So dudes,
There's this girl -- we've been friends since sophomore year. But its always been a flirty friendship -- she's been in a relationship for a lot of the time that I've known her, but for the last few months she's been single. And dropping what I perceive as hints. IOI's. Just this week, here's what she's done (we don't run into each other a ton, nor spend a ton of extended time together when we do):
friday (yesterday): first time I saw her all week.
- I give my speech for class president, she's staring at me the whole time with shining eyes and what I guess I would call a "sly" smile.
- An hour or two later, I'm working out. I leave the workout room to go get a drink. On the way back into the gym, she walks into the athletic center and passes by me. She smiles and rubs my bare shoulder, which was looking/feeling pretty jacked at that point I might add haha (I was wearing my basketball jersey, hence the exposed shoulder). I nod at her say whats up and keep walking. Then she calls out to me saying, "hey you DONT need a ride to my birthday party right (tonight)?"... I say no, I have my own car, but when does it start? She says 8, I give her a little confident smile and say alright cool. She smiles a big grin. Then, I'm back in the workout room (which has a glass wall which people can see through). She passes by while I'm doing curls, and smiles/waves. I nod cuz I'm in the middle of my set.
- Later that night I arrive at her party with my friend 20-25 minutes late, she calls out our names and tells us to sit around the campfire (marshmallow roasting). Time goes by I'm talking to other girls and guys and from time to time she'll say something complimentary about me quite loudly, loud enough for me to hear it. I smile and say something like "oh? yeah. that's me" each time. It strikes me as odd, but seems like an awkward attempt at broadcasting IOI's on her part. (Yes?)
- Occasionally, as she's moving around the campfire talking to people she'll come over and kino me, rub my shoulders, touch my back or something, sit down and chat for a while with my current group. I always make her laugh.
- Then: I come over to her once and sit down next to her. I don't know how we ended up on this topic, but one of our mutual friends (a girl) asks about her relationship status, to which she responds "I'm single and loving it." Then, there is a brief pause. She says, "except for (MY NAME), me and him are hooking up all the time, its crazy, we're just hooking up all the time" - WHICH WE'RE NOT - after which I interject "yeah, its insane blah blah blah every day blah blah" and then the other girl plays along with this "joke" and is like oh yeah you guys take bathroom breaks and just hook up? to which both me and her are like yeah, and I say how I'm not supposed to leave this one teachers class for anything but he understands when I tell him that I'm going to hook up with [this girl]. This girl is touching my knee the entire time this exchange is happening, laughing and smiling.
- Now, to me, this seems like a huge IOI. Basically a "I'm here, come and get me please!" declaration to me. I'm not imagining things am I?
Also, a few weeks ago, she was pointing out that her parents "LOVE ME". And my friend who was in earshot was like, "yeah...so who knows what could happen (pretty clearly referring to us getting together)" and she says sort of under her breath, "exactly."
These two incidents are the major IOI's that I can pull off the top of my head...but yeah, these are IOI's right? And I should go for this? No girl drops giant hints like these by accident or to play a guy, right? It seems like she really wants me to make a move.
Your opinions/dissections of this matter?
There's this girl -- we've been friends since sophomore year. But its always been a flirty friendship -- she's been in a relationship for a lot of the time that I've known her, but for the last few months she's been single. And dropping what I perceive as hints. IOI's. Just this week, here's what she's done (we don't run into each other a ton, nor spend a ton of extended time together when we do):
friday (yesterday): first time I saw her all week.
- I give my speech for class president, she's staring at me the whole time with shining eyes and what I guess I would call a "sly" smile.
- An hour or two later, I'm working out. I leave the workout room to go get a drink. On the way back into the gym, she walks into the athletic center and passes by me. She smiles and rubs my bare shoulder, which was looking/feeling pretty jacked at that point I might add haha (I was wearing my basketball jersey, hence the exposed shoulder). I nod at her say whats up and keep walking. Then she calls out to me saying, "hey you DONT need a ride to my birthday party right (tonight)?"... I say no, I have my own car, but when does it start? She says 8, I give her a little confident smile and say alright cool. She smiles a big grin. Then, I'm back in the workout room (which has a glass wall which people can see through). She passes by while I'm doing curls, and smiles/waves. I nod cuz I'm in the middle of my set.
- Later that night I arrive at her party with my friend 20-25 minutes late, she calls out our names and tells us to sit around the campfire (marshmallow roasting). Time goes by I'm talking to other girls and guys and from time to time she'll say something complimentary about me quite loudly, loud enough for me to hear it. I smile and say something like "oh? yeah. that's me" each time. It strikes me as odd, but seems like an awkward attempt at broadcasting IOI's on her part. (Yes?)
- Occasionally, as she's moving around the campfire talking to people she'll come over and kino me, rub my shoulders, touch my back or something, sit down and chat for a while with my current group. I always make her laugh.
- Then: I come over to her once and sit down next to her. I don't know how we ended up on this topic, but one of our mutual friends (a girl) asks about her relationship status, to which she responds "I'm single and loving it." Then, there is a brief pause. She says, "except for (MY NAME), me and him are hooking up all the time, its crazy, we're just hooking up all the time" - WHICH WE'RE NOT - after which I interject "yeah, its insane blah blah blah every day blah blah" and then the other girl plays along with this "joke" and is like oh yeah you guys take bathroom breaks and just hook up? to which both me and her are like yeah, and I say how I'm not supposed to leave this one teachers class for anything but he understands when I tell him that I'm going to hook up with [this girl]. This girl is touching my knee the entire time this exchange is happening, laughing and smiling.
- Now, to me, this seems like a huge IOI. Basically a "I'm here, come and get me please!" declaration to me. I'm not imagining things am I?
Also, a few weeks ago, she was pointing out that her parents "LOVE ME". And my friend who was in earshot was like, "yeah...so who knows what could happen (pretty clearly referring to us getting together)" and she says sort of under her breath, "exactly."
These two incidents are the major IOI's that I can pull off the top of my head...but yeah, these are IOI's right? And I should go for this? No girl drops giant hints like these by accident or to play a guy, right? It seems like she really wants me to make a move.
Your opinions/dissections of this matter?
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