Maintaining in bed, need tips

[sharpshooter]

First time i've ever had a weak performance. Her head game was ok, sorta numbing..a lot of foreplay. Did her missionary for a while, I came...and then that was it. Couldn't maintain a second erection no matter how hard she sucked..I was able to get it up but by the time I got the condom on...limp.

I just wasn't able to maintain a second erection. It's concerning me because it has never happened to me before....but why did it happen today?

I've narrowed it down to a few reasons why it MIGHT have been a problem.

*Havent' masturbated in over a week..so I came for the first time in a while ..maybe that had something to do with it?

*I was HUNGRY like a hippo, all I had was cereal.

*I wasn't really too sexually attracted to her..

*Only had a few hours in the hotel room...maybe I was trying to rush?

What do you guys think? How common is this...also..any tips so I make sure this NEVER happens again?

 

[smoke city]

it happens. i think that the more you think about it, the more it's likely to happen. the only times i've lost erection were because i was anxious about something or i had something else on my mind too much.

 

[flexion_]

Its a mental thing... the machinery still works. ;0

 

[Desdinova]

It's something that happens to every guy. If you worry about it and she seems somewhat upset, you're going to come off as insecure.

If you remain calm about it, KNOWING that it does happen to other guys, it won't be a big deal and you'll give off confidence even though your manhood wants to go to bed.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by sharpshooter

*I was HUNGRY like a hippo, all I had was cereal.

*I wasn't really too sexually attracted to her..

*Only had a few hours in the hotel room...maybe I was trying to rush?

These seeem like good enough reasons to me. You don't have to be a porn star EVERY time you f*ck a girl. Hell I've had sex that was so dull (I was laying a serious dead fish) that I just stopped put my clothes on an peaced out. If you're not in the mood you can't expect to keep your head in the game pal.

 

[DJDanny]

Originally posted by sharpshooter


*I wasn't really too sexually attracted to her..

this is a common problem for me too when i don't really want to nail a chick.

When its a chick i really wanna nail i can't keep it down for the life of me.

 

[john_1234]

i don't think you have anything to worry about. i freaked out b4 because i wasn't able to get good erections with my new girl. concerned, i picked up "the new male sexuality" (not sure of title) and read about erections. Long story short, it mentioned that the most important factor for an erection is... AROUSAL. I was cumming three to four times a day for some time; thus, my arousal was affected. we chilled out for a few days and we started having sex only once a day... sure enough my strong erections were back! So keep in mind that AROUSAL has a lot to do with erections themselves. and if you're still concerned i suggest you hit up the nearest book store and read that chapter i'm talking about. it will certainly make you realize you have nothing to worry about.