"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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LTR wants to wait to have sex

Supremo

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Hey guys,
I'm to the point now where I can give good advice on getting girls and feel like I have been on this site for a while now.
Right now I'm in a LTR with this girl and we've been together for a little over 2 months now.
Quick background: we're both virgins. She and I aren't unexperienced with everything else but both of us have wanted to wait to lose our virginity until we find someone who isn't just some random hookup.
We've talked about having sex twice now, most recently we decided it'd be best for her to be on birth control before we do. And it wasn't weird talking about it either, we're totally comfortable with each other, talking and hooking up.

The only problem is, she says she wants to wait. I DON'T want to rush anything because I really like this girl and she definitely likes me back, so don't say anything like "just put a condom on and shove it in."

I told her (what I honestly believe) that in a LTR when people have sex it brings them closer together and she's the first girl who I've really felt totally comfortable with losing my virginity to. When I said that, she agreed but said she didn't want to rush things and that we should wait for a bit.

Like I said I'm not just looking for a quick lay, this is my first time and I want it to be something I don't regret losing. But I feel ready and she obviously wants to wait.


Any ideas?
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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KarmaSutra

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Wait then, but not forever. She will eventually need to put out or go out. This is not being an egotistical or superficial man in any regard. But you need to set a perameter of time in which you guys will commit to each other sexually.

Don't let these guys bullsh!t you into thinking: "More pvssy is what the goal of man is." That's garbage. If you feel like waiting a bit and making it a special event in your life then by all means do it. You are more of a man than most here for making a decision for YOUR life which YOU'RE comfortable with.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Wait then, but not forever. She will eventually need to put out or go out. This is not being an egotistical or superficial man in any regard. But you need to set a perameter of time in which you guys will commit to each other sexually.

Don't let these guys bullsh!t you into thinking: "More pvssy is what the goal of man is." That's garbage. If you feel like waiting a bit and making it a special event in your life then by all means do it. You are more of a man than most here for making a decision for YOUR life which YOU'RE comfortable with.
Thanks a lot man.
Being that this is the first relationship I've felt comfortable enough losing my virginity in, I don't really know how to set this "sexual parameter" without seeming too pushy. I told her that I respect her decision to wait and don't want it to happen if she isn't comfortable either.
It seems like if I say, "we should do it by xxx" then when that time does happen it could end up weird.
In no way am I trying to manipulate her into giving up her virginity before she is ready, and for sure I want it to be special for my first time. It just sucks I guess because I feel like I am ready and she isn't.
But KarmaSutra, mad respect for understanding my wanting to wait. Most people on here would just automatically tell me to next her for one of the high school sluts.
 

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Young brother, you and you alone, can determine how long you're willing to set aside your time in order to begin every boy-man's initiation process.

I'm not in any way saying you aren't a man. Quite the contrary, you seem to get it while most of the guys here just do vogue like monkey poses and play the part.

Wait as long as you're willing but do not push your patience threshold or your desire will turn to regret.

I have my eye on you Private Supremo.
 
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