LTR More Sex?

[foomee]

So... my girlfriend and I of about a year since saturday, are not having sex as often. One thing I'm guessing is because she's on a new kind of pill which has been known to lower sex drives. I ask her to change because her sex drive is too low, we do it maybe only five or six times a month now. She doesn't want to change it because she never has a period because of it and she likes that. I don't know how to go about doing this. Another thing is that we spend atleast 5/7 nights a week together, since we go to the same college. That may be the reason why she never wants to do it... but what advice do you guys have? I am contemplating breaking up with her if this continues, but I'd rather fix it.

 

[kdnash82]

Men are different from women. I was the same as you. Spend all of my damn time with my girlfriend and only had sex maybe 3 times a week at best. Then I started to travel a lot because of business. That's when the sex started pouring in.

Bottom line.... See her less. Good luck!

 

[Nighthawk]

There are different types of pill, get your gf to try another type.

I see my gf every day and we're still doing it like bunnies after a year. Try pulling her hair more during sex.

 

[Rastaman]

Are you sure that you not boring in the bedroom...? If she can't sexually satisfy u dere is no future in the relationship, let go!

 

[pressure0354]

id say that pretty much any relationship will have less sex later on than when it started. thats what happened to my girlfriend, the question is do you just like the sex or the women? you would probably say both but sex isnt the only part of the relationship, and if you are actually considering breaking up with this girl because of that, then maybe you didnt like her as much as you thought you did.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Stop seeing her as much, become more of a challenge. Did her loss of sex drive coincide perfectly with the pill or was it a more gradual decrease over time? If it was gradual, it's probably because she's losing interest. You need to rekindle her attraction. If it timed perfectly with the start of the pill - it's probably that.

Does it seem like she's overall not as interested in you as she used to be?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

id say that pretty much any relationship will have less sex later on than when it started. thats what happened to my girlfriend, the question is do you just like the sex or the women?

This is typical. The thing i've found is that if a man isn't getting the amount or quality of sex he want's then he is at fault in two ways.

1. he does not create enough desire for his woman to want him on a regular basis

2. he sits back and allows his woman to shut them off sexually.

you would probably say both but sex isnt the only part of the relationship, and if you are actually considering breaking up with this girl because of that, then maybe you didnt like her as much as you thought you did.

I feel this is dead wrong. Sex is as imoprtant in a relationship as anything else. If a girl is not willing to give you sex when you feel the urge then she doesn't truly care about you.

A girl shutting off sex is like a guy shutting off affection. A real, solid relationship works when both people do things the other person wants even if they don't want too.

Just because you loe someone doesn't mean you have to tolerate them not giving you what you need. This is one reason I think the divorce rate is so high. Men (or woman) will only tolerate their partner not fullfilling their needs for so long.

 

[Latinoman]

Assuming everything else is equal (e.g. career, responsibilities, etc.) and everybody is healthy...

It is obvious that as we age...testosterene levels will decrease. And that goes for both; men and women. The problem here is that women have CONSIDERABLY less testosterene levels than men.

Of course, that shoud NOT be the issue here as she is actually very young and near her prime.
Another thing...the initial lust tend to decrease considerably. That's normal.

And of course...career, school, and other responsibilities to decrease things.

If it was up to me, I would be having sex at least once a day. And I'm a VERY busy man! But takes two to tango.

 

[kyphan]

All you need to know is in the Bible. It's all about the fundamentals. If you're not doing all the fundamental things you're supposed to, then you'll find yourself in a situation like this.