"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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magazine: women prefer nerds over macho men

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That's just one woman babbling. She even admits that she was with a jerk for 4 years.
 

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Originally posted by picard
I found an online article about women prefer nerds than macho guys because nerds are harmless, more kind to women. It is very interesting article from women love magazine.
:rolleyes:


http://love.ivillage.com/snd/sndcouplehood/0,,michon_7d5m5zz0,00.html
picard...I swear that I am going to reach through the computer screen and wring your neck if you don't start listening to people and making POSITIVE steps to resolve your problem areas instead of complaining.

Damn it man...grab your balls and go work on the things I advised you to adjust in PM. Stop getting in your own way...
 

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yeah,yeah. I thought it might be funny to post article.

It takes time for me to gain muscle mass. I am not an austrian :rolleyes:


are you going to wring my neck and spank me too wyldfire? :woo: :woo:
 

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Sounds like she just wants a submissive man to buy her stuff and to cater to her whims.

And you can bet that she'll cheat on him with a "badboy"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She is probably getting old (losing her looks) so she is not attracting the type of men that she really wants. She is rationalizing her now limited dating options by claiming that it was her choice to date unmanly men.
 

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Who the hell reads IVillage? Sounds like a bunch of menstruating grandmas that are burned out on life.
 

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Women like men.

Every women's perspective of men is different.

A nerd can be a man too.

The thing is some women like men who are not as manly, this is not werid as i know plenty of guys who treat girls just as they would treat a guy. They switch it on and off, its almost nessicary in our culture(USA), there are times when u need to act like a sexless blob and remain neutral or you will be punished for it (ie for treating a women like a traditional women [sexism]).

This girl likes nerds, there is no way to argue aganst that, frankly who cares. However, do you (picard) like girls who like nerds? Or an even better question is, do you like being a nerd?

If so then by all means become a nerd, the DJ mentallities are the same, the emphassis should be on u. You can be a nerd with muscles, these categories that we place people in are no good for anything but describing groups of people, it doesnt mean there arent exceptions.

However if wyldfire is right, if you are just procrastinating on starting your new life then i suggest you leave. There is NO POINT in procrastination on this board, that doesnt make any sense. This is not school work. DJism is not some job that you have to post on these forums or you will lose something. No, that is just another case where people have the emphasiss on somebody else.

(BTW picard is it true that you are taking steriods? wtf stop.)
 

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There is a big difference between what women SAY they want and what they ACTUALLY go for when the opportunities present themselves.

What women say they want is what they logically think to themselves is best for them, and they are probably right. What they actually go for is controlled not by logic however but by the attraction mechanism that responds automatically to certain things, and it trumps logic.
 

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There is a big difference between what women SAY they want and what they ACTUALLY go for when the opportunities present themselves.

What women say they want is what they logically think to themselves is best for them, and they are probably right. What they actually go for is controlled not by logic however but by the attraction mechanism that responds automatically to certain things, and it trumps logic.


i agree 100% :)

i was just about to type that


Lost In Translation :D

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“ the 'pimp' mentality works today because you are living in a time such that there are an overabundance if hors - this is the Pimps playground!! Pimps and hors go together like bread and butter - they are complementary natures!!! Pimps need hors like hors need pimps!! “
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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how many times are we gonna say dont listen to what women say, theyll riun your life. watch what they do isnt it? GEEZ.
 
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