Dear members,
I've been browsing these forums from past 1 year but did not wanted to register here. Now that I'm here, I would like to share my experience with fellow members who are in need of help and those who are still learning about all this stuff.
It happened with me unlimited number of times:
- I met the girl.
- We had great time together.
- We became close friend's/or girlfriend-boyfriend.
- Everything was getting wonderful day by day.
- Suddenly felt she is distant.
- I complaint her, and she said nothing is wrong.
- I again complaint, I kept complaining, I became AFC, I started to behave like a child who need her attention. She became more and more distant and finally it ended up.
This exact same process happened with me more then I can count. So obviously I thought it's just in my luck. I don't deserve any girl and all the emotional crap.
But what I realized is I am not alone. I searched on google and spent hours finding what the hell was going on. It came to my attention - this same process happened with every one who acted the same way I acted with girl's. Overly nice, loving, never saying "No", always respectful, caring, and a really good person. Ask any girl, she'll say that she want all these qualities from a guy. The reality is it's all bull****. Girl's don't want a super nice guy! They don't want to control their man. Infect they are attracted to boy's who are "Confident", "independent". It's totally okay to be nice with a girl providing that you do not cross the limit of being overly nice. Infect you will create more feeling's in her heart by being a good person.
I've heard on a lot of places to be a "BAD" boy EVER with them, it's not true. You do not need to be a cruel, devil to get her attracted to you. All you need to do is to maintain some attitude and be confident. Have the power to leave, and make decisions on your own. This is what a boy is, girl's don't want to be controlling. It's our job. But I do not mean to control her, it's another big reason why girl's lose interest when the boy becomes very much controlling. Excess of everything is bad, keep it normal.
When we act's with girl's like AFC. What they do is, they get rude, fight for non sense reasons, becomes distant and starts blaming you for each and everything you do. I once had a girl friend of 1 year. I almost saved her life and she even criticized me for it. It's actually not their fault - that's how women's are biologically programmed. It's in their DNA. Girl's are hell annoyed with AFC attitude of boy's. Mostly good looking guy's think that they've look's and so they can attract any girl. The reality to this is that girls are attracted to behavior, and personality. Look's is just a plus point. While we boy's are attracted to physical look of girl's. It's not the same for them. Let me give you one example. To girl's it's like: Would you prefer a Pentium 1 but good looking computer CPU or the latest not much good looking one? - You got my point.
So I guess now it's clear about what you should be like in order to keep your relationship long lasting and healthy. Now what if you've already screwed it up?
With every problem, there comes a solution. If you've been noticing her getting distant, rude and *****y. All you need to do is cut off from her for some time. Absence makes hearts grow founder. She will most likely come back to you within a month or so, and all will be fine again. You do not need to fight or announce to her that you're cutting off. Just give her some space, give her the gift of missing you because it's in human nature to only value something once it is gone.
If you've already screwed it up to death and attempted all those AFC mistakes of complaining again and again, and she's being rude then get some self respect. First of all, stop complaining her immediately - she is hell annoyed by you. If she's being rude to you, just straight forwardly tell her you can't let her disrespect you and that it's better to end it up.
Now at this point she may come running back as it may be a shock to her, but most likely she will agree with ending friendship/relationship. So just after it's done. Cut off from her, no contact at all. Don't even let her see your shadow anywhere.
At this time she will be feeling relieved. But somewhere inside she will know that she have not done good to you. But your annoying behavior will be in her mind and she will be only focusing on your negative points but after some time is passed, those negative points will be replaced with good one's.
She will miss you even if she don't want to! She will remember the good times that she had with you - Humans only realize something's value once it's gone. Plus by ending the relationship, you've shown her your walking power - it's very attractive.
She will come back to you. I've myself experienced this but it is highly recommended that you start spinning plates the time you cut off from her. So you do not end up losing her again by showing up your old AFC behavior again. And in case if she did not came back, you will be already over her as a result of spinning plates.
I've tried my level best to provide accurate information based on my own personal experience. All your comments are welcomed.
