Made a rookie mistake that I shouldn't have.

[Robert28]

I did a very very very STUPID thing today. I let my "want for revenge" get the better of me and it bit me in the @$$. I saw on facebook that my oneitis from highschool was in town. Hadn't spoen to her or even seen her in 8-9 years....loooong time. I was baaaadly hungup on this girl back in hs. Like really bad. We never dated but basically she liked me when I was dating someone else, then I became single and started liking her but she'd already gotten over me by then and I kept chasing all the rest of my senior year and first year of college. Stupid I know. We did go to prom together though and ended up getting prom king and queen, whatever that's worth.

Anyways, like I said, I saw in someone's post on facebook that she was in town. Her and I aren't friends on there, but I figured "what the he!! I'll message her and ask if she wants to hangout while she's in town". In my mind I was thinking "yeah, I'll show this girl what she missed and show her how I turned out". To be honest, most all the people in my class have gotten fat and old looking, except for me and a couple other dudes. This girl still looks good but nothing like she did back in highschool. She has a kid now by some dude who is out of the picture, blah blah blah. I emailed her something like "Hey! Heard you were in town. Haven't seen or talked to you in awhile, let's get together one night while you're here." Ofcourse she now has ALL the power just like she had back in highschool, I handed it to her on a silver platter. I teed it up for her basically.lol She comes back with a very non-excited email of "sorry, I won't be able to this trip. Maybe next trip. Hope you are well." Can you say "ouch"?lol Here I am emailing her all enthusiastically and she is ho-hum in her response. Son of a b!tch I felt stupid, still do. I was hoping to get to rub it in her face of how I turned out for the better and yet I'm still losing these bs games with her.haha

Let this be a lesson to all of you. If you are thinking of doing something stupid. Don't.

 

[Echoes]

Wouldn't worry too much. I mean, in the end what did it cost you? A little bit of pride? A tiny ego blow? I hope neither.

I also hope you didn't reply with something like, "ok no problem, maybe next time!"

In fact I hope you didn't reply at all!

You miss all the shots you don't take, right?

 

[thunder_god]

I did a very very very STUPID thing today. I let my "want for revenge" get the better of me and it bit me in the @$$. I saw on facebook that my oneitis from highschool was in town. Hadn't spoen to her or even seen her in 8-9 years....loooong time. I was baaaadly hungup on this girl back in hs. Like really bad. We never dated but basically she liked me when I was dating someone else, then I became single and started liking her but she'd already gotten over me by then and I kept chasing all the rest of my senior year and first year of college. Stupid I know. We did go to prom together though and ended up getting prom king and queen, whatever that's worth.

Anyways, like I said, I saw in someone's post on facebook that she was in town. Her and I aren't friends on there, but I figured "what the he!! I'll message her and ask if she wants to hangout while she's in town". In my mind I was thinking "yeah, I'll show this girl what she missed and show her how I turned out". To be honest, most all the people in my class have gotten fat and old looking, except for me and a couple other dudes. This girl still looks good but nothing like she did back in highschool. She has a kid now by some dude who is out of the picture, blah blah blah. I emailed her something like "Hey! Heard you were in town. Haven't seen or talked to you in awhile, let's get together one night while you're here." Ofcourse she now has ALL the power just like she had back in highschool, I handed it to her on a silver platter. I teed it up for her basically.lol She comes back with a very non-excited email of "sorry, I won't be able to this trip. Maybe next trip. Hope you are well." Can you say "ouch"?lol Here I am emailing her all enthusiastically and she is ho-hum in her response. Son of a b!tch I felt stupid, still do. I was hoping to get to rub it in her face of how I turned out for the better and yet I'm still losing these bs games with her.haha

Let this be a lesson to all of you. If you are thinking of doing something stupid. Don't.

I don't really see what's so stupid about that other than the fact that you maybe should have forgotten about her completely a long time ago. You went for what you wanted but got rejected. Rejection is better then regret. At least you got your answer and can now move on. You need to change your way of thinking that there's something wrong with you and instead think maybe there's something wrong with her. Anyways dude, it looks like you dodged a bullet. She already has a kid with some other dude. You don't want to be that guy who takes care of some other dudes kid. Dude you didn't lose anything, if anything you won. You've improved yourself vastly since the last time you two met, while her value has declined drastically. **** this *****, she doesn't know what she's missing out on. Go out and meet someone 10x better then this ***** who appreciates you!

