make her beg or get with her soon as possible?

[falconslax89]

so there is this girl that i posted about a few months ago. basically she broke up with her boyfriend and got with me..we had sex and were into each other for a few weeks and then out of nowhere she went back to her boyfriend. a few weeks later they break up again, we hangout and have sex again, then she goes back to him again a few days later. now i really liked this girl, i thought we was pretty and sweet as well as great to *uck. as much as i tried not to put her on a pedestol i was pretty torn up about it but i didnt let that show. now if she hadnt been with this guy since she was like 15 i have no doubt i could have held on to her...looking back i think id say i did most everything right.
even when she was back with him she would text me say saying how she was so confused and sorry but how she missed me so much and thought about me constantly and how being with him was all she knew and bla bla bla. i did my best to ignore her and cut off most connections. that was a few months ago.
fast forward to last thursday she sends me a message on facebook saying "hey (me), what are you doing tonight." i told her i was going out. she said "well we should hangout sometime soon." i say "haha..right." and she says "ok nevermind." so i pretty much tell her to *uck off because i didnt feel like going through all that again.
the next night i go to a party and see her best friend there. this friend tells me that girl in point is done with her ex for good and how i should see her. she tells me all this stuff about how she would talk about me constantly. she said that even when her ex and her werent fighting she would get upset and say she that made the wrong decision.
ultimately i come to the conclusion that i might as well **** her and that it would be fairly easy. she talked to me saturday and asked to hang out again but i acted disinterested in order to make her want it more. she offered to take ME to dinner...she begged me to go to the lake with her...she even offered to rent us some jetskis for the day and pay(those things are pricey.) that night i told her i was at a party in her town and she got mad that i didnt come over at like 3 am.
basically what im wanting to know is whether you guys think its a good thing that im playing these games with her and if i should go any longer or whether im just wasting my time and should hang out with her next time she asks and get down to business. i know most of you will say this girl is no good and only wants attention or something along those lines( she never cheated on her boyfriend with me if anyone got that impression, but it was still pretty shady on her part)

what do you guys think..keep making her beg or get with her soon as possible?

 

[WC2]

You poor bastard.

Listening to your story is like reliving my high school days.

A chick who's on the rebound is rarely a chick who should ever be considered relationship material, especially if you ARE the rebound guy.

Being the Rebound guy (you), you give a heartbroken girl everything she needs to get back on her feet. She used you because you let her.

She controlled the frame the entire time, telling you when she wanted to start hooking up again, then going back to her EX whenever he accepted her back.

You can try to convince yourself that you 'played games with her' and what not, but in the end the only one playing games was her. And it seems to me that she played you so well that you still think you have or ever had the upper hand in this whole thing.

While you've been falling in love with this chick, she's been going back and forth between you and her ex. And then god only knows if she's been banging others as well.

And then she has you listening to her friends..

Never take what a girl's 'best friend' says as evidence of attraction. Chicks stick together. They will lie to you to f*ck with your mind and smile the whole time. She isn't stupid. She clearly knew that you were pissed about her when you so courageously turned her down (another mistake, but not important right now). Since she knew you were pissed, she told her friend to start sweet talking you, hoping you'd fall for it. AND YOU DID!

Come on man!

Thus far I've been brutally honest and probably a bit too harsh as well, but trust me I would rather make you cry when you read this post than watch you go through agony 100x worse a ways down the road.

Bottom line is she is just stringing you along, making you think you are special to her. She needs someone. When her EX isn't accepting her, she will settle for you. You are second to him.

Do you want to be second to another? If you do, then by all means keep this up.

I would tell you that you should just drop the emotional BS and just keep it sexual, but I think you've invested too deep of emotions into this girl.

If I were you I'd politely stop hanging with this girl and start spinning plates.

You don't want to be invested in damaged goods.

 

[runner83]

I agree with WC2 (great post!).

If you keep it purely sexual then do that. But if you think you might be "falling for her", then probably best to move on.

 

[falconslax89]

i get all that...i do. i know she controlled the frame the first time and she got me good.

however...she is the one that broke up with her boyfriend. she is the one staying away from him, he is begging her to take him back.

i only told that long ass story for background info...the only thing i wanted to know is whether i should A) keep pretty much making her beg to hangout and THEN fvck her or B) forget all that sh!t and just bang her soon as possible in case she goes back to him and i miss the chance

i realize my mistakes in the past and am going to keep it sexual for a very good amount of time until she either gets back together with him (i wont really care) or somehow proves herself loyal. i know you'll say i am foolish for even giving her that chance but i mean she is REALLY gonna have to prove it. prolly wont happen but we will see.
now of course there are bits and pieces of this story i left out leading up to this point, but trust me when i say i am controlling this frame. you know when your in control, you can feel it, and i am. keep it sexual, show no desire, get my nut off while i have the chance. i got it. thanks boys.
im going to her place tonight to drink, ill let you know how that goes.

 

[iliketennis]

as long as you have other options and have no risk of falling for this chick