But that being said, all in all, sounds like a good night. Keep up the game! It's a little surprising that you elevated so quick to making out with a girl but whatever your doing, seems to be working. I totally agree with you about the touching by the way...

Idk man....her interest levels were through the roof. She said she visits my college quite a bit and i'm pretty sure she'll hit me up next time she's in town. I can tell when a girl is just saying she'll hit me up and when she intends to. Either way though, no big deal.

And yea, for whatever reason i've learned to just fvcking go for the kiss as SOON as you want to. i might not if a girl was kind of standoffish, but if i can tell a girl is really digging me, it's always a good idea to kiss her quickly. Even if she "rejects" you, it still shows that you are sexual and comfortable escalating and not phased if she turns you down at the moment. Like i said, you can get away with much more at a house party than a public bar (or maybe i'm just less confident at the bars)

thanks for the feedback brotha

 

[SmooveMooves]

I love it.

Great field reports man. I like your methods

I don't get it though...

People b1tching about the quality of The double S get 1,000's of reads

Yet....

Someone actually out there using there DJ skills and posting their exploits & failings gets nothing.

However, keep this **** up

 

[gravityeyelids]

I love it.

Great field reports man. I like your methods

I don't get it though...

People b1tching about the quality of The double S get 1,000's of reads

Yet....

Someone actually out there using there DJ skills and posting their exploits & failings gets nothing.

However, keep this **** up

Way too many people whining like little girls instead of focusing on improving themselves. But thanks guys, good to know people actually will read this.


UPDATE: TINDER GAME

i've been doing this tinder thing for a few weeks now....no meetups, but i've had at least like 90 matches, maybe 10-15 of those were hot enough where i would pursue. Got about 3 or 4 numbers...none of them panned out yet..I might be better off pushing for a coffee date rather than invite them to my place for a drink, which is what i've been trying to do. i'll keep you updated.

 

[gravityeyelids]

TEXT GAME FOLLOW-UP FOR HB7.5

So i started texting the HB7.5 that i made out with on saturday. Her IL is super high so I pushed for a casual meetup, which was a good idea.

Convo:

Me (3:22pm): You're terrible.
HB7.5 (3:23pm): Why am i terrible?!
Me (3:34pm): You molested my face repeatedly in public
HB7.5 (3:37pm): Hey now, it wasn't just me committing the crime
HB7.5 (3:40pm: Nobody even saw
Me (3:41pm): Yea...we're terrible. We should probably be locked away...in seperate cells.
HB7.5 (3:44pm): We probably should...that might be the only solution
Me (3.55pm): Yea but you would probably try to dig a tunnel through the wall so you could get to me. Pervert.
HB7.5 (3:56pm): I would not! I think you've got the wrong idea about me!
Me (4:16pm): Nah i think i've got you all figured out
HB7.5 (4:18pm): No sir you do not, i promise!
Me (4:20pm): That's good to hear. Boring people are the worst.
HB7.5 (4:25pm): They are, probably the worst type of person to be. Besides like a serial killer, that's pretty bad too
Me (4:29pm): Yea but at least serial killers are probably exciting in the sack.
HB7.5 (4:32pm): You think so?? I'm probably content with never finding out if that's true haha
Me (4:41pm): I've gg. But we should continue this conversation at [coffee shop] later this week. When are you free?
HB7.5 (4:45pm): Well, i'm free every day at some point. But i'm going home friday. When are you free?
Me (4:49pm): Thursday i have a meeting at 6:30, but other than that, i'm good. How does 8pm sound?
HB7.5 (4:51pm): On thursday?
Me (4:53pm): Yes.
HB7.5 (4:54pm): Sounds like a plan

As you can see, she's replying right away, being flirty. I love when this happens.
I'll keep you guys updated.

 

[SmooveMooves]

TEXT GAME FOLLOW-UP FOR HB7.5

So i started texting the HB7.5 that i made out with on saturday. Her IL is super high so I pushed for a casual meetup, which was a good idea.

