Alright fellas need some opinions on this one. So I've been dating this girl exclusively for about 6 weeks or so. Things are going well, we have alot of fun when were together. Been intimate with her 4 times. I would classify this girl as a good girl. She recently told me she had a really good feeling about me and valentines day's was the best she ever had. She told me everytime we hangout I say something or do something that surprises her and she learns a little more about me.
So last night when we were hanging out she told me her ex called her and asked her out to lunch. She said she wanted to know how I felt and she wanted to tell me and get my opinon out of respect for me. So I told her to go lunch. I said you don't have to ask permission from me, your a grown up. I then told her I trust you. I then told her I can't control the way people feel ( to make her think that I might have some doubt about her). She asks me do you talk to any of your ex's. I said they text me once in a while, but no I don't. She then asks me what is the name of my ex. I then proceed to tell her that I don't get involved in triangles (advice i read from this board recently), ex boyfriends etc's and if it exists im going to walk away. Her response thats good. So we hangout through the night and we get intimate and during it she ask do you care for me?
Analysis on this please
1. The lunch thing yeah it bothers me a little that she would consider going out to lunch with her ex. I think I did the right thing by telling her to go because it shows that i am secure and confident in myself (even though a little self doubt exists with it). Secondly, human nature tells me if I would of got upset and got in a frenzy and forbid her she would of been more drawn to do it even more.
2. Reaction to my triangle statement? What do you guys think she is thinking when I said that? How would you guys of handled it?
3. My next step, I feel is to withdraw a little bit make her initiate and invest more? Don't call her text her make her initiate. Play a little hard to get make her think my interest has dropped a bit on her.???
So last night when we were hanging out she told me her ex called her and asked her out to lunch. She said she wanted to know how I felt and she wanted to tell me and get my opinon out of respect for me. So I told her to go lunch. I said you don't have to ask permission from me, your a grown up. I then told her I trust you. I then told her I can't control the way people feel ( to make her think that I might have some doubt about her). She asks me do you talk to any of your ex's. I said they text me once in a while, but no I don't. She then asks me what is the name of my ex. I then proceed to tell her that I don't get involved in triangles (advice i read from this board recently), ex boyfriends etc's and if it exists im going to walk away. Her response thats good. So we hangout through the night and we get intimate and during it she ask do you care for me?
Analysis on this please
1. The lunch thing yeah it bothers me a little that she would consider going out to lunch with her ex. I think I did the right thing by telling her to go because it shows that i am secure and confident in myself (even though a little self doubt exists with it). Secondly, human nature tells me if I would of got upset and got in a frenzy and forbid her she would of been more drawn to do it even more.
2. Reaction to my triangle statement? What do you guys think she is thinking when I said that? How would you guys of handled it?
3. My next step, I feel is to withdraw a little bit make her initiate and invest more? Don't call her text her make her initiate. Play a little hard to get make her think my interest has dropped a bit on her.???
