LTR tip

[judoguy]

Hey I have just proven something to myself in the real world that we have all known for a while.

After about the 6 month mark you must really up your game to keep the chick from getting bored, that is if your not already bored yourself.

Every once in a while I try and seperate myself using the excuse that I am busy and back off on the attention for a while. I have always known that it works but it has been proven to me in an extreme case recently.

This week has been extremely busy for me. Where as me and my g/f used to talk every day for at least 20-30 minutes at a time.. this week it has been about twice for about 15 minutes and every time I have been preoccupied to say the least. Most people would think that this would have a bad effect and she would think that I was ignoring her; however, the opposite is true. Though she complained and whined about it when I had to tell her I was too busy to talk, it upped her interest level through the roof !

When I finally got around to talking to her she was going nuts saying how much she missed me and couldnt wait to .....well... you know

haha

this just goes to show fellas that sometimes you need to back off and show that you have your own life and she is just a part of it.....

Although she will complain and try naturally to control you and act like that if you do not talk to her she will be mad and yadda yadda.... HOLD STRONG THIS IS JUST A TEST !!! YOU RUN THE ****, NOT HER !




I wouldnt advise doing this too much but every so often is perfect.

 

[KontrollerX]

Good stuff man.

Another great thing is what Rollo Tomassi often posts and that is a healthy tension is always good to have in an LTR.

Specifically the type that shows your significant other that you are a desireable man to other women such as keeping yourself in top shape mentally and physically, always leading in the relationship as much as possible ie you have the majority of the ideas for places to go and things to do and whether you're in a LTR or even married to a chick its important to live your own life and not be totally dependant on her for your happiness.

 

[judoguy]

Exactly ! That is the key to a succesful LTR.

I want to make this clear to anyone who is new around here. Just because you read all this stuff about not showing too much attention and acting busy for a week doesen't mean you need to do this all the time. Ltr is a whole different beast.

How would you feel if your woman always ignored you trying to make her more attractive to you?

When you first start seeing a chick its one thing, but you must also show attention and caring to keep the relationship going and to make her feel loved.

If the girl is lucky enough to be in an LTR with you, she should be worthy of your attention and affection. NOt too much though or they will get spoiled and expect it all the time.

Balance is the key to an LTR in my opinion.

Just my $0.02

 

[DonGorgon]

LOL...wow so what do you do at the 3 year mark...