Lying about your age.

[district_line]

So I totally understand this section is for 25 and up but I think my situation is an exception.

I was at a bar, met this hb8/9 and got the number but lied about my age after finding out she was 27 and said I was 27. I'm 22.

We went out for drinks later the next week and things went great. Still didn't tell her about the age.

After that, did some great 'intrigue' stuff with text messages and she wants me to go with her to a concert this sunday.

I'm thinking I def. have to tell her then. BUT, how, when? At the end of the night, before the end?
Will it be as big a deal as I think it is?

 

[amoka]

Did you tell her you are 27 or she assumed you are 27... If you did not tell her, then there is nothing to worry about. I supposed you acted mature enough in her presence so I'll just go to the concert with her without any problem.

 

[John-467]

Dude stop taking it sooo seriously my gawd.

If you told the bytch you waz 27 then fvck it...if she find out you 22 who really gives a fvck?

She's loves ur sorry azz, what is she going to say "Oh my, don't give me the time of my life b/c you lied about ur age?"

Hahah, you guys just need to stop reading Strup's posts and just go and chill with some chicks...just go chill with chicks and learn for yourself...you'll see why 99% of this shyt on this site is bullshyt.

 

[MacAvoy]

I've done this before and I had to keep up the lie for about 4 months until my bday. By that point she deeply cared about me and age didn't matter. There's a good chance she'll dump you this early in the relationship for lying.

So the choice is yours.

 

[SamePendo]

Tell her you're 15.

I always do.

People treat you differently if they know you have a bmw or a 97 fvcked up vw.

People have pre-convieved ideas about what people certain age are.

So you just say you're 15, skip what could have been a filter (or not), and tell her to go and make you a sandwich.

 

[Dongfu]

Age doesnt matter if your maturity level and skils are online. No need to lie. I know plenty of early 20's guys hooking up with late 20's girls.

 

[MacAvoy]

Age doesnt matter if your maturity level and skils are online. No need to lie. I know plenty of early 20's guys hooking up with late 20's girls.

Your advice is horrible. He's already lied, he needs advice how to fix it. Granted he shouldn't have lied in the first place. However that doesn't help him in this instance. I'm sure he's learnt his lesson for the future.

 

[miba]

Its posts like these that make me question the DJ-ness of many of these posters.

Who the fvck cares about age? Don't be such a fvcking pvssy. You think you're gonna marry this girl? When's the conversation ever gonna come up again?

Stop being such a whiney little b1tch and go fvck this girl.

 

[district_line]

Great advice. so, actually, I blatantly lied about my age and said i was 27 only because I knew she was older after her mentioning grad school and being a lawyer.

But, I ended up going to the show w/ her, had a great time in general, hooked up w/ her in my car a couple times, then confessed. She said it was cool but she emailed me a couple days later saying we should just be friends. The only thing I could think of was playing it off 'ultra-cool' so i wrote something like "if you're not feeling it, it's really no big deal, i think you're cool and fun so lets just leave it at that. " Haven't talked to her since and could care less. Plus, i thought it was strange when she mentioned her ovarian cyst the second night I saw her. Weird.

PS
I totally realize this post displays AFC qualities but I'd like to think of this chick as a catalyst for the beginning of my progression as a DJ.

PPS
check out the Mathematicians - great music, even better live show.

 

[SamePendo]

. . . then confessed. She said it was cool but she emailed me a couple days later saying we should just be friends.

I speak from experience. The post I made avoids what you went through. I basically use it as an answer to many questions. Sometimes people break out of the trance and say "You know, I've known you for some time now, I know you, and I like you a lot, . . . but I don't know anything about you!" That or some slight variation of that.

People have preconceived ideas about what people certain age are. And about what certain characteristics mean. That characteristic being your age, your car, your major, your nationality, whatever. It's some sort of filter they people automatically make. Once you skip those (plural) filters and are on the other side (maybe you allready boinked her, if that was your purpose), you can finally answer the question with a statment, not with some edgy answer.

And, you never lie if you do what I do.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Tell her before the two of you get "serious" if you plan on trying to go beyond a ONS. Right now what you are doing is considered "just as friends." Texting, concerts, spending time together, no harm no foul.

If you are going to get serious you should tell her if there is any way that she could find out on her own or by mistake. This doesn't necessarily mean tell her before the concert but it doesn't mean wait until just before penetration either.

Understand that if she finds out after you "get busy" she could blame you for just wanting to get her goodies. If don't care about the potential fall out, no need to say a word.

 

[meitenesrigas]

How do you know that she isn't 30? My advice is to ask her for ID. You might be surprised.

 

[iqqi]

Lol, that is wack that she nexted you when she liked you, just because of your age. You should've replied to her next with a "your loss".

Go download "jenny don't be hasty" by Paolo Nutini.

 

[spax]

You ruined it by being a pvssy.

 

[PlaysToWin]

Interesting dilemma this. Age shouldn't matter as much as maturity level and 5 years isn't too much.

But if you tell the truth from the start, she might not even consider you and you won't get a chance to show your maturity level and figure out if you guys have something.

On the other hand, if you lie and you guys get along great, she may hold it against you that yo lied and that may throw a spanner in the works.

This case seems to be different still. It seems that while she didn't (openly) hold it against you for lying, she really did have upper and lower limits for the age of guys she dates. Maybe she would be too embarrassed to go to her girlfriends and tell them she's dating a 22yr old - that's the most likely explanation I can think of.

I guess this situation is similar to guys who are 30+ and call themselves 29 (because 3x is the abitrary age which is "too old" for loads of girls) and the single mother who hides the fact that she has a kid to prospective boyfriends to not scare them off.

 

[district_line]

Maybe she would be too embarrassed to go to her girlfriends and tell them she's dating a 22yr old

Yeah, ya know thats the only conclusion I can come to. It would be weird for a 27yo lawyer to go out with a 22yo. Although I have a pretty awesome gig as a graphic designer right out of college. Whatev's.

 

[DonGorgon]

the young want to be older and the old want to be younger...