"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Make an "Approach Journal," Or Field Report Section

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To the site administrators or monitors. I think it would a helpful and welcomed edition to this site if you guys added a approach journal/field report section. This section would exclusively dedicated to field approaches and their end results be the results are getting shot down, kissing closing, or f*ck closing. It's easier for the user to have all of the field reports consolidated in one centralized location as opposed to scrolling through pages of threads to field the journal you were last reading. Speaking of approach journals, who has the best ones?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I completely agree. An approach journal section would be great.

As far as a good journal goes, read jon024. Really good. There a few others, but that's my favorite.
 

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i disagree. The only meaningful posts I find in the whole DJ Discussion Forum are the journals and if you take them out it is just b!tching and moaning.
 

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That's exactly why you wouldn't go to the DJ Discussion Forums if they made a journal thread.

Besides, I hate filtering through crap to find gold.
 

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Good idea. As far as best journals, you may want to try another site. We're probably not supposed to say anything about other sites, but *cough* RSD *cough*
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Diaforetikos said:
I completely agree. An approach journal section would be great.

As far as a good journal goes, read jon024. Really good. There a few others, but that's my favorite.
I read Jon's and I'm currently on Tihash's approach journal.
 
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