"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LTR: My gf's best friend is a c***

bootlegger

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How do i deal with this. She's a fat, ugly HB4.

She's annoying, and lonely. When my gf hangs out with her, she makes my gf feel like I'm a d-bag, and that I'm trying to keep her from hanging out with her friends.

I've ingored this for some time now. But My GF THINKS that this girl is actually her friend, when in reality, misery loves company and this ugly bit** is just trying to ruin everyones life around her.

My GF and I have rarely fought, but when we do, this BF gets a call, so she thinks of course, that all we do is fight. But my GF tells her otherwise, but she still acts skeptical, and voices her opinion.

How do I deal with this ugly fat loser?

Continue to ignore?

I never say anything neg about this girl to my GF, I just kinda brush it off, and ask my GF how she's feels about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Rhoto

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bootlegger said:
How do i deal with this. She's a fat, ugly HB4.
Simply - Break up with your girlfriend.


Detail - If your girlfriend is unable to really grasp that her friend is less than tolerable, she needs a wake up call. BUT - you're not the one to do it. You knew what you were getting into, and there isn't much you can do about her friends, or changing people in general.

If her friend is the cancerous sore you've painted her to be, why are you tolerating it? Why are you still around? Is she really that great in the sack? Life is short man.

If you insist on staying then let her know how you feel about her friend, but realize that she was probably friends with her before she was with you, and that it will not be a pleasant discussion.

I strongly suggest you simply call the relationship now and save yourself the headache of the down turn of the relationship. My bet is, you're passing, or have passed the highest point of the relationship.

Spring is around the corner, get some. OH, and if you're savage, break up with her on Valentines day.
 

bootlegger

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This is actually a pretty new problem. She just simply act WEIRD with this girl.

She confessed the other night that the friend said, he is not the guy for you, but if he can prove that he is...then I just want you to be happy.

Whenever this friend is not around, my GF is smitten...but when she is around... I get the covert disrespect.
 

Sir_Turtle

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not much you can do here. YOu can't really make your GF choose between you and the friend because its unlikely they'll just stop being friends.

The only options you have as I see it is to hope that your GF has some common sense and that she will ignore her friends jealousy tinted advice.

Or you can tell your GF that its obvious that either you go or her friend does, and since you couldn't force your GF to choose between the two of you, you gallantly volunteer to make the choice easy and you walk away.
 

bootlegger

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It doesn't really become an issue, until she is with this girl. Then, she stops being so smitten on me.

I tend to overthink things. At one end, I feel that this is a red flag, at the other end, I feel this is no big deal.

I trust my Gf, but I don't like the change in attitude around this ho.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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