Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Make a move on chick who moved out of town

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If a girl thinks you're hot, can you ever get away with sending her a facebook message to approach her out of the blue....a long while after that?
(used to try to get you to approach her by sending out obvious signals..at a club where the two of you used to run into each other like every two months for a year or two)

Or does this always make them think "coward......not attractive anymore"?

Thing is she moved away to go to college in another town like 3 years ago, and now I've seen her profile on facebook like a year ago (turns out we got like 10 "friends" in common, thats how I saw her), and thought I could use this to "approach" her (haven't done anything about it since I first saw it b/c I was too busy with other problems).

So If I want to approach her, I have like 3 options:

#1: Send her a facebook message

#2: Find a pretext to go to the college where she is (1 hour from where I live) and run into her accidentally and do a real approach (I'm majoring in e-commerce and am already working in this "web stuff" on the side...and could probably find a good reason to talk with one of the professors there)

Which option would you go for?

(Dont give me the oneitis thing - i got that one in check...but she's one of the few chicks Ive seen in real life that Id consider a perfect 10 and she was obviously liked my looks, too...)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I just noticed, I might be able to use facebook for a quick message (I do have a good pretext b/c I need to find something out about that college, and none of my other facebook friends know anyone other than her at that college...) just to establish a very brief first contact, and then just being polite and saying bye - without trying to turn it into a conversation or sending her a friend request or anything (so it won't come off lame).

And then finding a way to run into her at her college, because then I'd be pretty sure I'd approach her the first time I see her (it's the type of situation where I would feel weird not saying Hi).
 

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Thanks for the suggestion..not sure if I will do exactly that, but I think it sparked my creativity.

I'm still thinking contacting her after 2-3 years in an approach kinda way might come off as weird/cowardly considering I never talked to her back then.

Actually, Ive found out something new: Because of this stuff I work with (part-time) I already know a professor who holds lectures at another university in that town(there are two different universities)...and that university where this guy lectures is only around 300m's from the building of the other university that she must be in. So considering Ive known that professor for 2 years (its not like Im good friends with him or anything, just know him...but I think I could attend his lectures some of which would actually be interesting to me), and being 300ms (if google maps is telling the truth) from where she's at should be an opportunity

Plus it might seem less stalk'ish & more like a real coincidence (I mean it actually is a coincidence that i know that guy and that hes lecturing 300ms from there haha)
 
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