Making a girl wait after she's already warmed up

[AlphaNate]

Out of the game for a few years, back now, still getting the hang of things.

Anyway, I have an 8 showing IOI, and I plan on acting. Last night, I was preoccupied. She texts me saying she wants to come over. We've hung out, we've kissed, but she hasn't been to my place yet. I'm not rearranging my night for this chick, so I left her all hot, and I handled what I was working on. I text her back and immediately get IOD.

Not overly concerned about losing this one, but I handled this correctly, right? Something I should have done differently? She's still hot for me, yeah? Just looking for a little feedback. Thanks.

 

[RangerMIke]

Big mistake.... unless you were really busy. If you are just playing games then you are acting like a chick. Women are not attracted to men that act like women.

If you don't stoke the fire the fire goes out... if she is hot, she is going to get sex, it just won't be with you. So you warmed up a fire only so another dude can enjoy it... nice... not smart.

You've blown it with this one... but in the future this is what you should do.... make the FVCKING date and they to seduce her... if you are busy then tell her "How about now... you have time to text, I would rather put my fingers to better use."

MAKE THE FVCKING DATE... If you are busy MAKE A DATE... don't tell her you are going to 'text her later" that is bvllsh!t.

 

[AlphaNate]

Uh, yes, I really was busy lol. Woulda smashed otherwise.

I don't think I understand what you're saying, though. If I'd asked her to meet me tomorrow, I'm 99% sure her response would have been the same.

 

[sazc]

wow, straight booty call inquiry! Chicks like that AMAZE ME!
"hey there, im so NOT in demand, and have nothing to do tonight, that im going to let you know you can fvck me if you want"

idk, I've always thought chicks that booty call reek of desperation, and that is completely unattractive. The guy will never respect them.

I digress. I dont think you blew it.I think this chick will be available to you at some point. If you said nothing after her text at 10:10 then im willing to bet she will be available to you at a later date. idk if I would text and ask 'tomorrow'. She may just tell you no b/c she wants to make you pay for denying her last night. i'd assume she is busy 'tomorrow' and try another day. that wold be funny tho, if you did text her tomorrow to try to hit it and she was suddenly free.

lol, ladies with no respect for themselves

 

[Roober]

Big mistake.... unless you were really busy. If you are just playing games then you are acting like a chick. Women are not attracted to men that act like women.

If you don't stoke the fire the fire goes out... if she is hot, she is going to get sex, it just won't be with you. So you warmed up a fire only so another dude can enjoy it... nice... not smart.

You've blown it with this one... but in the future this is what you should do.... make the FVCKING date and they to seduce her... if you are busy then tell her "How about now... you have time to text, I would rather put my fingers to better use."

MAKE THE FVCKING DATE... If you are busy MAKE A DATE... don't tell her you are going to 'text her later" that is bvllsh!t.

Agreed! Could have said you had plans, but maybe give her an hour or so. Also, you didn't offer an alternative, no bueno

 

[CMNILS87]

Uffda....

Should've said

"Yea but can I trust you over at my place?, you got shifty eyes like one of those rap guys girlfriends". Just something smart ass to tease.
State you're free after 11 and she can swing by. You'll be watching a movie and having a drink.

 

[bigneil]

What trailer park is she from?

Is your place a mess?

Strike when the iron is hot, especially if you haven't had sex yet.

 

[AlphaNate]

Update: F-close. Neither of us ever brought up that night.

I think everyone is assuming I was purposefully JUST making her wait and didn't have other options that night (I was busy with another girl, just not as attractive *shrug*). Maybe that's my fault for not explaining the situation well enough.

Lessons learned though, and thanks for the feedback.

 

[3agle 3yes]

The average guy would say you made a mistake, but we're not supposed to be average here.

I'm no longer interested in just getting laid, I want to get laid on my terms. I'm interested in the long term not the short.

And that's what you did, you never came over when she holla'd like some pvssy bell boy. Because if you did, you would've set the frame that she was in control of you.

It's not really about control either, we're never entirely in control of ourselves anyway, but it's a s sh!t test.

 

[AlphaNate]

The average guy would say you made a mistake, but we're not supposed to be average here.

I'm no longer interested in just getting laid, I want to get laid on my terms. I'm interested in the long term not the short.

And that's what you did, you never came over when she holla'd like some pvssy bell boy. Because if you did, you would've set the frame that she was in control of you.

It's not really about control either, we're never entirely in control of ourselves anyway, but it's a s sh!t test.

Thanks man! That's what I was thinking, but the other posters in this thread had me thinking I'd fvcked something up. Not dropping what I'm doing for a lay.

 

[JohnChops]

wow, straight booty call inquiry! Chicks like that AMAZE ME!
"hey there, im so NOT in demand, and have nothing to do tonight, that im going to let you know you can fvck me if you want"

idk, I've always thought chicks that booty call reek of desperation, and that is completely unattractive. The guy will never respect them.

I digress. I dont think you blew it.I think this chick will be available to you at some point. If you said nothing after her text at 10:10 then im willing to bet she will be available to you at a later date. idk if I would text and ask 'tomorrow'. She may just tell you no b/c she wants to make you pay for denying her last night. i'd assume she is busy 'tomorrow' and try another day. that wold be funny tho, if you did text her tomorrow to try to hit it and she was suddenly free.

lol, ladies with no respect for themselves

I had a fwb thing with a girl like that two years ago, good lay, nothing more. She wasn't the brainy type I wanted so I let her lose.

She texted me about 2 months ago, haven't spoken in two years or so, "hey wana hang out" I told her "sure" and she replied with
"I'm in the city I'll he home at 2 am see you then". It was around 10pm when she sent me that, I said " kk" and went to sleep. Woke up to some interesting texts.

Don't waste my time I won't waste yours.