Maintaining momentum while girl is OOT

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Hate to be one to overthink contact initiation but this is an interesting one to me.

A girl who is a coworker of a friend and I hit it off a while ago but nothing came of it, then we see eachother at a bar, smash that night. Next morning we exchange numbers, she calls me 'babe' and ****, is glowing at work and tells my friend I'm her type, texts me smiley faces and how she had a good time - I'm in like sin but...

Then she has to go out of town for a 2 weeks to visit family, is back for 3 days before going out of town for another week and a half.

Is it possible to maintain attraction after that long, even after a night of great sex and repeatedly telling eachother we're compatible? I've got it with a couple other chicks since then but they're not as high quality. Try and text her while she's between trips? Wait for her to reach out? Hit her up in 2 weeks? Awkward timing.

 

[AttackFormation]

If someone tells you you can't create attraction or arousal over text, they've never done it themselves. As I'm typing this I just finished a chat session with a girl I've talked to for two weeks and have never met, she just finished masturbating thinking of me as I provided the imagery for her with words. Why is it so potent? because you are letting her imagination wet her pvssy - a woman's imagination is very sexually potent. However, if you are not talking to her then you're banking on her thinking of you while she's gone. That's not 100% reliable, unlike taking it into your own hands and making sure she thinks of you, by getting her wet.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I started dating a girl one time... we started dating at the end of March, but she was going to be going on a 3-week trip to Taiwan for school purposes starting mid-way through April.

I told her, point blank before she left, that if she didn't have time to contact me during her travels I was (a) more than okay with that, and (b) that I'd couldn't wait to hear all about her traveling adventures when she got back.

And so, the trip came. During that time, I didn't try to initiate any contact with her. Why? 'Cause even though I liked her a LOT, the reality is we were only in month 1 of dating, which isn't serious enough to warrant me reaching out to her while she's gone. I also didn't reach out because I wanted to gauge how much interest she had in ME by seeing if she'd reach out. And guess what? Despite not having a working cell phone in another country, she managed to find a payphone somewhere to hit me up midway through her trip for a 5-minute talk just to say "hi" and hear my voice

After that, I sent her all of ONE message... and that was it. And when she got back, we started back like she hadn't even been gone. FYI, I'm still with this girl 3 years later.

All this to say: in the beginning of a relationship, you don't need as much contact with a girl as many guys will swear you do. In fact, I almost consider her going out of town as part of the "testing" process. Not that she's leaving town to test your interest, but she WILL be taking stock of how many times you try to hit her up, or ask her what she's doing, or complain to her that she's not contacting you back enough... remember, if the girl is out of town, it means she has her energy focused on other things. Getting into constant call/message phone situations with you isn't on her agenda - nor should it be.

So, what would I do if it were me in the scenario?

1. Wish her a good time on her trip
2. Do your best NOT to contact her. If, for some reason, you feel a strong urge to talk to her, do it midway through her trip
3. Plan something for you two to do when she gets back in town during the 3 days she's here... but only plan something for ONE of those days. Be considerate of her time - she may have other friends that want to see her as well, and you're not the boyfriend yet so you haven't earned the right to galvanize all her time
4. When she goes back out of town for another week and a half, repeat step #2
5. When she gets back in town, wait a day to contact her. That way, she (a) has a day to get rest from all that traveling, and (b) to see if she hits YOU up first

Hope this helps!

 

[Trump]

Hate to be one to overthink contact initiation but this is an interesting one to me.

A girl who is a coworker of a friend and I hit it off a while ago but nothing came of it, then we see eachother at a bar, smash that night. Next morning we exchange numbers, she calls me 'babe' and ****, is glowing at work and tells my friend I'm her type, texts me smiley faces and how she had a good time - I'm in like sin but...

Then she has to go out of town for a 2 weeks to visit family, is back for 3 days before going out of town for another week and a half.

Wow bro it sounds like she is a working girl, why is she going out of town so much?

Is it possible to maintain attraction after that long, even after a night of great sex and repeatedly telling eachother we're compatible? I've got it with a couple other chicks since then but they're not as high quality. Try and text her while she's between trips? Wait for her to reach out? Hit her up in 2 weeks? Awkward timing.

First of all bro, if you are repeatedly telling each other your are compatible, it means you are NOT compatible. You are trying to convince yourself of something that isn't there. :nono:

What does "high quality" mean? That she smashed you on the first night and the other girls make you wait? I never know what "high quality" means in terms of girls.

Just say "have a good trip." And when she gets back in 2 weeks call her up again.

 

[Speculator E]

If someone tells you you can't create attraction or arousal over text, they've never done it themselves. As I'm typing this I just finished a chat session with a girl I've talked to for two weeks and have never met, she just finished masturbating thinking of me as I provided the imagery for her with words. Why is it so potent? because you are letting her imagination wet her pvssy - a woman's imagination is very sexually potent. However, if you are not talking to her then you're banking on her thinking of you while she's gone. That's not 100% reliable, unlike taking it into your own hands and making sure she thinks of you, by getting her wet.

WTF? Sweden men must be deluded if they think this is something to be proud of. Sweden men are already consider the most beta of all the men on the planet.

Anyway OP. A woman that likes you don't forget. I had women come back to me after months had pass since the last contact.

 

[AttackFormation]

WTF? Sweden men must be deluded if they think this is something to be proud of. Sweden men are already consider the most beta of all the men on the planet.

Where did I say I was proud? The OP asked if it was possible to maintain attraction over text and so I said yes it is and used my personal experience to support that, just like he asked for. Especially because I know there are some people here who think texting is detrimental or worthless unless it's to set up a date. How do you get that to displaying pride? What the fvck is wrong with your brain?

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

The whole compatibility bit was in response to us discussing how we both were attracted to one another initially but hadn't pursued anything.

She's traveling a bunch to see family and then for a work conference. This is an anomaly that just so happens to have occurred right after us hitting off.

We've got plans in that she suggested we go get drinks when she's back but she wasn't exactly specific what day they would be, or I just forgot - probably the latter.

When I said high quality I meant that she was picky, professionally driven, intelligent, and just an all around good girl. None of that is meant in a fawning way. I just appreciate what she's about.

I already wished her a good trip after making a playful joke about our plans, to which she responded "can't wait!". Left it there obviously.

Prob just going to let this one simmer for the rest of the time she's gone. When she's back, if I haven't heard from her, I toss a line.