"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LTR: My gf's best friend is a c***

bootlegger

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How do i deal with this. She's a fat, ugly HB4.

She's annoying, and lonely. When my gf hangs out with her, she makes my gf feel like I'm a d-bag, and that I'm trying to keep her from hanging out with her friends.

I've ingored this for some time now. But My GF THINKS that this girl is actually her friend, when in reality, misery loves company and this ugly bit** is just trying to ruin everyones life around her.

My GF and I have rarely fought, but when we do, this BF gets a call, so she thinks of course, that all we do is fight. But my GF tells her otherwise, but she still acts skeptical, and voices her opinion.

How do I deal with this ugly fat loser?

Continue to ignore?

I never say anything neg about this girl to my GF, I just kinda brush it off, and ask my GF how she's feels about it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rhoto

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bootlegger said:
How do i deal with this. She's a fat, ugly HB4.
Simply - Break up with your girlfriend.


Detail - If your girlfriend is unable to really grasp that her friend is less than tolerable, she needs a wake up call. BUT - you're not the one to do it. You knew what you were getting into, and there isn't much you can do about her friends, or changing people in general.

If her friend is the cancerous sore you've painted her to be, why are you tolerating it? Why are you still around? Is she really that great in the sack? Life is short man.

If you insist on staying then let her know how you feel about her friend, but realize that she was probably friends with her before she was with you, and that it will not be a pleasant discussion.

I strongly suggest you simply call the relationship now and save yourself the headache of the down turn of the relationship. My bet is, you're passing, or have passed the highest point of the relationship.

Spring is around the corner, get some. OH, and if you're savage, break up with her on Valentines day.
 

bootlegger

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This is actually a pretty new problem. She just simply act WEIRD with this girl.

She confessed the other night that the friend said, he is not the guy for you, but if he can prove that he is...then I just want you to be happy.

Whenever this friend is not around, my GF is smitten...but when she is around... I get the covert disrespect.
 

Sir_Turtle

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not much you can do here. YOu can't really make your GF choose between you and the friend because its unlikely they'll just stop being friends.

The only options you have as I see it is to hope that your GF has some common sense and that she will ignore her friends jealousy tinted advice.

Or you can tell your GF that its obvious that either you go or her friend does, and since you couldn't force your GF to choose between the two of you, you gallantly volunteer to make the choice easy and you walk away.
 

bootlegger

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It doesn't really become an issue, until she is with this girl. Then, she stops being so smitten on me.

I tend to overthink things. At one end, I feel that this is a red flag, at the other end, I feel this is no big deal.

I trust my Gf, but I don't like the change in attitude around this ho.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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