Convo:

Me (3:22pm): You're terrible.
HB7.5 (3:23pm): Why am i terrible?!
Me (3:34pm): You molested my face repeatedly in public
HB7.5 (3:37pm): Hey now, it wasn't just me committing the crime
HB7.5 (3:40pm: Nobody even saw
Me (3:41pm): Yea...we're terrible. We should probably be locked away...in seperate cells.
HB7.5 (3:44pm): We probably should...that might be the only solution
Me (3.55pm): Yea but you would probably try to dig a tunnel through the wall so you could get to me. Pervert.
HB7.5 (3:56pm): I would not! I think you've got the wrong idea about me!
Me (4:16pm): Nah i think i've got you all figured out
HB7.5 (4:18pm): No sir you do not, i promise!
Me (4:20pm): That's good to hear. Boring people are the worst.
HB7.5 (4:25pm): They are, probably the worst type of person to be. Besides like a serial killer, that's pretty bad too
Me (4:29pm): Yea but at least serial killers are probably exciting in the sack.
HB7.5 (4:32pm): You think so?? I'm probably content with never finding out if that's true haha
Me (4:41pm): I've gg. But we should continue this conversation at [coffee shop] later this week. When are you free?
HB7.5 (4:45pm): Well, i'm free every day at some point. But i'm going home friday. When are you free?
Me (4:49pm): Thursday i have a meeting at 6:30, but other than that, i'm good. How does 8pm sound?
HB7.5 (4:51pm): On thursday?
Me (4:53pm): Yes.
HB7.5 (4:54pm): Sounds like a plan

As you can see, she's replying right away, being flirty. I love when this happens.
I'll keep you guys updated.

You, my friend, are a master of the thumbs.

They must be Golden.

Perfect execution of text game , fun & Flirty, sexual, and cut right to the date setup.

Respect.

 

[gravityeyelids]

So i've got that HB7.5 locked down for thursday night

Tonight i got my first decent headway with gaming girls on Tinder. As i said, i've pulled like 4 or 5 numbers from there...but nothing has panned out until now. This girl (we'll call her Kaitlin), is.....idk around a 7 from her pictures. We'll see in person. But i think she's gonna be cute. Here's our convo's:

TINDER:

Me: Kaitlin!
Kaitlin: [GravityEyelids]!
Me : You're cute.
Kaitlin: So are you
Me: Thank You. I think you raided my iTunes you jerk..
Me: Did you raid my iTunes and post my bands as your favorites? Be Honest.

[This takes some explaination. For those that dont know, Tinder links to your facebook and when you match someone it shows what interests you have in common. Me and her had 11, which is a very large number. They were all bands like nirvana, black keys, radiohead...just my kinda girl B). The reason the sameish line was sent twice was because tinder is glitchy and sometimes it fails to send so i resent what i thought was the same line. I followed it up with the following third message, which i thought might have done me in with this girl because she didnt respond till like the next day]

Me: I hate this app so much.
Kaitlin: Lol i hate it too, i forget i even have it sometimes. But nope, i swear! Haha i love them all
Me: Here, it's easier to text me: xxx-xxx-xxxx. I assume you go to [my college]?

TEXT:
Kaitlin: Hey it's Kaitlin from tinder
Me: Dont be rediculous. We didnt meet on that stupid app we met at one of Jay-z's exclusive NY parties
Kaitlin: Oh yea obviously. How could I forget?
Me: Yea you were eyefvcking me from across the room constantly so I was pretty much obligated to introduce myself at that point..
Kaitlin: I was really hoping you hadnt noticed. I thought i was being so coy...
Me: Yea, you saw me taking shots of schnapps with Will Ferrell and knew you simply had to meet me.
Kaitlin: You have me completely figured out. Bravo.
Me:
Kaitlin: Haha but i never did answer your question! I do currently go to [my college]
Me: Well then we'll have to continue this convo in person. Let's go to [coffee shop] later this week. When are you free?
Kaitlin: Would friday work for you?
Me[the following day]: Yep, 3pm?
Kaitlin: Perfect!

Booyah! Friday was just what i had in mind. When it rains it pours...this momentum is so frustrating. You either have absolutely no girls, or you are juggling a bunch. This is because girls can tell when you're getting girls, you have better success with women when you are having success with women, and less when you have less. Glad i'm coming out of this dry spell.

I didnt put the times of the texts sent because i'm too lazy...but in general i try to take just as long if not twice as long as she took to reply to my previous messages. And she wasnt responding right away either. Which i like, because i get suspicious that it's a low quality girl when they're texting back RIGHT AWAY all the time. Stay tuned for the juicy details on our next episode.

