"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maintain Your Frame

ProDJ26

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Often theres alot of talk about getting the ladies and what not. I love women probably more than most of this board and after hearing the neighbors fight for a couple nights I got an inspiration for this thread. No matter who you are or where you are it all comes down to this:

"MAINTAIN YOUR PEACE OF MIND". It took awhile but I think I'm finally getting this. Isn't it funny how the little things in life seem to nag at us until its a bunch of little things that make a BIG problem? Thinking about my experiences I can say that alot of the negativity could have been avoided had I'd been at peace with myself. Just think there's someone out there doing LIFE behind bars just because they let someone or something get at them. As a Don Juan I think its important to know that no matter how dark it may seem around us it always will get better. We should be able to ''maintain the frame'' so that no outside source can affect us within. So the next time sh!t happens keep your cool

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BadNews

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Great post. Though it is often hard to maintain your poise when you encounter difficult situations, if you ARE able to...the outcome is nearly ALWAYS better than the alternative.
 
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