making conversation with girls...

[cesar]

I got a problem when talking to girls...
After finding out the girls name, and give them an compliment...I just dont know what to say to them afterwards to make conversation.

what should i ask her??

 

[jeffthechef]

hmm..compliments right away???..at this age, it's probably not as bad...but use them more sparingly as you get older..with each girl..too many compliments=desperate, lonely, unworthy...although it's hs, try and slow down

as for what to talk about...the basics...her
that's what you talk about...her

there are lots of ratios...some prefer 60% her and 40% you...
i suggest you simply let it flow..but of course don't overtalk..as long as the flow is close to balanced or feels good you're fine...and as long as the subject is not political or religious..you should be fine...but women love to talk about themselves...so that usually hits..and there are a bunch of good subjects that will arise out of your initial topic

it's really not what you talk about but how you talk or are around her...girls don't go home and think about what you guys talk about for that long..they may remember a thing or two but they won't "judge" you based on the conversation topics...they think about waht you looked like, how you stood, the tone of your voice, your body language in general

confidence and happiness is all you need..smile and laugh..dont be negative..that simple really

 

[Analyzeit]

jeffthechef is right.

But just after asking a few questions, just get her to talk about herself. Girls love talking about themselves. All of them, they really don't care much about you, but they like someone who can listen (or at least look like you are).

Other then that jeff speaks nothing but the truth

good luck man.

p.s Ratios don't help, people actually going to try keep a ratio of how much they've talked?? That going to be hard lol. Its all about flow.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Like already mentioned before, try having them talk about themselves and keep on asking questions that will have them talk about themselves. The first question I usually ask girls when I meet them is "What school do you go to?" If they state a different school then the one I go to, even if I already know the location to where it is, I usually ask them "Where is that at?" At this point they usually just yab on about where they're from and I'm able to grab topic subjects from their conversation to expand on.

The one book that really helped my conversation skills is a book called "How To Make Great Conversations And Small Talk". Here's a little sample of the book:

YOU PROBABLY ASK YOURSELF:

What should I talk about? What shall I say? How will I fill this silence in the conversation? You enter into these meetings and encounters with ME ME ME on your mind! You forget about communicating with the other person because you are too busy thinking of what to say! In fact you don’t end up communicating you just end up taking it in turns talking!

Let me tell you something now that may shock you. The best conversationalists in this world are the best listeners NOT the best talkers. In fact, the person who says the least is often the best communicator yet
you are there racking your brains thinking of things to say all of the time! It took me years to finds this out and it would have saved me a lot of time
and heartache if only I had known it sooner! Having said that this is the BEST tip I could ever give you:

If you want to be an excellent communicator = BECOME AN EXPERT LISTENER

Let me explain why.
When you become an expert listener is means that the other person is
doing most of the talking. When you go into a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time, meeting a business associate or need to start a conversation go into that encounter with only one thing on your mind – THEM. You must treat that person as they are the most important person in the world, because to them they are! To build up rapport and to engage in a conversation ask questions and be intrigued about the other person not you.

So, what do you talk to the other person about? Well, like I said before, you don’t! You let them do most of the talking and by doing this they will think that you walk on water and will in turn ask about you and that’s when YOU
talk!

The book is very good and there's a lot more juicy information packed in it as well, I highly recommend it.