Tinder Strategy
I've learned some good tinder strategy from various sources, and my own experience:
1) shouting their name (ex: sarah! or kaitlin!) is a great, simple opener that they ALWAYS respond to (the same way too)
2) Following up (or even opening) with a direct "You're cute" is not a bad move. You've already "liked" each other based completely on pictures, so its obvious and doesnt make you seem overly interested.
3) Be fun, do the same stuff as text game, except maybe be a little bit more playful and less sexual. They're so sick of guys trying to get sexual right away, they just want to see you as a fun person. Plus the speed at which you push for a phone number and date will let them know you mean business
4) "Switch" to texting after about 5-10 messages via a variation of this line "Tinder is so [glitchy/lame/etc]. Here, text me at xxx-xxxx." Try to put something else in this message so it seems casual and not like you're just trying to get the number. again, you're just switching....similar to the concept of bouncing.
5) Set up the date quickly - Some "pros" even advocate trying to meet up that night. i could see it working, but i've only had limited success by suggesting something more casual like coffee a few days later. Regardless, you send a few fun/flirty fluff messages back and forth then suggest a meetup. This way you can quickly rule out girls not interested instead of texting them for days and days.

I'm gonna try to bounce back to my swanky new apartments after these dates, because the coffee place is like 1 block away from my place. Might just be like:
"hey come back to my place and hang out for a bit" or
"Come back with me, you've gotta check out my awesome lava lamp i got"
....might throw in a "but only if you promise to behave yourself" after either one of those invitations as a mild IOD/disqualifier/whatever

As a side note, i'm pumped for this weekend. I've started finding house parties, where my strength truly lies as far as gaming. The friday party i'm really good friends will all of the 4 guys that live there, and know a lot of their social circle. their parties usually arent too big but this could foster good conversation with any potential ladies

The other party on saturday i'm freaking pumped for. This guy i'm good buddies with has this big fratty type house (it's not a frat though) and always has great, huge parties. Great crowd, great music, no douchebags, cute girls...I know a TON of people going..BOOM SOCIAL PROOF. I'm so much more comfortable when i know a ton of people at a party (as i'm sure most people are). This place is more lowlight/strobelight/everyone get super hammered makeout fest atmosphere with a nice dance floor....perfect.

 

[gravityeyelids]

You, my friend, are a master of the thumbs.

They must be Golden.

Perfect execution of text game , fun & Flirty, sexual, and cut right to the date setup.

Respect.

Thank you sir. This is honestly a great compliment, because just a few months ago my text game was quite possibly one of my WEAKEST LINKS. And now it has become a strength.

I cannot recommend highly enough Braddock's Guide to Text and Phone game or w/e it's called. His concept of girls being short/medium/long fuses is golden and made me realize what i was doing wrong and revamp my game. Basically short=high interest level, medium = medium IL, and long = low IL. Your text game has to be completely different depending on how "short" the girl's fuse is. Sorry if this sounds like an advertisement. I've really been working to improve my texting.

For those people not getting results, it could very well be your text game. If you're weak here, you will NEVER turn those numbers into meetups/lays. That's what was happening to me, and it was so frustrated. I realized i was sounding like a needy b!tch and had to change that.


UPDATE: REGARDING ALCOHOL

I, like everyone else, have always relied on alcohol to relax me at parties. While this works to an extent, obviously it makes you think you're more smooth than you actually are, and you end up getting sloppy with your game. Usually i get way too drunk when i go out and have mild success with average chicks just because i go caveman on them and get like makeouts and stuff. But I'm pleased to report that over the last few weekends, i've learned to lessen the amount of booze i drink, and space it out over the night, to the point where i'm much sharper than the other guys there and my game is doing much better as a result. I'm terrible with remembering names and details, and drinking doesnt help this. Also, by getting too drunk i ruin the following day in terms of productivity.

A large part of the problem is i sometimes feel insecure walking into a party without being sufficiently buzzed/drunk. However, all people do once you get to a party/bar is continue drinking copious amounts. So i'd pregame too hard, and be way too drunk after an hour at the party. In addition, if i feel uncomfortable i sip my drink like every 20 seconds, which is a problem if you're a liquor drinker like I am. This weekend i'm going to try both reducing my pregaming amount (maybe keep it to like 2 shots or 2 beers), and pace myself better throughout the night. This will allow me to stay sharper than both the guys and girls their and not lose my head, enabling me to run game more effectively. In addition, it's hard to close when it's 2am and you're absolutely sloshed trying to get a girl back to your place. Stay thirsty my friends.

