I couldn't report yesterday, because our internet connection wasn't working (got a new contract (?)). And when I tried to report earlier today before I went out, I had written a whole freakin' post and then it said the forum was closed currently or something lol..
Day 2:
Anyways yesterday I finally got myself to say "Hello" to some older guy who was walking with two women around his age (50-60 i guess). The reaction I got wasn't very positive (just a strange look like "we dont know each other why do you greet me?") but that didn't matter too much to me, because the feeling of doing it was great (even if it was nothin but a really small baby step, but I finally got myself to do it and thats what matters to me). When I was talking towards the guy I was constantly changin my opininon like "Yeah Im gonna do it" / "No I cant do it" and then in the situation where I usually would have chickened out I did it and that was just a great relief. I really think it felt somewhat like the feeling I get when I'm trying to approach a chick I dont know (as in..ure not supposed to be doing it because u dont know her...that typical making a big deal of nothing situation...). So anyways I really think this saying hello/hi to strangers will help me decrease my fear of initiating convos with strangers, eventually. (I think if I'll finally be able to say hi to any good looking girl that comes my way (probably more "difficult"
than saying hi to older people) I'll be ready to start initiating convos with older people...and then build my way up to doing that with hot girls).
Day 3:
I missed a few good opportunities today (I think it was especially when the person wasn't looking my way at all..like some people try hard not to look in your face/ignore you when you pass them by) but once I just said hello to some guy and nodded my head like I knew him and another time I was going towards 2 guys and I was ready to say hi (first lol) and like a split second before I could say hi (first) one of the guys said "hello" to ME FIRST, but I still said hello like I had planned on doing and am sure I would have said it if the guy hadn't said anything. So I'll definetly count this one, too.
Days: 3
Hi's: 3
Good luck man.
I am also trying the bc, but have already fallen way behind.
But I'll just finish it on my own accord. as long as it gets complete, I'll be satisfied.
Im stuck on the hellos. I felt real good the first day but afterwards my mind began playing tricks on me again. (no im not physcho!lol) but after having a great first day, I keep feeling that people will laugh at me, or I dont look good enough that day, or my hair isnt right, or I dont have a nice watch, or my clothes arent good, or my shoes. or im getting fat (I havent worked out since school ended 2 months ago)
You know, Like my mind is making a billion excuses for me, and that has made me lose a lot of motivation.
But I need to get myself together and move on with this thing.
Good luck. We'll both need some.
Good luck to you too man. Actually even though I think I've a very hard time doing the bootcamp, my mind is not making up such things. Because I feel like it doesn't really matter what ppl think of me after saying "hi" to them because I don't plan on seeing them again anyways ;-) (though I know some of them will probably think why the hell does he greet me..never seen him before..wtf...like the first guy I said hello too I guess..but that doesnt bother me too much). What really helped me was going to this park (which belongs to a hospital but its still something like a park) because I can just walk there and when somebody's coming my way they're the only one(s) that are coming my way and it feels a bit more normal to just greet them to me...because it's like there's this really long way and there's only you and them..just like u'd meet another human being on mars..I guess you would greet them (to exaggerate extremely ;-)). I mean..I think saying hello to some person would be harder if you're in downtown with a crowd of people. Like today I chickened out one time which seemed perfect because right next to where I was gonna greet the guy there were two people sunbathing..if they hadnt been there I hadnt chickened out (but I'm sure I'll be able to get a grip on that, too).
Yeah I kinda think BC is a waste of time. I tried it once and got bored...weeks 1 and 2 don't help you at all, I mean its not hard to say Hi or smile to someone. I can do that no prob, but can't do a cold approach to save my life so someday I'm gonna focus on cold approaches.
I think you're probably just not as introvert/shy as a lot of people doing the bootcamp...because if you can easily say "hi" or smile to any stranger you're already ahead of us and already set for week 3(?) so you have to start doing cold approaches. I guess starting to do so with older people could really help you. I feel like that's gonna be a whole lot easier than approaching a girl like there's just a lot less pressure on you (which is silly and fascinating at once to me lol).
Btw, I dont fully remember how the bootcamp was done. Can somebody sum it up for me real quick please? (I had read it before and everything but im a bit confused now). I think you have to say hi to 50 people in week 1, then make 50 conversations in week 2, right? but how does it continue. Doing 50 number closes or well 50 obvious cold approaches? And what's up with the smiling part. Is week 1 actually not saying hi to strangers but just smiling to them?
Anyways, I hope doing this thread will put enough pressure on me so I'll really be able to pull it off, because when I'm older I don't wanna look back at my life and be like I missed out on so much stuff in my youth because I just wasn't able to do that and think to myself Id love to be that young again and change that (I've had quite a few ppl tell me such stuff and I guess that's really something that'll keep me motivated, because I just don't wanna feel like I missed out on so much, because I "lost")