"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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make high school heaven: my reflections

Jack Wealthy

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I just finished high school, ot the school part at least, I still have two exams and a graduation to attend. I entered high school a loner, reject, an undesirable. Five years later I left a literal legend at my school. Here's everything I learnt along the way:
1) you over think things. No really, you do. Thinking should take the form: do I want this? If yes, "is it worth the effort?" Of yes you go for it. Any extra thought put toward social activities, exempting planing should that be your jive, is useless. Think-act until thw think part disappears.
2) everyone else over thinks things. The first sounds great and is great should you be able to implement it. No more anxiety? Relaxation? The reason you have to start acting and stop analysing is because no one else will. The few who do likely aren't working with you either, unless you're already in the popular group.
3) initiative, mother fvcker. By being the guy going for what he wants, you stand out. Mystery wore a boa, peacocks have feathers, you got grit. Bonus points abound, because determination is what sets apart champs and chumps in sport and academia.
4) novelty>comfort. Upon leaving high school, you'll regret what you could have done but didn't for whatever reason. You'll remember tour novel experiences, the times you did, as well. When you leave school, you'll feel fulfilled based on these. The more novelty you create, the more others will remember you. This is what will fill your inbox with messages once you leave.
Finally and most importantly:
5) build momentum. Stick by the above four, pick up new hobbies, devote yourself to existing hobbies, spend as little time watching tv/playing video games/surfing the net as possible. Then, when met with failure- it should happen daily- respond not with negativity but optimism. Don't dwell. Ask yourself what you did wrong. Honestly appraise yourself. Then stop. You've learnt all you can. Move onto thw next thing. If you did nothing wrong but failed besides? Life is chaos, circumstance cannot be controlled. Accept the failure. You should never want to be infallible,be a master. Abandon ego. Accept the realities of life, thw variety and equality between all life. Always be a student, learning and developing. Progressing towards your life goals. Living
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Wise words Jack Wealthy. Wise words.
You have captured a most desirable of mindsets.
 
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