I've been browsing these forums from past 1 year but did not wanted to register here. Now that I'm here, I would like to share my experience with fellow members who are in need of help and those who are still learning about all this stuff.
It happened with me unlimited number of times:
- I met the girl.
- We had great time together.
- We became close friend's/or girlfriend-boyfriend.
- Everything was getting wonderful day by day.
- Suddenly felt she is distant.
- I complaint her, and she said nothing is wrong.
- I again complaint, I kept complaining, I became AFC, I started to behave like a child who need her attention. She became more and more distant and finally it ended up.
This exact same process happened with me more then I can count. So obviously I thought it's just in my luck. I don't deserve any girl and all the emotional crap.
But what I realized is I am not alone. I searched on google and spent hours finding what the hell was going on. It came to my attention - this same process happened with every one who acted the same way I acted with girl's. Overly nice, loving, never saying "No", always respectful, caring, and a really good person. Ask any girl, she'll say that she want all these qualities from a guy. The reality is it's all bull****. Girl's don't want a super nice guy! They don't want to control their man. Infect they are attracted to boy's who are "Confident", "independent". It's totally okay to be nice with a girl providing that you do not cross the limit of being overly nice. Infect you will create more feeling's in her heart by being a good person.
I've heard on a lot of places to be a "BAD" boy EVER with them, it's not true. You do not need to be a cruel, devil to get her attracted to you. All you need to do is to maintain some attitude and be confident. Have the power to leave, and make decisions on your own. This is what a boy is, girl's don't want to be controlling. It's our job. But I do not mean to control her, it's another big reason why girl's lose interest when the boy becomes very much controlling. Excess of everything is bad, keep it normal.
When we act's with girl's like AFC. What they do is, they get rude, fight for non sense reasons, becomes distant and starts blaming you for each and everything you do. I once had a girl friend of 1 year. I almost saved her life and she even criticized me for it. It's actually not their fault - that's how women's are biologically programmed. It's in their DNA. Girl's are hell annoyed with AFC attitude of boy's. Mostly good looking guy's think that they've look's and so they can attract any girl. The reality to this is that girls are attracted to behavior, and personality. Look's is just a plus point. While we boy's are attracted to physical look of girl's. It's not the same for them. Let me give you one example. To girl's it's like: Would you prefer a Pentium 1 but good looking computer CPU or the latest not much good looking one? - You got my point.
So I guess now it's clear about what you should be like in order to keep your relationship long lasting and healthy. Now what if you've already screwed it up?
With every problem, there comes a solution. If you've been noticing her getting distant, rude and *****y. All you need to do is cut off from her for some time. Absence makes hearts grow founder. She will most likely come back to you within a month or so, and all will be fine again. You do not need to fight or announce to her that you're cutting off. Just give her some space, give her the gift of missing you because it's in human nature to only value something once it is gone.
If you've already screwed it up to death and attempted all those AFC mistakes of complaining again and again, and she's being rude then get some self respect. First of all, stop complaining her immediately - she is hell annoyed by you. If she's being rude to you, just straight forwardly tell her you can't let her disrespect you and that it's better to end it up.
Now at this point she may come running back as it may be a shock to her, but most likely she will agree with ending friendship/relationship. So just after it's done. Cut off from her, no contact at all. Don't even let her see your shadow anywhere.
At this time she will be feeling relieved. But somewhere inside she will know that she have not done good to you. But your annoying behavior will be in her mind and she will be only focusing on your negative points but after some time is passed, those negative points will be replaced with good one's.
She will miss you even if she don't want to! She will remember the good times that she had with you - Humans only realize something's value once it's gone. Plus by ending the relationship, you've shown her your walking power - it's very attractive.
She will come back to you. I've myself experienced this but it is highly recommended that you start spinning plates the time you cut off from her. So you do not end up losing her again by showing up your old AFC behavior again. And in case if she did not came back, you will be already over her as a result of spinning plates.
I've tried my level best to provide accurate information based on my own personal experience. All your comments are welcomed.
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