Originally posted by nan3109
Well, heres whats good about my LTR/LDR
1) Phone : She doesnt like to talk on the phone alot unless there is something to talk about. She hates calling when there's nothing to talk about.
2) Instant Messenger: She (and I) like the idea of speaking on the internet messenger instead of using the phone.
3) Once a Week: We'll see each other one the weekends, but I dunno how long that will last. I estimated it would cost 10.50$ of gas to go see her and drive back.
4)Contact: I've been away from her for over a week without phone contact and remained faithful and so has she (as far as she says / acts)
Judging by these points, it doesn't make me feel any better about where the relationship is heading, and here's why.
Although it's good that she won't keep you on the phone for long, it also means less contact between you in what is probably the most personal contact you're going to get for a while. Less contact means drifting apart.
Instant messenger is good, but what type of relationship are you going to have when most of the contact is going to be over the internet? I mean, imagine having a relationship with a girl on this message board. It's not that much different. She will likely be at her dorm and there will be girls (and other guys, most likely) floating around and she can type messages to you while hanging out in person with them, and you wouldn't even know it.
The gas money issue will not be a big deal, but doing it every week for an entire school year will likely take its toll, just like the phone bill, so watch out.
Finally, the whole deal that you've been away for a week before. I'm guessing that that one week you were away was counterbalanced by the rest of the weeks together. To me, this is a little bit misdirected since it's really a different scenario being that this will be much more long term and the effects will be much more prevalent.
Anyways, hate to sound like I'm negative, but I'm really just calling it as I see it. Good luck-
