"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lying about previous relationships?

tigre

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Okay I´ve met this girl in University and I can tell she likes me cause shes always giving me mad EC + she asked me for my number out of nowhere and I gave it to her And asked for her # too. So I called her some days after(this was like 2 months ago) but she told me she was going to argentina for vacations(winter vacations here, summer vacations for you guys in USA) and told me that she was gonna callme when she came back and never did, so I just never called her. Now that class started I saw her yesterday and said hi to her. guess what happened? she called me in the afternoon and we talked for a while like 5 mins. and she told me that we should do something tommorow(today). This girls interest level is high but I know that once were in the date she will star asking me questions about my previous relationships and stuff, the thing is that Ive never had a serious relationship beforeI know its lame,but thats the past and Im changing anyways, Im done being an AFC), I just fooled around with about 5 girls(I know its lame,but thats the past and Im changing anyways, Im done being an AFC). So my question is, what should I tell her?I don´t think I should lie and tell her I was so and so girl´s boyfriend cause I live in a small city and we´re in the same social circle more or less and she could easily catch up with my lie?what should i do?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Desdinova

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Why are you assuming she's going to ask about previous relationships? Keep things fun on your date and she won't give a damn if you fvcked 28 women, or you're still a virgin.

I just fooled around with about 5 girls
If she asks, tell her you've just done some dating, but you haven't found a woman worth spending a long period of time with. That makes you appear in control of your dating life, rather than being an AFC.
 

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Be honest. Don't lie. It will only get you into trouble.

Remember, if you are confident about something then she will be confident also. You have some options here. You could:

1. Lie to her.
2. Tell her you haven't had any previous relationships
3. Turn it around on her

Now you don't want to lie to her. Not only is that uncool, it will make you feel bad and probably mess up your game. You could just tell her the truth and if you're confident about it, she will likely match that feeling. You could say you just never really got into the "dating" thing.

OR you could do the DJ thing and turn it around on her! Like when she asks a question about your previous relationships, you can say "What, you already want to know my dating habits? We barely know each other! Let me guess - next you're going to start asking me what colour I want for the drapes in the dining room." That will not only skirt the issue, it will show that you don't CARE about the fact that you haven't had previous relationships AND it will raise her interest level by making her the "afc" in the conversation. Then when you finally let her know the truth, she will already have a high IL and it won't even matter to her (not that it really did before).

~Sloopy
 

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thanks man, I was also thinking of just ignoring her question by making some C+F comment, but cant think of none cause Im too busy chatting with some friends on msn and listening to music lol. anyone have some witty comeback for a question like that? and should I take her on a date for some coffee or tell her to go to her house to watch DVD´s since her IL is high enough I think I can just skip the **** and be able to make out with her and fool around..
PS. dating ideas such as picnics, hiking, mini golf , bowling etc dont work here since people think those activities are immature and some of them are too dangerous to do here, cause you´ll probably get robbed and its cold outside anyways.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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