Maintaining YOUR Interest

[DragonBlood]

Hi guys,

Ives read alot of SS threads that teach not to be attached to the outcome, be indifferent, able to walk away at any moment, be in control of your emotions etc etc. And it all makes sense!


However I find myself struggling maintaining attraction in someone while following these principles. Having a girl willing to put in all the work is great, but it is also predictable. Basically I just get bored after awhile.


I would like to open a discussion on what you guys do to keep your motivation up when in control of the frame. I feel this would help me and maybe others in being more proactive pursuing LTRs that are exciting.

 

[Sandy28]

got no clue to this either but would love to hear a few others out...


http://www.over60singles.co.za

 

[3countriesPlan]

You don't have to do anything about keeping yourself motivated. I'm dealing with a girl right now that looks wise is nothing special but she has been going the extra mile to keep me happy so much to the point where its natural to her. But besides that we also click on other levels too so naturally I'm happy. She is welcome to chill with me anytime provided she doesnt get possessive. She provides you with the motivation -- you just sit back and keep it mackish.

 

[Sofomore]

I run in to this problem too. Meet a girl, hit it off, then get bored because she acts predictable. I think it's in our nature to get bored. Notice how after sex we immediately don't want anything to do with the girl?

It's all about finding a girl that you want to be around and this comes from an emotional connection. SS teaches us how to protects our hearts but it doesn't actually teach us anything about getting to know a girl. If you don't want to be bored then look for girls that you actually could see as being a friend with as well as a lover.