 

[gravityeyelids]

UPDATE - LIBRARY GAME

So i go to class today...it's an evening class about research methods. Our professor makes us do all these stupid exercises. So today our assignment is to go to the campus library in groups, and sit at various locations in the library and basically take notes on the interactions between the people there, the sensory things around, etc. It's for an ethnographic study, which i guess deals with culture and how people interact and stuff. But basically it's creepy because we're sitting there in groups watching other people study and taking notes on them.

My professor said we can go up to people and tell them what we're doing and stuff. WHAT'S A DON JUAN TO DO IN THIS CIRCUMSTANCE??

I'll tell you what he does. I suggest to my group that we all break off and go talk to people and gather data instead of creeping on them. I walk around for a bit....naturally i'm on the hunt for ladies. I see these two girls sitting together....they look cute, but it's hard to tell from the back of their heads. I go up and say

"Hey, can i ask you guys some questions for this assignment i'm doing?"
"Sure, whatever, yea"
"Honestly....this assignment is so stupid. We're basically supposed to watch people in the lib and find out how they're interacting. I need you girls to save me from this assignment, so i'm just going to sit here and talk to you for like 10 minutes."

They're totally feeling me. They turn out to both be pretty damn cute undergrad sorority girls. Make small talk, start flirting. They're both making eyes at me, i'm teasing them a little. after i've built some comfort and they've been flashing me IOIs for a while, i get down to business.

"You girls know anything fun going on this weekend?"
"Umm nooo not really blah blah"
[I didnt expect them to offer because i'm not offering any value at this point, but i quickly get to my point.....]
"..Because my good buddy is having this craazy house party on saturday, if you're looking for something to do."
"Idk maybe, we've got dry days on thurs and fri for our sorority"
"Well then you can drink on saturday. It's at [address]."
"Ohhh i think we've been there before"
"You probably have, they always have great parties going on. One of you should take my number and maybe i'll hit you up to party"
[She pulls her phone out to get it, but we get sidetracked and start talking about other stuff before she can ask for it. I don't react and just keep conversing like i forgot i asked her to take it, she shows me a picture on her phone cause we were talking about her fake ID or whatever]
"Oh I was going to get your number wasnt I?"
[I give her my number. This is the blonde, who is like....idk a good 7.5 on my scale....we'll call her Bri. Her friend is equally hot, but i cant see her body]
She texts me her name and i save it. Blah blah, we chat for a bit longer, and then i go:
"We'll i've gotta get going back to my group. I'll catch you later"

I eject, and shoot her a text like 10 mins later:
Me: Rack City *****
[inside joke, because she had said my last name sounds like tyga or whatever so thats what she put it in her phone as, and i made this joke that he was my brother]
Bri: I like what you did there
Me: Gotta rep my brotha. I'm half black
[I was really hoping she would say something like "which half?" so that i could get sexual and imply that i have a huge dingaling, but to no avail...]
Bri: You're skin really showed it.
Me: You callin' me a liar?

That's it for now...i'll keep you gentlemen posted

 

[gravityeyelids]

UPDATE

HB7.5 Flaked. Honestly i thought the tinder girl would rather than this girl. Texted me this morning:

HB7.5 (9:59am): Hey i just found out that i have to go to a presentation at 7:45 so i'm not going to be able to make it tonight.
Me (11:29am): No worries, some other time then.

For some reason i never believe girls when they do stuff like this. I suppose it could be a legitimate excuse. I mean if she were lying I feel like she would have done it like two hours before the meetup. Still, it's annoying, and she didnt make a counteroffer or anything..

What you guys think? Just stop texting her until she re-initiates? Or throw out a text in a week or so?

 

[El Payaso]

UPDATE

HB7.5 Flaked. Honestly i thought the tinder girl would rather than this girl. Texted me this morning:

HB7.5 (9:59am): Hey i just found out that i have to go to a presentation at 7:45 so i'm not going to be able to make it tonight.
Me (11:29am): No worries, some other time then.

For some reason i never believe girls when they do stuff like this. I suppose it could be a legitimate excuse. I mean if she were lying I feel like she would have done it like two hours before the meetup. Still, it's annoying, and she didnt make a counteroffer or anything..

What you guys think? Just stop texting her until she re-initiates? Or throw out a text in a week or so?

Great response. If she didn't offer a counter, she's not really interested. Just move on to the next. I get this all the time. If after a week, I don't hear from her initiating another date, I just delete her number and texts.

