Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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LTR or Freedom?

LTR or Single?

  • LTR

    Votes: 5 50.0%
  • Single

    Votes: 5 50.0%

  • Total voters
    10
  • Poll closed .

DonJuanit0

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I was wondering, let's say someone could choose between having a LTR or random chicks to f*ck w/e he want, like fbuddies, or simply both!

What do you guys would go for?

LTR has it's benefits:
There is someone who cares for you
You can have sex w/e you want
You can go out with her and have things to say
Pays for you sometimes (at least in my LTR we buy each others drinks everyother date)
Be more emotional with her
Argue (which is a bittersweet thing when it's happening)
And other staff that I can't think of right now!

Being Single:
Sex with different chicks without cheating on someone
Be able to do w/e you want w/e you want, like watch a football game with your friends
FREEDOM in other words, can't think other things that can be best be described as Freedom!

So, what are you guys would want to have and why?

I am in a LTR with a good girl and staff, but feeling a little bored from the whole concept of this LTR, so I was thinking about it... Which is best?!?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SandHawk

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I voted 'single' for the moment. I enjoy my single life and spinning plates, having loads of sex and do things the way I want them to happen.

However, I don't see myself being single the rest of my life. As all human beings, even DJs eventually end up in an LTR. However, I refuse to settle for a girl that is unworthy, and at the moment, none of the girls I'm currently seeing is LTR worthy material. They're awesome in bed, have a love for sucking d*ck and seem to be totally in to me. So until that right woman comes a long, I stick to being single!
 

jonwon

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DonJuanit0 said:
I was wondering, let's say someone could choose between having a LTR or random chicks to f*ck w/e he want, like fbuddies, or simply both!

What do you guys would go for?

LTR has it's benefits:
There is someone who cares for you
You can have sex w/e you want
You can go out with her and have things to say
Pays for you sometimes (at least in my LTR we buy each others drinks everyother date)
Be more emotional with her
Argue (which is a bittersweet thing when it's happening)
And other staff that I can't think of right now!

Being Single:
Sex with different chicks without cheating on someone
Be able to do w/e you want w/e you want, like watch a football game with your friends
FREEDOM in other words, can't think other things that can be best be described as Freedom!

So, what are you guys would want to have and why?

I am in a LTR with a good girl and staff, but feeling a little bored from the whole concept of this LTR, so I was thinking about it... Which is best?!?
I cant see why you cant have both - If your dating a girl where you cant go out with your mates when you want or watch football when you like, your with the wrong girl, or your game needs more work.

I'm in a LTR and I can do as I please.

You can even have FB -

Get the best of both words, cheating on her or any chick doesn't bother me.
 

Ronnie Poleman

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This is age-dependent. Now at 19, I want to be single and have fun, no strings attached. When I'm older, I'll have an LTR and enter that lifelong LTR called marriage in my mid to late 20s.
 

mikeyb

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Ronnie Poleman said:
This is age-dependent. Now at 19, I want to be single and have fun, no strings attached. When I'm older, I'll have an LTR and enter that lifelong LTR called marriage in my mid to late 20s.
Exactly. It takes time and experience to find a good LTR.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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zekko

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Ronnie Poleman said:
This is age-dependent. Now at 19, I want to be single and have fun, no strings attached. When I'm older, I'll have an LTR and enter that lifelong LTR called marriage in my mid to late 20s.
Yeah, I agree, this is largely age dependent. I'm actually surprised LTR has as many votes as it does. Since this forum is mostly younger guys, I'd expect them to pick single. And a lot of the older guys here are living out their fantasies from when they were younger :)

Anyway, I picked LTR, just because I like having a partner in life. Someone to help shoulder the load as it were. I also like it that a girl will devote their lives to me (in a manner of speaking).

If the poll had been MARRIED vs. single, I might have voted differently. When you talk about marriage in your mid to late 20s, I actually think that may be a little early. I waited to get married until I was about 33. At the time I thought it was about the perfect age for it, but I don't know, maybe I didn't wait long enough.
 
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