"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Make her develop oneitis for you
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Renegade357
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Oneitis is unreasonable, almost obsessive attraction. There's no technique to make someone have that.dbx said:
The woman just has to buy into whatever you are. If you're a moody musician, she has to love that. If you're a wild jock, she has to love that. It's not like you can just be average Joe Sixpack, read some bullet points on a message board, and have girls develop oneitis for you.
It's not like ****y&funny, calling once per week, and getting in good shape is going to make girls have oneitis for you. Oneitis is like a chemistry thing. Two people meet each other, and one goes crazy for the other one. There's no technique.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
backbreaker
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not only that, this isn't something you really want.zekko said:
do you really want someone who thinks about you non stop, who hangs on every last word you say, who attaches to you all the time and can't stand not hearing/being with you? do you want someone whose life revolves around you?
none of that **** is healthy at all. to want it out of a woman is some pretty twisted ****. that sounds like a kid who got hurt /scorned by a woman and has some **** they need to get straight in their own life before they try to have a relationship.
men who want women like this are no better than women who drive to get men to act like this.
I mean come on guys, seriously look at yourselves. you come here to get over oneitis that you had for a girl and the only thing you can try to do, is not become a better man, not develop game, but to seek the same feelings of insecurity, low self esteem and general clinginess out of women in retaliation. i have to say that's a pretty ****ty way to look at it all. it really is.
there is nothing sexy about onieitis. that's like saying you want someone to be a crackhead or you want someone to become an alcoholic. it sounds silly but it really isn't. a person who has oneitis i literally, addicted to another person. you want a woman to be addicted to you. tell me, what does that say about you? that you want a woman to actually be addicted to you.
what you want is a woman who is really into you but she also is really in to her too. you can't freaking life like that forever just always around someone. that's one of the things that i like/love about my wife, she loves me, I love her very much, but we can both do our own things and are no worse for it. she doesn't need me to te;ll her what to do and i don't need her to tell me what to do she can take care of herself. no sane person wants someone who is addicted to you. that's not healthy.
The reason guys develop oneitis is because when one girl shows some interest in what they have to offer, she likes their act or their show, when all other girls have told him to get lost, the guy is amazed this one girl likes him and never let's up. He puts all this time and energy into her and doesn't want it to go to waste. The girl starts thinking "what a mistake I made, I sort of liked what I saw when I first saw him and now this guy won't leave me alone. Well ok, if he is going to be like that I'm going to play with his emotions and drive him crazy, it's good for my ego."dbx said:
The best way for her to develop oneitis for you: be with other girls and let her find out by herself.
d!ckmojo
Senior Don Juan
is adjacent to the point
Rather, bigneil is on the money in my opinion with his simple algorithm.
THE MOST EFFECTIVE method to instill oneitis in a woman is by using Heartiste's dread game: http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/03/27/dread/
If you want to figure out a way to make women feel oneitis for you BEFORE you've slept with her, you're a loser. You should only ever always be escalating and seducing in the initial stages of attraction in my opinion. If you don't strike while the iron's hot, you're not a real man capable of decisive action, and the woman will sense that.