Now it has been talked about before, but here's a view on how to compliment a girl.
To me, it's important not to shower compliments, first and foremost. Too many compliments that are over the top will make a person feel like they're too above you, and eventually, it can get annoying.
However, even if you compliment very infrequently, doing it incorrectly may make even infrequent compliments have the same effect.
When you compliment, you can't say it in a way that puts her on a pedestal. The tone of your voice is important here. It needs to be sincere and assertive. Don't sound all mushy and like some spineless wuss looking for the girl to fall into your arms and just melt. Make it sound like it's a passing thing that you'd be ok if she didn't even acknowledge it (she'll will, trust me, even if she doesn't respond). Basically, compliment her without seeming like you're looking for anything in return.
If you compliment in a ****y manner, it makes you seem like a player who says that sort of stuff to all women, and it dilutes its meaning and sincerity. ****iness should be reserved for being funny and sarcastic.
If you compliment in a non-assertive, mushy manner, it makes you seem like you are insecure with being expressive and thus, displaying a lack of confidence in yourself.
Make the compliment short and sweet, nothing too elaborate, since it will not seem spontaneous enough.
There's a girl I know who I almost never compliment much on her looks. I only acknowledge things, such as, "you got a french manicure", or "you cut your hair" (works well if she cut off very little and you notice it), but rarely compliment on them, such as by adding "it looks nice". The other day she put her hair up in sort of a ponytail, but sort of with the end tucked back in, so that the end of the ponytail doesn't hang off. Anyways, she plays around with her hair a lot, putting it up, and putting it down, but never did it this way before. I said to her "I love how girls can just put their hair up like that and create an instant style", then I said "it looks cute". She kept her hair that way for the rest of the time.
Anyways, just another spin on a topic that has likely been discussed before. But who cares, I'm posting it anyways. What else is new?
To me, it's important not to shower compliments, first and foremost. Too many compliments that are over the top will make a person feel like they're too above you, and eventually, it can get annoying.
However, even if you compliment very infrequently, doing it incorrectly may make even infrequent compliments have the same effect.
When you compliment, you can't say it in a way that puts her on a pedestal. The tone of your voice is important here. It needs to be sincere and assertive. Don't sound all mushy and like some spineless wuss looking for the girl to fall into your arms and just melt. Make it sound like it's a passing thing that you'd be ok if she didn't even acknowledge it (she'll will, trust me, even if she doesn't respond). Basically, compliment her without seeming like you're looking for anything in return.
If you compliment in a ****y manner, it makes you seem like a player who says that sort of stuff to all women, and it dilutes its meaning and sincerity. ****iness should be reserved for being funny and sarcastic.
If you compliment in a non-assertive, mushy manner, it makes you seem like you are insecure with being expressive and thus, displaying a lack of confidence in yourself.
Make the compliment short and sweet, nothing too elaborate, since it will not seem spontaneous enough.
There's a girl I know who I almost never compliment much on her looks. I only acknowledge things, such as, "you got a french manicure", or "you cut your hair" (works well if she cut off very little and you notice it), but rarely compliment on them, such as by adding "it looks nice". The other day she put her hair up in sort of a ponytail, but sort of with the end tucked back in, so that the end of the ponytail doesn't hang off. Anyways, she plays around with her hair a lot, putting it up, and putting it down, but never did it this way before. I said to her "I love how girls can just put their hair up like that and create an instant style", then I said "it looks cute". She kept her hair that way for the rest of the time.
Anyways, just another spin on a topic that has likely been discussed before. But who cares, I'm posting it anyways. What else is new?