Peace

 

[Tiguere]

Its a numbers game

 

[Robert28]

Wouldn't worry too much. I mean, in the end what did it cost you? A little bit of pride? A tiny ego blow? I hope neither.

I also hope you didn't reply with something like, "ok no problem, maybe next time!"

In fact I hope you didn't reply at all!

You miss all the shots you don't take, right?

Reply? Who, me? Noooo

Yeah, that was dumb@$$ mistake #2 of the day.haha I replied with "ok sounds good". No exclamation point and replied without thinking. After I'd already hit send I was like "fuuuuuudge!" I deleted the messages anyways after I replied. I will say this, I'm smart enough to know not to wait around on her contacting me to hangout the next time she's in town.

 

[Robert28]

I don't really see what's so stupid about that other than the fact that you maybe should have forgotten about her completely a long time ago. You went for what you wanted but got rejected. Rejection is better then regret. At least you got your answer and can now move on. You need to change your way of thinking that there's something wrong with you and instead think maybe there's something wrong with her. Anyways dude, it looks like you dodged a bullet. She already has a kid with some other dude. You don't want to be that guy who takes care of some other dudes kid. Dude you didn't lose anything, if anything you won. You've improved yourself vastly since the last time you two met, while her value has declined drastically. **** this *****, she doesn't know what she's missing out on. Go out and meet someone 10x better then this ***** who appreciates you!

Peace

To be honest, I haven't even thought about her until today when I saw someone posted a pic of her and mentioning she was in town. I just figured it would be cool to hangout while she was here because I didn't have anything going on this week really. I guess she figures I'm the same dude I was in highschool that was love struck by her.

 

[El Payaso]

I actually think you did good. Better to get your response than to keep wondering "what if?" You got your response so now you can achieve closure and calm and move on without wondering "what might have been..."

 

[beatjunkie]

I actually think you did good. Better to get your response than to keep wondering "what if?" You got your response so now you can achieve closure and calm and move on without wondering "what might have been..."

words of wisdom there OP. take heed. you did ok.

 

[backbreaker]

You didn't do good **** what these other dudes are telling yhou lol. Your game wasn't so much bad but you know this chick is toxic for you and you took the bait. You know better you're right.


Really though this is going to happen. Like the girl that brought me here, for years, the only thing I thought about. .when working my ass off, when in the gym busting it, when running wind sprints, when gaming other chicks even honestly, was 1. some scenario where she looked at me differently and after that 2. the look on her face once she realized what she passed up.


So even when I was honestly over her, I hadn't yet moved on. Almost instinctivly whenever I'm in little rock... PERFECT EXAMPLE when I met my now wife and she was pregnant and it was time to introduce her to my family for the first time, I found some bull**** ass reason to have to run into her, for really no other reason than to show off "yeah ***** look now" lol.


I understand where you're coming from. It's not even about wanting to **** her. Once I got with my wife I really did not want any part of the girl. But this girl brought so much agony and pain to my life I wanted to show her what I made of myself. Kinda like an abused child going back to his dad after years who beat the **** out of him to show him what he made himself into kinda.


But I'm over it now. You know what, **** that lol. no i'm not. let me stop lying. I'm ont over it. I hope her husband gets ebola of the **** and she dies a slow miserable death if you want me to be honest. I hope she's miserable and dies miserable.


My wife and I had a big knock down drag out fight over her one day, not long after that and she was like look I've been there with guys before and I know how you feel, just admit that you hate her and move on lol. And shew as right. I hate the *****. Once I accecpted the fact that I hated her, in the future when she tried to reconnect I didn't try to talk to her under false pretences of "being grown up and putting the past behind me". I just blocked her email address lol.



anyway, stay away.

 

[Robert28]

You didn't do good **** what these other dudes are telling yhou lol. Your game wasn't so much bad but you know this chick is toxic for you and you took the bait. You know better you're right.


