Making all the ladies feel special

[nan3109]

My friend (a girl) told me that im not a player or dj yet because real dj's make all of the girls feel special... even ones they dont want. So here's my problem. I only be super nice and compliment/hit on the girls I WANT, which are usually high quality ho's.

How can I make all the girls I meet here in college feel wanted and special? So then I can get in better with the girls here. I live in the dorms by the way and most of the time i hang out with the girls/guys here we're around the dorms.

 

[nan3109]

bump!!!

 

[HypeR]

Be popular, confident and nice. Give girls a nice compliment now and then. Not like "nice ass" but more like "you're cool" if she does something great or "your new haircut looks great!"
That coming from a confident and popular guy makes them feel great.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You friend is right. It's sad that a woman has to point it out though.

You need to be charismatic with all the women. Do not pick and choose which ones you say 'hello' to or flirt with.

Now for the ones you are sarging, you need to be a bit more specific with your flirting toward them. For them be specific with the complements, C/F, neg hits or whatever manner of sarging that you do. You want them to feel 'extra special' because of the additional attention you are giving them.

 

[MacDiddy]

A "real" DJ doesn't qualify himself to other girls.

Spending precious resources on UG must have a cost/benefit (social proof, pivots etc..) otherwise it is simply not necessary.

 

[MrCode]

I think you should extend common social courtesy to women you aren't attracted to, but if you go overboard and start "DJing" them you will inevitably lead them on. From personal experience I can tell you this can lead to some awkward situations.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by MrCode
I think you should extend common social courtesy to women you aren't attracted to, but if you go overboard and start "DJing" them you will inevitably lead them on. From personal experience I can tell you this can lead to some awkward situations.

Sounds like you weren't in control of yourself or your actions. It shouldn't be any surprise what happened.

 

[Bonhomme]

Control comes with experience

There are some gals I've led on, and some cases in which my interest level when I got home wasn't as high as it was when I met them or vice-versa. This kind of thing just happens. nobaody makes the right call all the time. As long as you don't take things too far, no harm will be done.

Overall, it is best to be frendly, charming, and personable to everybody who doesn't earn your enmity.

As far as the difference in how you treat the gals who interest you, that's not a "one size fits all" thing: every gal responds in her own way to things. It's a judgment call, and matter of going with the flow and vibe. Too bad I can't be more specific and concrete in describing it, but such is life.

 

[Island]

Okay, do you think this is a good idea? A lot of women EXPECT men to make them feel good and give them validation.

If you give it to them for free, doesn't that make you a validation monkey?

If this is the age of equality, shouldn't I be making women friends and allies on the same basis as my male friends: competence, trust, respect, loyalty, common interests?

And only treat the women I want to **** with sexual energy?