"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LTR Problem

SearchnSeek

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My Background been afc since the beginning of this relationship, so i kinda messed it up since the begining , anyway we´ve been together for 3 months , and i would usually spend too much time with her , i work from home and kinda live alone , so she would just come and spend some days with me and sleep over, she´s a college student wich moved out of town and living in a frat. Anyway college break she went home for two weeks , i was speaking today with her on the msn she start´s me showing some crap of a friend of her hitting on her and telling her she´s special and would love to know her better, my reply was ohh yeah one more for the fan club , someday ill start to be jealous. Anyway i keept thinking of that and asked her why she just showed me that whats the point , wich she replyed Why does it bother you?
I just insisted Whats the point of showing me that wich se said she likes to tell me everything and after that says i never tell her anything?
i was like wtf your talking about , what im supoosed to tell ? what are you talking about thats so vague...
she goes mute
I phone her and again ask her what she meant with that , she says she has nothing to tell me, and if i dont get it its my problem , i say something like come on make some sense i have no clue what your reffering too, she just says Leave me Alone, stop bothering me .
I Just said goodbye and minutes after sent a sms telling that what she said hurted me.

Yeah i know im a afc... this was a wake up call , im planing to not say nothing and wait. Dont Care anymore
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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woods

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I'd turn the tables and ask her why shes so insecure as to try to make you jealous.

Or, maybe its psycho-chick lingo that you need to open up to her more.

Or... Chicks have been known to do stuff like that as a precurser to infidelity or a breakup. I dont know if its a subconcious thing, or if they get off on it. Or maybe they do it to get a negative reaction out of the guy, so they have an excuse to cheat/breakup.
 

Wyldfire

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She was trying to make you jealous because she believed it would cause you to give her more attention. She wants you to know that other men find her desirable and she has other options. The reason for her laying this out for you is that she is trying to elicit a reaction...most likely for you to work harder to keep her. This is a very cruel and mean game some people will play...and it's very hurtful.

There are far better girls out there than this one...
 
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Wyldfire said:
She was trying to make you jealous because she believed it would cause you to give her more attention. She wants you to know that other men find her desirable and she has other options. The reason for her laying this out for you is that she is trying to elicit a reaction...most likely for you to work harder to keep her. This is a very cruel and mean game some people will play...and it's very hurtful.

There are far better girls out there than this one...
Yes, Wyld woman,errrrrrrrrrrrrrr, fire, has it! It is a way of giving you a chance to affirm or reaffirm her meaning and desirability to you!! I wouldn't label it cruel, but it is self-serving!
 
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