"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Making a competition of it all

Gunner26

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Hey guys, been out and about recently, doing uni work and having a good time with my mates.

So some of my housemates have started to up their game in regards to how they approach and deal with women, one of my housemates, a natural has really pulled it out of the bag, pulling ONS' at least once a week for roughly 5/6 weeks now.

The other guy, like me hasn't got any sex, but he has been chatting to new people and getting himself involved with new activities and seems to really be getting somewhere with some of the girls he's speaking too. He's even managed to talk to a girl he has a crush on, and is now looking to make a move on her next time they meet.

Watching my mates really up their game, or at least try to seems to be spurring me on to perform better as well. In a sense I guess I'm trying to become more like my natural friend, and out-perform my other housemate who is in a similar position to me in that he doesn't have a lot of experience. It's a friendly competition, but one I seem to be really striving to win at. It's paying off as well and the highlights are that I've managed to make out with a girl that I'm friends with, and never would have tried it on with before, and have also introduced myself to a new girl in lectures who I have been *****ing out of talking to for the best part of a year. I feel really good about this.

Just wondering if you guys have ever had any similar experiences/situations where you have found your friends starting to perform better with women and it having a positive effect on you.

On a side note I have been going gym consistently for about 2 months now, and while I don't look bigger I am stronger, and this has helped me feel even better about myself and probably has gone a long way to making me feel and act the way I am at the moment.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stort_Brød

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Good stuff bro. If you take a closer look at it all successful people only surround themselves with other successful people and that all happens for many reasons. To gather information subconsciously as well as consciously, they always have someone to bounce ideas off, they create friendly competition and much more. it doesn't only apply to the professional world but to the dating world, your hobbies and so on.

so you are moving in the right direction with the company you keep, as the people you frequent will be the ones who's attitudes and habits will rub off on you.
 

Gunner26

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I agree with you mate, successful people do seem to gather together more often.

Interesting thing is I've been hanging out with these guys for over 2 years now, however we all moved in together last month for the first time in student accommodation and since then I've seen changes. I fully believe that this new atmosphere has had an effect on us as we are talking about women in the house frequently.

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Yeah, broke up with my girlfriend just over a week ago and have already bagged 3 girls. In my friendship group at uni, getting laid is normal, whilst I was in a relationship I did get a bit jealous. But I've been hanging with the boys more since the break up and I remember one night about 6-7 of us all pulled; it does rub off on you.

It's weird though because all we ever seem to do is hang out, drink, talk to the odd girl then some poor unsuspecting girl walks past, a quick flirt and shes game.

My goal now is to set up a rotation of girls and just enjoy my final year.
 

Gunner26

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Haha Mr Wright I understand that as well. Normally if I pull it's a complete random girl who just happens to be walking past, or dancing nearby. Normally I say less than 5 words to them before we make out. It does feel good knowing that I've got that in my locker, however it's probably my strongest area, I'm still not great at building attraction through talking, body language and action is where I feel confident.

Maybe it's me, but on a night out at least, if I try talking to them and get rejected, it feels worse than me just giving them the eyes and her turning around immediately in disgust ha.

A rotation of girls would be good for me, but I need to be realistic and get one in the bag first, obviously I'll talk to everyone, but baby steps. I find getting on a role takes momentum which I haven't quite got yet.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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