SpartanWarrior77
Senior Don Juan
One of the things I suspect guys don't get is whether or not a girl is into them that is a ride or die or whether she's just there for the ride...
Im talking to a girl right now that I'm evaluating for an LTR, she's young and a bit inexperienced. I have a feeling I'm exotic to her, older, more mature, and foreign. Sometimes girls date guys like me because we're something new, interesting and engaging. But it would be a mistake to take her intrigue as ride-or-die LTR material. The thing is it's hard to spot this because in the short-to-mid-term, it can look like she's falling for me but really...she's just enjoying the novelty of the situation. This is why a man absolutely must sh!t-test a woman in this type of scenario.
In my book, sh1t-testing a woman is basically making her bridge the gap over and over again. You give her the tools, you give her the opportunities BUT you don't help during crucial moments that allow you to evaluate her willingness to bridge the gap. Let me explain...
You leave some ingredients out and you hint that you're hungry, does she connect the dots & start cooking you something w/ a smile on her face...eager to have an opportunity to please you?
You spill something, knock a plate over, you tactically set a broom, dust-pan, and cleaning materials, does she connect the dots...and start cleaning up telling you to continue chillaxin on the couch?
You stop being available so often OR you're available but it's in a inconvenient part of town compared to her...does she scurry to meet you there DESPITE the obstacles? The point is not to see if she's down to do chores, that could be a matter of clear discussion too. But the idea is does she always have to be told what to do? I do believe in NUDGING/ENCOURAGING a chick but ultimately I think the biggest tell-tale sign of Her being ride or die is if she doesn't have to be told...she sees the opportunity AND SHE BRIDGES THE GAP and often at a price to her convenience...there are many different manifestations of this.
Sometimes you can evaluate her ride-or-die potential by seeing how she reacts when you needed her most, say you're sick, going through a stressful time at work/university, you lose a loved one...etc. My ex immediately left her job during work-hours and drove almost 2 hours to come soothe me when a close relative died. I didn't have to ask...Just an example.
Now before I get labeled as a Machiavellian socio-path who plays immature childish games, I get it. ALL I'm trying to do is start a discussion about the concept of testing a woman by allowing her to bridge the gap because if you're Mr. Perfect, fit, alpha, good game, experienced, make good money, have cool friends and so on....It's a little too convenient for her to like you. Some guys get so caught up in how great things are going but they don't see the sucker trap that they're in. That type of desire is good, great even but it doesn't really showcase ride-or-die material. That's another level of evaluation.
It's a bit like the difference between regular soldiers and delta-force. In scenario one, they're cajouled and guided every step of the way, for the elite...they're given a few loose instructions and THEY have to connect the dots on their own in harsh circumstances.
Please, no moral condemnation. Just give me feedback on examples if you've ever applied the "connect the dot" framework or other evaluation frameworks to check if a chick is ride-or-die material
Im talking to a girl right now that I'm evaluating for an LTR, she's young and a bit inexperienced. I have a feeling I'm exotic to her, older, more mature, and foreign. Sometimes girls date guys like me because we're something new, interesting and engaging. But it would be a mistake to take her intrigue as ride-or-die LTR material. The thing is it's hard to spot this because in the short-to-mid-term, it can look like she's falling for me but really...she's just enjoying the novelty of the situation. This is why a man absolutely must sh!t-test a woman in this type of scenario.
In my book, sh1t-testing a woman is basically making her bridge the gap over and over again. You give her the tools, you give her the opportunities BUT you don't help during crucial moments that allow you to evaluate her willingness to bridge the gap. Let me explain...
You leave some ingredients out and you hint that you're hungry, does she connect the dots & start cooking you something w/ a smile on her face...eager to have an opportunity to please you?
You spill something, knock a plate over, you tactically set a broom, dust-pan, and cleaning materials, does she connect the dots...and start cleaning up telling you to continue chillaxin on the couch?
You stop being available so often OR you're available but it's in a inconvenient part of town compared to her...does she scurry to meet you there DESPITE the obstacles? The point is not to see if she's down to do chores, that could be a matter of clear discussion too. But the idea is does she always have to be told what to do? I do believe in NUDGING/ENCOURAGING a chick but ultimately I think the biggest tell-tale sign of Her being ride or die is if she doesn't have to be told...she sees the opportunity AND SHE BRIDGES THE GAP and often at a price to her convenience...there are many different manifestations of this.
Sometimes you can evaluate her ride-or-die potential by seeing how she reacts when you needed her most, say you're sick, going through a stressful time at work/university, you lose a loved one...etc. My ex immediately left her job during work-hours and drove almost 2 hours to come soothe me when a close relative died. I didn't have to ask...Just an example.
Now before I get labeled as a Machiavellian socio-path who plays immature childish games, I get it. ALL I'm trying to do is start a discussion about the concept of testing a woman by allowing her to bridge the gap because if you're Mr. Perfect, fit, alpha, good game, experienced, make good money, have cool friends and so on....It's a little too convenient for her to like you. Some guys get so caught up in how great things are going but they don't see the sucker trap that they're in. That type of desire is good, great even but it doesn't really showcase ride-or-die material. That's another level of evaluation.
It's a bit like the difference between regular soldiers and delta-force. In scenario one, they're cajouled and guided every step of the way, for the elite...they're given a few loose instructions and THEY have to connect the dots on their own in harsh circumstances.
Please, no moral condemnation. Just give me feedback on examples if you've ever applied the "connect the dot" framework or other evaluation frameworks to check if a chick is ride-or-die material
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