LTR wants us for life - advice welcome

[Lion]

Hi, me and my girl have been together for 2 years now. She's a good person and very attentive, intelligent and sweet. Lately I have been feeling strongly about myself and how I can live my life.

I feel that I am able to be single, without needing anyone.

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I live with my elders and they are most important to me, then my career.

My career has not been a smooth ride and recently I was laid off. Now I am looking to get a good job and back on track, working harder than ever.
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My girl came round to tell me how much she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, marriage, family and how I am the 1.

This was a very beautiful thing to hear but she was asking me how I felt.

I feel that I am too young (both 24) to feel the same way but I do care very much about her. We love each other. She confessed she wants to see me more often and she is worried I will get bored of her.

I feel that I only need to see her a few times a week, sometimes we only see each other once a week - I don't mind but she finds this very difficult.

Tomorrow we are doing something fun together, I told her to go home today.
We both shed some tears.

I feel like if we decide to part, I will lose someone very special, but if we continue she will always doubt my feelings for her, need reassurance.



P.S. This may be well placed in the Mature Man section.

Thanks

 

[Igetit!]

This is a tough situation to be in. I don't really understand what kind of advice you expected to get. Most guys here would just tell you that you shouldn't be in a LTR to begin with. Imo,all you can do is be honest with her and tell her you think that the two of you are too young to be moving too fast. As far as her wanting to see you more often,this one is more tricky. It's tricky because the way things are RIGHT NOW with the two of you is what has her interest level in you so high. The things you're doing right now with her is why she can't wait to see you. She said that she's worried that you might get bored of her,but if you listen to her and start seeing her too often,then she's the one who might start to get bored of you. To me,if it ain't broke,don't fix it.

 

[Lion]

Yeah I guess its just good to get it typed out.

Sometimes I feel like I want someone better looking, she has potential to look amazing but doesn't have the same attitude as me to her diet and exercise, though she has improved a lot since we started dating.

She looks beautiful up close, when she looks at me. I feel like I can do better, am I :crazy: ?

Its my only LTR and my curiosity to see what other girls can do is stronger at times like this. Sometimes she gets unecessarily jealous, and this is what pushes me away.