 

[gravityeyelids]

UPDATE

Tinder girl flaked. Well she said she's sick which idk if you'd count it as a flake. Says she's got the flu, but offered to reschedule and i said to hit me up when she feels better, she responded enthusiastically and apologized, which is more than i can say for the other girl that flaked.

Oh well, fvck em. I'll meet girls hotter than them at the house parties i'm about to go to tonight and tomorrow.

 

[El Payaso]

UPDATE

Tinder girl flaked. Well she said she's sick which idk if you'd count it as a flake. Says she's got the flu, but offered to reschedule and i said to hit me up when she feels better, she responded enthusiastically and apologized, which is more than i can say for the other girl that flaked.

Oh well, fvck em. I'll meet girls hotter than them at the house parties i'm about to go to tonight and tomorrow.

Good attitude.

 

[gravityeyelids]

UPDATE - FRIDAY PARTY

Okay, so remember when i posted all that sh!t about not getting too drunk...yeaaaa got super drunk last night. Party was pretty fun. Wasn't on my A-game, at least at first. Got there and there were like 10 dudes and 4 chicks. feeling shy at first. Didnt see a good opportunity to open the girls, but i should've just went for it and said "hey who're you?' like i usually do just to get talking to some girls. As the night went on I started talking to girls. Like i said, i got pretty drunk. I did end up making out with this girl for like 20 minutes though. She was actually sober that night so she could DD. I woke up with 3 numbers in my phone. One of which was her, the other two, i have no idea who they are. This happens more than it should when i go out partying. But the girl i made out with, sometimes the drink can affect my hotness judgment so i was worried that she wasnt cute. But i looked her up on the facebook and turns out shes pretty sexy. So i'm gonna hit her up. Being that she was sober this actually helps me a ton because i wasnt just some guy she hooked up with while drunk.

EDIT - So i asked my friend that was with me if the girl i was making out with was cute...He goes "which one? you made out with like 4 girls." Haha, oops. As a side note, i've done no fap for like the last 5 days and i'm in heat. I'm aggressive as fvck. Also i black out really easily when drunk which sucks. But oh well. The big party is tonight. Oh yes. Oh yes.

Gonna eat some frozen chicken patties. Normally i dont do this, i normally eat healthy stuff, but i think i'm still drunk, so it sounds good. Booyah!

 

[gravityeyelids]

UPDATE - SATURDAY PARTY

Went to the party last night and honestly i was kinda dissapointed. First off, there weren't near as many people as there usually are at this kid's parties. There were maybe 30 people on average there. Not my best night. While i did know a lot of people there, i was intimidated. I will tell you why. The theme was Fancy party, meaning dress up. I was rocking my button up, tie, black pants, black shoes. But the girls....sh!t. I have a thing for tight dresses. I really do. Tight dresses with heels make me go nuts. Naturally all the girls were rocking tight dresses, and there were a LOT of tight dresses. I was so intimidated because these girls, who would have looked like 7 or 8's on the street, when dressed up like that looked like straight up 9's and 10's. It was unbearable. I know i'm not supposed to put them on a pedestal, but damn.

That's one thing about night game that sucks. The girls are all dressed up and look sexy as hell so it can be intimidating. I don't do day game nearly enough, but it's time to change that. The beautiful thing about day game is that, for example, the girls i approached at the library were just in sweats and yoga pants, so i didn't realize how sexy they were, so it didnt phase me talking to them. But if they were dresssed up at night and had their b!tch shields on full blast,it wouldve been much harder to approach.

Anyway, i was talking to girls. In particular this one really really cute blonde that was standing alone, looking bored. Turns out she was the designated driver for the night. She was also my friend's roommate which is cool. Talked to her for a good 20 mins or so. At one point i was talking about how i prefer brunettes (not in an a$$hole way though), i might have gone a little heavy on the disqualification, but she was probably just exhausted from being the only sober one there. I shouldve pulled her number when i got the chance, but i ejected from the set early to go talk to another friend and never went back and grabbed it. Oh well. This other cute girl i was talking to for a while, and then later in the night, i said "Hey, put your number in my phone". She goes "that was abrupt." She was stoned, but still. I havent gotten turned down for a number in AGES. I guess it struck me as weird cause she was flirting with me and i wasnt weird about the number thing, very casual. But whatever.

