"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lunch time.

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Seeing as lunch seems to be the only time I can really approach girls, I'm interested in knowing ways I can approach girls at lunch. You see, at lunch, I basically just eat my food, and either just sit there, or go to the library to use the computer or something. But the thing is, is that I don't want to waste my time surfing the net, or something during lunch, when I could be talking to girls. So I basically want to know how I can approach girls during lunch, who are usually, either eating or socializing with their friends. Seeing as these are girls that I don't know, I also want to know what a good opener for the situation would be.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like you need confidence, and getting good at it first.

So, forget them for a bit.

Go out with your friends and pick up some women off the street, at the beach etc...

Also, it sounds like you aren't what typical guys would call "cool".

Me, and my mates, being the total loud pr!cks we are usually make fun of the people that go into the computer room and stuff during lunch. We are the guys that run around play rugby and talk to women. My advice? Befriend a few guys like us too.

The more you do, the more confidence you build inside, and the better you get at this.

Then, when you don't see the girls as that much meaning, you'll probably attract her without even trying anyway.

But, seriously, forget school. Go out and sarge!
 

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Lust said:
Sounds like you need confidence, and getting good at it first.

So, forget them for a bit.

Go out with your friends and pick up some women off the street, at the beach etc...

Also, it sounds like you aren't what typical guys would call "cool".

Me, and my mates, being the total loud pr!cks we are usually make fun of the people that go into the computer room and stuff during lunch. We are the guys that run around play rugby and talk to women. My advice? Befriend a few guys like us too.

The more you do, the more confidence you build inside, and the better you get at this.

Then, when you don't see the girls as that much meaning, you'll probably attract her without even trying anyway.

But, seriously, forget school. Go out and sarge!
Don't think of this as an excuse or anything, but school's pretty much the only place I can sarge since I have a busy schedule, and I don't really have any friends that I could get a ride with. As for the streets, well, there aren't a lot of girls my age in this neighborhood. I could always go to more populated streets, but I don't have anyone who could ride me.
 

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Nah i know what you mean, but do your best anyway.

There are practically no one to sarge with here in my city, its a pretty small city for a capitol city. All my friends are complete AFCs, but thats why i want to get them into the community.

I've been talking and interacting with women while i've been out with them, then they would ask how i am so good and voila, they get introduced into the community.

They know enough now, to go sarging with.

By the way, how old are you?

Oh and don't forget, try and befriend some "cool" guys, or even better, some naturals.
 

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Lust said:
Nah i know what you mean, but do your best anyway.

There are practically no one to sarge with here in my city, its a pretty small city for a capitol city. All my friends are complete AFCs, but thats why i want to get them into the community.

I've been talking and interacting with women while i've been out with them, then they would ask how i am so good and voila, they get introduced into the community.

They know enough now, to go sarging with.

By the way, how old are you?

Oh and don't forget, try and befriend some "cool" guys, or even better, some naturals.
I'm 16, 17 very soon.

As for naturals, I don't think we have any here. I'm not even sure if we have any real DJs here.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Confidence you have the same problem on every thread you write. You say you want to learn how to approach, people tell you, and you make excuses not to. Just accept that if your going to go anywhere in life you're gona have to get out of your comfort zone. Next lunch just sit at a table with some people and join the conversation. You might get shut down by an AMOG but hey, I would rather try to be social and fail than simply fail by running off to the computer room and be labled as a loser by your peers.

It's hard to get popular, but it's not hard to be liked. Just get yourself known as the kid who made an effort. Just whatever you do, don't try to hard to be funny. Leave the stand up to the pros.

You're not going to get any confidence from not trying. Simply go out there, fail, shake it off, and try again. I suggest you don't ask another one of these questions until you've made some sort of effort.
 

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Confidence you have the same problem on every thread you write. You say you want to learn how to approach, people tell you, and you make excuses not to. Just accept that if your going to go anywhere in life you're gona have to get out of your comfort zone. Next lunch just sit at a table with some people and join the conversation. You might get shut down by an AMOG but hey, I would rather try to be social and fail than simply fail by running off to the computer room and be labled as a loser by your peers.

It's hard to get popular, but it's not hard to be liked. Just get yourself known as the kid who made an effort. Just whatever you do, don't try to hard to be funny. Leave the stand up to the pros.

You're not going to get any confidence from not trying. Simply go out there, fail, shake it off, and try again. I suggest you don't ask another one of these questions until you've made some sort of effort.
I admit I do make excuses, but I didn't this time. I REALLY have no way to get a ride to the mall or somewhere I could approach chicks out of school. And yeah, I am busy, I have wrestling from 3:00-6:00 every weekday, and sometimes I have tournaments over the weekend that last literally ALL day, not to mention I have Jazz Band from 6:30-8:30 on Wednesday.
 

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So you're telling me you never leave your house?


You don't have to specifically go out to sarge. There are pretty girls everywhere.
 

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TheNewGuy said:
So you're telling me you never leave your house?


You don't have to specifically go out to sarge. There are pretty girls everywhere.
No.

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wrestling isn't a year long sport last time i checked
And I never said it was.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So do you're lunch thing. This question shouldn't be asked cause you already know the answer. If you want a bunch of pick up lines or something, I'll save you some time. Just go up and stand there creeping the girl out without saying anything, cause that's basically the same response you'll get with a short cheesy and certainly forced pick up line that you wont be able to follow up with any conversation.

The answer is simple. I'm trying to save you some time. The answer to every thread you've made and every thread you intend to make is the same... Find a girl, approach, learn from your mistakes, repeat
 

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You'r in a Jazz band right? Unless you suck badly, pass out a CD or two and ask people what they think. Lame but it can work and easy too.
 

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I'm not answering this post to help you Viper, i'm answering this post for someone else who might need the help and USE it.

Basically at lunch, you see a kid your friends with, or at least talk to sitting at a table with some girls, u use the friend as a ticket to sit at that table..start talking to the friend, work your way to start talking to the girl.
 

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1) Walk over to someone
2) say something

WTF? Are you retarded?
 
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