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sexy_kuta

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well i would like to see you guy's opinion and experiences and advice.

im on my second girl (LTR) and everything seems weird to me.. my first girl was an AW wh0re so i gained No experience there.. the whole thing lasted like a month so this is new to me.

i met this girl like a month ago.. i observed her VERy closely.. we been on like 2 dates and like 2-3 hang outs..

furthest i have gone was made out ( she wanted to fuk me but she was tipsy, didnt wanna take advantage of her)

so yea everything has been going good.. taking it slow over the month and half period..

but justed like a couple days ago.. she has been acting wierd.. showing Low interest level or something.. she stopped calling. so i called her after two days just to talk to her for 5 min to see how she was doing (she was in the hopsital a few days before for hitting her knee) i tried to let her go around 10 min but she refused she said she hasnt talked to me in a while.. (im thinking why didnt u call me like u did before, used to call me all the time) so i talked to her for 20 min total..

today i talked to her and she hardly talked.. so i told her i had to goo..

does this happen when developing a LTR? i met her end of may and we started dating like a week after that.. so i guess we are close to the 2 month mark..

quick notes

-shes two years older than me

-she had or has VERy High interest level and thats a fact..

-no mind games that i have seen.

-shes honest (called her out on something)

-shes LTR material to me

i'll be honest that im falling for this girl but im holding my emotions. she got soo much confidence and shiit and I just want her! it turns me on
i dont show her that im needy

and I made it clear in the beginning that i dont take any disrespect and shes fully aware of that.


What should i do with this girl.. just lay back and let her come to me in a few days? we mostly talked everyday so going from every day to like every 2 days is wierd to me..

thanks in advance guys
 
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edit;

after i told her i had to go tonight, she called me 20 min later..

so maybe im over reacting alittle.. or maybe it was a test on me.. im not sure

i really havnt notice any test she gave me... maybe she did and i havnt notice them.. this could have been the first

its just its all new to me.. i never experience these things. the only thing i know are games which my ex plays so im good to find em out if shes playin them..

so i guess i just take it slow... and keep doign what im doing.. hopefully this will last over two months..

we gonna go on our third date this weekend... yes third date just over a month and half
 

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Ha, congrats you just met your first secure girl. The bad news is, now you have oneitis for her. This happend to me first year of college when I met what I thought was the girl of my dreams. She was so lively, fun to be around, and so secure of herself. And to tell you the truth, she did make me happy. It seems like her interest is pretty high for you if she's calling you back after talking to her. Just make sure you keep her on the "leash" and don't let her get to you too much. Confident women are best at finding YOUR weaknesses. Don't let her find them.

So stop posting questions on this forum about her, shake yourself out of it and instill some confidence in yourself. You're in control here. No need to ask others if you are. Best of luck :)
 

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I think there is a difficult line to draw between being a gentleman and being a coward in a woman's eyes. It's a distinction i'm grappling with at the moment.

Your whole taking it slow thing is probably not going to pan out how you would like. She will be come impatient with the fact you won't man up and steadily lose interest.
 

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well im started to move up the process.. in the beginning i wanted to take it slow because she came out of relationship 2 months before i met her so thats why and with me.. if i rush into things. THEy nEver turn out good.

but yeh we just talked and its back to square one i guess

i'll admit i have oneitis but not a bad case of it.. most of the time i'd be like " im in control" and i would act confident but i would slip
so your right WC2

i should stop makin threads and man up.. i gott this girl on the leash and i should continue to do what i am doing..

the hardest part is too not slip.. to hide ur weak side.. so hard to maintain..

but she is good though confident.. good to talk and funny too.

i'd give her a 8.5 when shes all dressed up

but thanks guys.. my confidence just boosted up when she called Lol.. tells me im in control still.
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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