LTR - What is better not to ask/know? | Page 2

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

devilkingx2

Master Don Juan

Sep 29, 2022

You probably don't want to know anything that cannot be changed, that you would judge her for, which isn't affecting the relationship.

For example if your relationship is very happy, and you don't know her body count, you probably shouldn't even bother to ask.

If you've seen no signs of disloyalty from her, you probably shouldn't ask her about if she's ever cheated.

Personally I'd love to hear crazy sex stories, as long as it doesn't mean she's cheating on me or holding back all the fun stuff from me.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.