 

[gravityeyelids]

UPDATE - TWO Tinder Number pulls

Just been messing around on Tinder. Girl 1 (we'll call her Kassy), is a cute brunette. Here's the convo. She actually opened me, which isnt unheard of, it happens a lot for me, but they're always by unattractive girls. As a side note, i revamped all my Tinder pictures. I had my roommate take some good pictures with his Canon 60D, and they make me look bomb. As we know, tinder is all about looks (as well as text game), so this has improved my results.
Spring break is coming up and i'm going back to my parents house over break, which is in a different city from where i go to school, so i'm trying to find girls to hang out with over break

Kassy - Tinder

Kassy - Hey
Me - Hey. You're cute.
Kassy - Thanks so are you where are you from
Me - I go to school at [college] but i live in [my hometown] during the summer. You?
Kassy - [Other College] for school and just moved to [my hometown] for summers and breaks.
Me - Going anywhere exciting for spring break?
Kassy - Hahaha nope just home
Me - Yea same here. Probably go out to the bars in [my hometown] with friends. Is [her college]'s break next week too?
Kassy - It is indeed. next friday i'll be at [music venue in my hometown] to watch my friend's band your more than welcome to come
Me - What band is it? And here, it's easier to text: ***-****
Kassy - He's in a band called [band]

Kassy - Text

Her - Hey this is Kassy
Me - Idk if i'll be in town yet, but i'll let you know. As a counteroffer, my friend is having a party saturday if you're interested
Her - I could possibly do that
Me - But you have to promise you're not psycho. Cause if you start biting people or slapping or whatever, then i'm gonna get chewed out
Her - I'm guessing you have a rep for bringing the wrong girls?
Me - There was an... incident involving a cheese grater, snow shovel, and bucket of sour cream. I don't really want to talk about it.
Her - Your kidding right?
Me - She was such a sweet girl until that fvcking Kesha song came on...
Her - wht one?
Me - Tik Tok.
Her - Hahah interesting well i garuntee you i wont go wild

I'll post the other convo when i get the motivation to do so.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Forgot to update that today i had planned to grab coffee with the library girl, as well as the Kaitlin (tinder) girl is coming over later tonight

Library girl convo:

Me: Let's grab coffee later this week. When are you free?
Her: Thursday
Me: 7:30/8ish at [coffee place]?
Her; I'm going home that night :/
Me: Let's shoot for 3 or 4 then. I've got a meeting at 6:30.
Her: I can do that
Me: Sounds good sista

this was two days ago. Today i texted her around 3pm :

Me: Wanna do 3:30?

No response and it's almost 4pm. Rude ass fvcking b!tch. I mean i planned on her flaking, but i figured she would have at least had the decency to give me some excuse. I've been flaked on the last 3 times. Obviously i'm doing something wrong. I'm fvcking pissed. And this girl i had slept with a couple times and basically had the start of a Fbuddy relationship going hasn't replied to my last text or two. I've kept a clear head up until this point, but i'm sick of this sh!t. Don't fvcking waste my time you stupid b!tches. I have better things to do than make time for you and then have you bail on me. So disrespectful. at least the other chicks had the courtesy to let me know ahead of time. She better not text me in a few hours saying some sh!t like "'sorry i was busy" or whatever. This b!tch's number is already deleted. I wish i hadnt already gone to the gym today, cause I wanted to head off to the gym at like 3:45 and forget her a$$ and work out my anger. Thank God for Eminem. I'm done trying. from now on, i'm not spinning these plates, sending these fvcking texts out, pandering to these b!tches that arent worth my time.

I'ma go to parties and have a good time without relying on chasing poon. I'm basically gonna ignore these girls until they open me, and have fun with my friends and not worry about it. I don't need that sh!t, and i think my craving for a$$ has made me needy. I'm gonna lead these chicks on and fvcking bail on them. I'm done following up, texting like 6 numbers i've gathered in the past two weeks, reaching out for a meetup that's never going to come. I'm going caveman on this sh!t. I'ma start grabbing girls by the back of their head and sticking my tongue down their throat and walking away (after they give me an IOI, i'm NOT talking about raping chicks. inb4 "have fun in jail"). I'm done being nice. I'm done being polite. My life has centered around getting dates for the last few months and it's a waste of my time. It's time i focus on what really matters: working out, building my body, getting healthy, getting smarter, building myself up, pursuing my career, working on my hobbies, becoming better than all these fvcking chodes that surround me whom I KNOW i'm better than in every single way imaginable. I'm smarter, better looking, stronger, more capable, smoother, and more motivated than these fvcking losers, and I don't need to put up with being jerked around like some puppy dog while these girls treat me like these other chodes. Rant over. I'm out.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Forgot to update that today i had planned to grab coffee with the library girl, as well as the Kaitlin (tinder) girl is coming over later tonight

Library girl convo:

Me: Let's grab coffee later this week. When are you free?
Her: Thursday
Me: 7:30/8ish at [coffee place]?
Her; I'm going home that night :/
Me: Let's shoot for 3 or 4 then. I've got a meeting at 6:30.
Her: I can do that
Me: Sounds good sista

this was two days ago. Today i texted her around 3pm :

Me: Wanna do 3:30?

