making a girl your "girlfriend"

[00Kevin]

Anyone here know how long things should go on with a woman before she considers you her boyfriend?

I'm in a situation where things are going great and the girl is showing high interest interest, but I'm unclear as to how long I should let it go on this way. At some point I think I will have to next her if she doesn't call me her boyfriend. Any suggestions as to how long I should wait?

I've also noticed that it takes longer for an older woman to commit to you as your girlfriend.

 

[Sax God]

It really depends on the relationship.

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
Anyone here know how long things should go on with a woman before she considers you her boyfriend?

I'm in a situation where things are going great and the girl is showing high interest interest, but I'm unclear as to how long I should let it go on this way. At some point I think I will have to next her if she doesn't call me her boyfriend. Any suggestions as to how long I should wait?

I've also noticed that it takes longer for an older woman to commit to you as your girlfriend.

how long should you let it go on this way? as long as you want her to keep that high interest level you were talking about.

NEVER be concerned about this. you dont want to have a girlfriend anyways. whats better than having a girl with high interest level and just fooling around with her?

in short. if she doesnt ask then just keep on rollin and dating other women. never never never clarify the situation. when shes ready you'll know. just sit back and take a valium speedy.

 

[StudMeister]

Girls usually make 3 dates the cutoff between dating and a start of a serious relationship.

 

[Nicholas Hill]

Me and my gf have had NO dates, we've simply been walking. We call each other boyfriend and girlfriend simply because it is the most obvious thing - it depends on what she says and does.

Says:

"You are beautiful"
"I love you... (pause), sorry, that was too soon, I mean, I love the things you do"
"I think you're great"...etc

Does:

* Holds on to me
* Rests her head on my well-built shoulders
* Holds hands...etc

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
Anyone here know how long things should go on with a woman before she considers you her boyfriend?

I'm in a situation where things are going great and the girl is showing high interest interest, but I'm unclear as to how long I should let it go on this way. At some point I think I will have to next her if she doesn't call me her boyfriend. Any suggestions as to how long I should wait?

I've also noticed that it takes longer for an older woman to commit to you as your girlfriend.

All that matters is whether or not she is exclusive with you. It could take as little as a couple of dates. Until then, she should be considered just another HB you are dating.

As long as you aren't always available for her (you're out with other women) she will start making inferences about what she would like in a relationship, as long as her IL is still high. Until that time, just balance your efforts.

Remember, it's not HER decision to date you. She would like to try a LTR but it is up to YOU to decide to go along with it.

 

[NatureGuy]

As has already been pointed out, there are no hard and fast rules. It depends
on alot of factors including age (experience)
and competition.
"Boyfriend" implies exclusivity - that we
all know - so personally I would wait for
her to bring it up (viz., refer to you as her
boyfriend) . You can then decide
whether you feel comfortable with that.