Approaches: 27, 28, 29, 30, 31
Friday 11th of May
Blasting away approach anxiety
This was awesome, I felt so alive today, so in control, so energetic.
Since participating the Style Life Challenge, I can tell I have gained a lot more confidence.
Today, the challenge was to approach 5 women and get them to recommend me a clothing store. I have them down briefly here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=123136
But I’ll get into the details in this post, because I love to have a quick breakdown of my interactions to see where I need improvement. Also, I think a few of these quick interactions actually turned out to be a good chat and I reckon I would have build quite a bit of attraction.
So we and my mates headed into town, we ate so much it’s not funny. I felt like crap. But the beauty is, after a few approaches, I felt like the king of the world.
My mates had left, it was around 5:10, and I still hadn’t made an approach. Time to go nuts!
Approach 27:
4 set. (7.5, 7, 7, 7.2ish)
Me: Hey guys, don’t mean to bother you guys, but I need you’re quick help, I need you guys to recommend me a clothing store, just like any clothing store.
Them: Oh sure um let’s see, Jetty Surf? Like that store behind us? (JRs)
Me: Mmm nah, I don’t really like those type of clothes.
Them: What’s this for? Like just casual?
Me: Yeah, it’s all pretty casual, but it’s gotta look real good. I’m an attention wh0re, I want something that really stands out.
Them: Oh Globalize!! Globalize! Try that! That would be more your style.
Me: What? Globalize?
Them: Yeah, it’s an awesome store!
Me: It’s a guy store right? Pft, my style eh? And send me to a chick store?!? Oh I see.
Them: Haha nah, it’s a guy store!
Then the proceeded to give me directions, after that we fluffed about fashion and how the guys in this town are retarded.
Meanwhile, the two at the back, look at each other like I’m a weirdo, because I was already wearing something that stands out, had a Ukulele, and had so much energy that I was running from one set to another. I wasn’t really engaging the two at the back, so I told them that I wasn’t weird, and fluffed about how I like making new friends and the girls at my school are boring as sh!t. And no where near as helpful as they are.
Them: Hey can I have a look at that little guitar?
Me: Yeah sure, just be gentle, it’s my baby.
Them: Giggle, whatever.
She plays around with it, and hands it back, I jam out a song, tell them it’s nice meeting them, and walk away.
Approach 28
Two girls about 20 meters further down, I approach with the same line and I got this:
(8, and a high 7, 7.8ish?)
Them: Um, we don’t really know anything.
Me: None? Off the top of your head? None at all?
Them: Sorry, we’d love to help.
Me: Ahh, the reason why I asked you is because you two look pretty fashion savvy.
Them: Haha, thanks.
Me: That’s an awesome top, can I try it on? What? No? Fine be weird then.
And I left. Hehe.
Approach 29:
Another two girls around the corner, both UGs, but I made sure I obeyed the 3-second rule and made the approach.
Me: Hey guys, I need you help for just a quick sec. Would you be able to recommend me a guys clothing store?
Them: Clothing store?
Me: Yeah.
Them: A recommendation?
Me: Uh huh
Them: We’re waiting for the bus though.
Me: *Just waved them off and left, I had more to do*
I think this was important, because, I guess I wasn’t speaking clearly, most likely too fast, because I felt so damn energetic. They asked me to repeat two main parts of the sentence. Also, they thought I wanted them to take me to the store or something, so I wasn’t communicating well enough.
Approach 30
Two girls at Starbucks, while I was waiting for my coffee.
(7.5 and a 6)
Me: *Same opener*
Them: Giggles* We don’t really know one.
Me: Come on, can’t think of one off the top of your head?
Them: Sorry. I don’t have like a fashionable brother, he dresses ugly.
Me: Haha, ah, that’s ok (I then added the asked you cause your fashion savvy thing)
Them: Laugh, whatever.
Then two emo chicks asked me if I was carrying a ukulele
Me: Sure is, pretty awesome huh?
Them: Can I play with it?
Me: Only if you promise to be gentle and not break it.
Them: Awesome, this is cool.
Me: Sure is, only 25 bucks from Harrison’s.
Them: Can you play something?
Me: Uh huh *Jam out some tunes*
At this point the two other girls could tell I was just a really friendly guy who didn’t mind engaging with strangers.
Emo Chicks: You’re really funny, here do this! (They did some wavy arm thingy, I dunno, but I mimick)
Then they talk a lot, I forget about what, but holy crap they talk a lot.
I look at the first two girls, and asked them to save me.
The emo chicks asked for my name, I told them, and they’re all “OMG his name is X, we know so many guy’s who’s name is X”
Approach 31
3 girls sitting town in front of some store.
(8.2ish, 6, and a 7)
Me: Same opener*
HB6: Have you tried Jetty Surf and like Ripcurl and stuff?
Me: Nah don’t really like that type of clothing.
HB8: Poofter clothes!
Me: Well what do you think then?
Them: Oh Globalize!
Me: Ahh but I’ve already been recommended that, anything else?
Them: Hmm, oh wait I know I know, give me a sec. ( I was body rocking heavily, and they started really getting into it, shouting out store names and being loud as hell)
Them: Mid West Traders!! Go there!
Me: What was that? Mid West Traders? Where’s that?
They give me directions to it, then recommend me Dangerfield, and give directions for that.
Me: Thanks a lot guys, you guys are fvcking awesome. By the way (To HB8), that’s an awesome shirt, it looks just like my tiger rug. Rawrr. (It was some spotty tiger shirt).
After that I met a whole bunch of my mates, some of my chick friends, and a lot of AMOGS with them that I didn’t know.
I found my mates and they were watching this fat weird guy in the middle of the mall swatting invisible flies and talking to himself. So I went up to him, screamed out how much I loved him, and blew him like a gazillion kisses. The whole mall looked at me, awesome.
I stole the frame plenty of times, had one AMOG beg me to try and buy him some cigarettes, was really friendly with most guys, and even comment on this hardcore gangsta black guy’s hat, when I was alone and he had like his whole crew around. Hehe, good fun. I did all of this in like half an hour, because I had a bus to catch at 5:40.
Something has happened, this Style Life Challenge is definitely beneficial, I am loving it. I feel like the WHOLE WORLD IS MY FRIEND. I felt so good inside.
Results:
Nothing, except a sh!tload of social proof and confidence, and blasting away my approach anxiety, even when I didn’t make that many approaches.