No response and it's almost 4pm. Rude ass fvcking b!tch. I mean i planned on her flaking, but i figured she would have at least had the decency to give me some excuse. I've been flaked on the last 3 times. Obviously i'm doing something wrong. I'm fvcking pissed. And this girl i had slept with a couple times and basically had the start of a Fbuddy relationship going hasn't replied to my last text or two. I've kept a clear head up until this point, but i'm sick of this sh!t. Don't fvcking waste my time you stupid b!tches. I have better things to do than make time for you and then have you bail on me. So disrespectful. at least the other chicks had the courtesy to let me know ahead of time. She better not text me in a few hours saying some sh!t like "'sorry i was busy" or whatever. This b!tch's number is already deleted. I wish i hadnt already gone to the gym today, cause I wanted to head off to the gym at like 3:45 and forget her a$$ and work out my anger. Thank God for Eminem. I'm done trying. from now on, i'm not spinning these plates, sending these fvcking texts out, pandering to these b!tches that arent worth my time.

I'ma go to parties and have a good time without relying on chasing poon. I'm basically gonna ignore these girls until they open me, and have fun with my friends and not worry about it. I don't need that sh!t, and i think my craving for a$$ has made me needy. I'm gonna lead these chicks on and fvcking bail on them. I'm done following up, texting like 6 numbers i've gathered in the past two weeks, reaching out for a meetup that's never going to come. I'm going caveman on this sh!t. I'ma start grabbing girls by the back of their head and sticking my tongue down their throat and walking away (after they give me an IOI, i'm NOT talking about raping chicks. inb4 "have fun in jail"). I'm done being nice. I'm done being polite. My life has centered around getting dates for the last few months and it's a waste of my time. It's time i focus on what really matters: working out, building my body, getting healthy, getting smarter, building myself up, pursuing my career, working on my hobbies, becoming better than all these fvcking chodes that surround me whom I KNOW i'm better than in every single way imaginable. I'm smarter, better looking, stronger, more capable, smoother, and more motivated than these fvcking losers, and I don't need to put up with being jerked around like some puppy dog while these girls treat me like these other chodes. Rant over. I'm out.

It can be frustrating sometimes brah, but try not to get so angry. Your response is correct, (ignoring them, letting them open) but just don't try to let it effect you. I know that's easier said then done, but look at it this way, I've been flaked on the last 6 times. Yeah 6, God damn right? First, I was more angry than you are. I was getting fidgety, sweating more, I needed some poon (JOKING) but then, I got flaked on again, this time, in the worst way. A girl opened with Me on FB the other day, one whom I'd dated in my AFC days and never got to slay, one who went from a 6 to a 8 since the last time we spoke. One whom i know for fact wouls give me the best BJ in American history. (Big angelina Jolie Lips) She just stopped hitting me back mid conversation when I offered her the meetup. No "I'm busy" or "I'm sorry" or "You're boring" Nada. Later to update her status as like she hadn't d1ck smacked me hard enough, as if to say, " I did not respond because you're a piece of sh1t"

What's worse is my value is WAY more than hers as I turned her down even when I was an AFC.

So that's when it hit me, I had died and been reborn fvckless. Which is I think the way to go about this. I almost count so much on a flake now, that I lean toward flaking myself. and to the girls that flaked on me so far, if they don't hit me up with a lawyer and legal documentation with a plea bargain of the reason of flake, its O-V-A.


So continue your response, and start fresh. Keep doing what you're doing to get the numbers, but this time leave all your fvcks in a safe. Set up dates and be outcome independent. This is easier said then done, but it is truly fvcking amazing. Count on flakes, bet on it. And if they dont flake, gravy, but be prepared to face an abundance of flakes. This mindset has helped my Zen. Dont let these hoes bring in negativity with flakiness.

May Karma destroy them for the missed opportunity with one of the greatest men on the planet.