Really though this is going to happen. Like the girl that brought me here, for years, the only thing I thought about. .when working my ass off, when in the gym busting it, when running wind sprints, when gaming other chicks even honestly, was 1. some scenario where she looked at me differently and after that 2. the look on her face once she realized what she passed up.


So even when I was honestly over her, I hadn't yet moved on. Almost instinctivly whenever I'm in little rock... PERFECT EXAMPLE when I met my now wife and she was pregnant and it was time to introduce her to my family for the first time, I found some bull**** ass reason to have to run into her, for really no other reason than to show off "yeah ***** look now" lol.


I understand where you're coming from. It's not even about wanting to **** her. Once I got with my wife I really did not want any part of the girl. But this girl brought so much agony and pain to my life I wanted to show her what I made of myself. Kinda like an abused child going back to his dad after years who beat the **** out of him to show him what he made himself into kinda.


But I'm over it now. You know what, **** that lol. no i'm not. let me stop lying. I'm ont over it. I hope her husband gets ebola of the **** and she dies a slow miserable death if you want me to be honest. I hope she's miserable and dies miserable.


My wife and I had a big knock down drag out fight over her one day, not long after that and she was like look I've been there with guys before and I know how you feel, just admit that you hate her and move on lol. And shew as right. I hate the *****. Once I accecpted the fact that I hated her, in the future when she tried to reconnect I didn't try to talk to her under false pretences of "being grown up and putting the past behind me". I just blocked her email address lol.



anyway, stay away.

To be honest, I really hadn't thought about her in the past 8 or 9 years. Hell, she's probably been in town 5,000 times and I didn't know it, it never crossed my mind....until today. I happen to be on facebook, saw where she was in town and that's when all these stupid ideas started popping in my head. Her and I aren't even friends on facebook. I wouldn't add her *** anyways even if she sent me a friend request, but she never has. I figured she would today after I emailed her but nope she didn't. I think what sucked the most is not the getting rejected (yeah, maybe next time she's in town we can hangout like she said. suuuuure.lol) it was her ho-hum attitude. I mean an old friend contacts you out of the blue and is all like "hey!" and she's like "oh, hey." Didn't ask me any questions like "so how've you been? What are you doing now?" Godd@mn women.lol I like to think she secretly knows I've turned out for the better and she just doesn't want to have that sh!t rubbed in her face. That's what I told myself anyways.haha

 

[Trump]

Come on bro don't be so dramatic. Your email was a title too happy but just reply "That's too bad. take care."

 

[backbreaker]

i don't think about my old oneitis either. what you experienced is a trigger. you knowing she was in town triggered your feelings of revenge.


now reading this thread i think about my oneitis and say **** her lol. but i don't go around thinking about her everyday at all. only time she ever crosses my mind is when i'm watching a local news program (She's a news broadcaster back home) or when i'm in little rock.

you need her approval, her validation. it's not the sex. younger guys here won't understand that. you want her to know she missed out on a good thing. if you made your way to this website you were hurt that bad, stuff like this is going to happen.


there are just certain people i have to stay away from. she's one of them. she will try to call me next tuesday on my birthday and i won't pick up the phone. I can handle myself around her, but i refuse to even go down that path today. it is what it is, she treated me like utter ****, i learned from it, i have a pretty good life, i hope she dies of ebola. not really but she's 30 with no kids and i kinda snicker whenever i see her and she's visually aging. but i don't honestly want her to die or anything.

 

[TheGambino]

You shouldn't care at all bro. It's about your ego and remember in gaming women and approaching you can't let your ego get in your way. It's always better to take the best shot then regretting a missed upportunity. You felt like seeing this old oneitis right. She didnt take the bait, well f8ck it you can't worry about that, you have to pull of stuff like this to get with the girls you want just don't get attached, spin plates and keep your options open always.

Don't let this girl affect your mood man she a single mother with a kid trouble anyway, go on with approaching chicks, laugh it off. Only then you can reach the state of approaching and gaming without fear of rejection.

Forget about your ego, just minimize the chance getting rejected.