"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Maintaining maximum interest long distance for a few months

Ronny92

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Hey there,

you guys seem to offer pretty good advice. Well, things were going pretty well with a girl, where the next meetup more than likely would have meant sex. We met up about 4 times, made out a few times, she stopped me short on sex on the 2nd meetup worried I was going to be a fwb. Now, it's summer time and we won't be anywhere near eachother. Of course, I'm not going to get hung up on her but I see no reason to not maximize the chance of things happening when we return. We're both college students.

that being said, what is the best way to maintain maximum interest? Is it basically to just not contact her at all? That seems to be the ideal approach, or at least maybe once a week or so. I thought she had potential to be more than a friend's with benefits, so I am thinking that maybe not contacting her at all could lead to her thinking that is the case.

thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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skinnyguy

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I have this chick I see that lives about 500 miles away. I'm not gonna contact her until the day before I see her next month.
 

El Payaso

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See other girls.
 
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